Mothers who leave their children

I'm so sorry for your's and your children's pain. My daughter did the same thing after 25 years of marriage. She didn't take anything with her, though. Just clothes and her car. She is now homeless, and for the life of me, I can't figure out why she would do such a stupid thing. I love my son in law and am so proud of him the way he has stepped up and taken care of his boys. He's not perfect, but he's doing his best to do the right thing. It is like a death, you will mourn and eventually, you will heal.

My grandchildren were taken from their mother and placed in the custody of her mother and their mother abandoned them and has never been back and has a boyfriend she would rather be with and the grandmother of my grandkids is a control freak and the kids hate it there and there's nothing I can do but I get them every other weekend couple weeks in the summer days on vacation from school and they come here to my house and they have fun and have good times and they know they are loved and my granddaughter who is 16 is already starting college courses... my son lost his custody battle because of finances and the only way he sees them is through me he lost his visitation after the mother had gotten him in trouble and put him in jail... in spite of my grandkids as mother abandoning them and never coming back they are fairly happy and they adjust well and they have learned to deal with difficult situations so keep your chin up and always have hope cuz things can turn around at any time...

My kids Mon left 18.5 months ago ...she turned up in Florida with a guy she once knew.she returned to NY and back there again ..she ruined my kids faith in a family as they are 17 and 20 but for 20 years she was in our home and working and supporting as a mom could be .her paranoid scizofrenia took control of her motherhood and relationship with myself she was always accusing arguing and the mental strain she posed on my kids as she belittle me.life is. Much more peacefully kids are in contact with her but deep down disgusted that she allowed her mental illness to enable her to have run off .she's been with few diff guys since she left .she has been through cancer ,her moms death and it amazing how she feels like she was justified .I pray she doesn't hurt herself as depression on and off is her main downfall.I couldn't have her in my life as I see how horrible the bad days were .. Well life is good and karma is a plus....I do miss the relationship and having someone to really talk with and well lonlyness has taken place...but I try to keep myself around people ...I don't drink so iam capable of keeping my kids by my side....I would never run off and leave my kids ...I can't fathom the thought of doing what she did ...

You are not a horrible person. This is a normal emotional response to abandonment. Making the decision to not have her in your life could actually be the most beneficial for you. It gives you a sense of control over your life. It also provides you with the ability and freedom to have realistic expectations, which will pave the way for a happier future. My own mother left when I was 2 and my brother was 6. I allowed her to come back into my life when I was a young adult and it is a decision I regret every day. She continues to disappoint and fails to be a mother. Once I became a mother myself, it hurt me more to think about what possible reason a mother could leave her own child. I would recommend speaking to a professional or seeking out some sort of a support system so that you can work out your emotions. I think if I would have done that at an earlier age I may not have allowed her back into my life when I was a young adult. Best of luck to you.

Amazing a deer

I'm from a divorced family at a very young age. I've been a single Mother for 7 years of my life raising a son. I have a blended family now 2 of my own sons and my stepson whom I've helped raise since he was almost 4. My life has not been easy as my childhood is filled with more horrible memories than pleasant ones. But out of all of that I've rised to a higher purpose, God has a plan for all of us, it's your paths in life that you choose to take. It's not east raising a 12 ,5,21 year old boys and my oldest is a Marine! :) My husband hasan ex from hell. It's been rough but I love my stepson like hes mine ❤❤❤

Mothers That abandon their children are SCUM! If your being abused in your relationship then by all means leave but take your children with you. i am a single dad due to my wife running away with her new found boyfriend. she left all of us to pursue a life with this guy. i have physical custody of the children aged 7 & 8 that was 4 years ago and she has every other weekend. she seldom if ever shows up. she always has an excuse yet posts photos of her and the boyfriends kids having a grand time. Christmas time, birthdays, special occasions she showers the boyfriends kids with gifts but doesn't buy our children 1 thing. then she places photos of these activities on facebook so that our children see this. She was married Before her and I were married. cheated on her then husband got pregnant, left her husband for the then boyfriend and wound up leaving that child with her father. so I have a very Dim View of women who choose to leave precious little children for selfish reasons. women like this are DISPICABLE!!!

I have similar story. It is not your fault or otherwise you will not be feeling the way you are now. Try to reach for the grandkids in any way you can, starting by winning their dad and his parents. You and the kids can heal each other.

Grandparents have rights. You can take him to court to be able to see them. As far as your daughter, I agree with your husband. A mother would never leave their children with an abusing, controlling jerk just because she was afraid of him. Sorry. I’d be so angry with my daughter for causing more stress and uncertainty to her children that I’d abandon her, just like she did them.. focus on your grandkids. They need stability and love more than the adult who adandoned them. I tell my grandkids each time they walk out my door, my home is their home and they can come anytime they want to. They cry because they think their dad won’t let them return, but so far he has. The victims are the kids. They need you. Let your daughter figure her own stuff out. Try to befriend the jerk of a dad for the sake of your grandkids. You get more wig honey than vinegar. Hope things turn around for you, the grandkids and the adults choosing to Hold on to something they broke a long time ago.

I hope you've found or started to find a way through. What you describe is so common, but you probably feel you're the only one. That is so untrue. It's proof positive that you have empathy for your child for the very reason that you are thinking about them over yourself. That makes you normal, a normal human being. It's a rough time but try to stick with it. I'm not telling you how to feel, that's ludicrous. But you are clearly a caring and thoughtful person. But you are overthinking. Try to "think" a bit less!! Don't over analyse which leads to beating yourself up. xxx

I want to leave my children. They are 10, 3 and 1. I love them or at the minimum have some levels of compassion and feelings for them but I honestly don't want to be a mother. Yes I am late in coming to this realization...and yes I am perrhaps a terrible person. I suffer from depression and borderline personality. I should never have had children in the first instance...but what do I do now? They are all consuming and miserable and difficult and demanding. I just want to be alone.

I lost custody about 6 years ago, I see her once a month and for summers. I cant take it anymore, she has no respect, at all for me, treats me like nothing, the pain of losing her never went away, and I've had many a morning where I didn't want to wake up. Her dad is still a total dick, it's like you won you a@@ , he really would rather I had no say or rights. But im tired, tired, tired of it, of him and her attitude with me. Its been going on for years, I cant take it anymore, part of me just wants to leave and be done. Start over. I don't even know why I bother. I'm barely treated as a mother, so what's the fucking difference? I still love her, but i cant take it any more.

I read your post and my heart went out to you. There is no telling what her father is feeding her brain and heart. Even if it is not intentional, (ha, yeah right) I can understand wanting to give up, my daughter is in the same situation after losing custody of her 2 boys. I've been so mad at her, my daughter, though I've tried not to show it. It's possible your daughter is mad at you, too. Maybe she would be open to mother-daughter counseling? If you have transportation and a counseling center close enough to drive to. I'm sad for your situation and hope and pray for you to have better times with her. I do believe there will be better days for the two of you. I've felt just like you do though my children are grown. They still make me want to bang my head against the wall and disown them. But they keep coming back... Your daughter is also being taken from her regular routine and environment for her visits with you. Even though she loves you, it sounds like she's mad at the whole situation. I know how she feels, too. I see both sides. God bless you.

Hi there, can you negotiate to see your grandchild? Use whatever you can to gain time with him/her? Offer to take overnight, if there is mental illness maybe court as a last resort to share time. Talk with a lawyer? I wish you luck for child’s sake.

My daughter was born on my 15th birthday. I was going to run away because my parents thought adoption was the best thing to do. I am 60 now, she is 45. I really tried to be a good mother. Set an example, took her to church and was not THAT strict, allowed her to have her own voice. She became a pill addict. Doctor shopping, multiple pharmacies. Writing bad checks. She left her kids about a year ago and is now in jail for forging checks on her deceased father's account. I'll always wonder if giving her up for adoption would have been best for her. I grieve and feel guilt believing I did a terrible job. So, who can say if your mother was wrong. IDK