Mothers who leave their children

You know (daughter of a fellow mom) I work hard I am a Mother of 5 ranging from 31-6. I am crucified everyday for disciplining my older kids because they didn’t have a Dad and they were making bad decisions. I’ve been married 25 years to a hard working man but he never deciplines. I am always the bad guy

Maybe you could give me some insight. I feel so lost and I'm a mother of two. I was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I want to run. Or die.....

I am a mother who left my kids with their father 16 years ago I had nowhere to live and I could not bear to live with him anymore rather than upset my kids education and the security of their home and friends I waited til I found somewhere to live when I did I figured I would try for custody of the children and made my intentions clear my husband then made threats towards me he was a manipulative man and while our kids were growing up he never did very much like buy clothes change nappies when babies and would huff and puff when he had to take me to work at 6am with kids as I did not drive I just felt all he cared about was his self improvement educationally . Whenever I wanted to see the children on special occasions he would make plans so I never got the chance he would ask for money though for everything from school uniforms trips educational aids clothes he never told my kids they came from me and told family I never contributed towards anything driving a further wedge between me and my kids this has gone on for 18 years I once asked for a divorce but he refused and would not sign then after 18 decided he wanted a divorce I love my kids from the minute they were born and always have but there's always those on the sidelines waiting to judge and pass comment when they don't know the facts and being told lies .

I feel in your shoes. My Mother left my Dad for another man (who was her boss then) when i was 6 years old. since birth i was taken care of by my Grandparents (from father's side). She was absconding for a month or more with this man and my dad was going crazy to track her down. even her family waa trying to know where she was. finally she wrote a letter to my grandfather requesting he asisits the divorce. in that letter she clearly mentioned my name and said she has always been taken care by her grandparents and that is why its best she stays with your side of family. my dad remarried twice....2nd time he married a women who was pure evil (which is what i thought) but she was actually mentally ill. then he married my current step mom who have a daughter too. (my sister) I love her. my dad and step mom do love me...but it does not feel like i am their daughter...there is an unsaid distance. those threw operate as one family and i feel like a distant relative among them. my biological mother was never there for me she used to call me on birthdays uptill i was 10 but it used to make me cry a lot. so my dad asked her not to call. and then she stopped and till date (i am 34 now) no contact. recently her sister's msg on fb messenger archives caught my attention. Finally i felt someone from the other side og my family made an attempt to connect. ppl who were never there for 30 odd years of my life nearly. it felt nice....i met her we shared some tears.....and then she tells me your mom wants to connect with you she stays in the same city. Now I am going crazy should i meet her or not.....would her reasons be enough for me...i am mother too...and cannot imagine my life without my baby. my biological mother has a daughter with thre other man who too wants to connect with me. i am emotionally torn. any suggestions ?

Let's start with that I have two baby mothers. The first one I have two daughters with. The other one I have a son with , recently left me after our son shortly after our son was born. Now this is the thing. My son's mother, she's from southern California born and raised. I'm from San Francisco. We met in LA! We've been together since 2013. Long story short, she moved up to northern California to be with me and my daughter's because I can and did provide a super stable living environment for her and out newborn son. Ok, it gets deeper! She has the baby here where I live, northern California. Everything is literally, perfect! Nothing can be better. A couple months go by and she starts treating me like her worst enemy. I work, I'm attentive, loving, caring, everything she needs and want I got her cause that's my lady she my EVERYTHING!!! She keeps treating me like im nothing, doghouse status to the 10th power. A living nightmare because I don't understand what I did to get treated this way. Now, I totally understand post pardom depression. I was very patient with her sensitivity level mind you. It started to make me very depressed as months went by. Months and months in the doghouse and I have no idea where this is coming from. She says she doesn't want to live in northern California because she doesn't have a support system! I was like, WTF???? Anyway, I cheated! I told her straight up, didn't sugar coat anything. She says "I don't blame you". As things got worst and worse, she ended up leaving. Now here's the thing. I have two daughters, 9 and 10. My son is 2! We share a very difficult long distance relationship. I'm sure her family at this point thinks we're not together. Personally I don't care what her family thinks because they don't pay my bills! I'm torn because I want to be a father to my son. But I have daughter's here that need me. And my girls at their age need me in their life. Mind you, my son is only 2. He doesn't understand or really grasp the concept of this situation. It's totally breaking up my family in here because I don't want to leave my daughters. But ibhave a son to raise too. But my son's mother, left myself and my daughters. I always told her before we had our son, IM A PACKAGE DEAL. IF YOU HAVE ME, MY DAUGHTER'S ARE YOUR DAUGHTERS TOO!!! IDK WHAT TO DO

Leave her alone and continue to do you. It's not your default she's a dirtbag!

Hi well my daughter has 3 beautiful children 8,5,3 & she is homeless has lost everything chasing after a loser boyfriend. She dropped off the kids last night & has not come back. I don't mind having my grandchildren but I live in a seniors+ apartment & don't know what to do. I don't have any family & refuse to call CPS. My daughter says she can't even take care of her kids anymore & didn't want them to see her in this state. She can't hold down a job or a place to live I don't know what to do . I work 6-230pm & i'm going to lose my job cause I have no where to take the kids Im so stressed out.

Hi Guest Sorry to hear your family is going through such a difficult time. At least your daughter has done what was needed to make sure the kids are safe and will be taken care of. It could take awhile for her to sort herself out so it is for the best that the kids are with you. It must be stressful and kind of overwhelming for you to take on looking after three you kids thank goodness you are there for your grandchildren it is lucky they have you. There should be support services in your area that could maybe help you with finding someone to look after the kids while you are work. Maybe having someone come to your apartment in the morning to get the children that are in school ready and take the youngest to daycare would help. If you have contact with your daughter getting her to give you custody of the children until she sorts herself out would be a good idea. With you having custody that should make getting support services easier for you. Meeting with your employer and explaining the situation you are in might help with either changing your hours if needed or maybe your employer has some child support services in place. Hopefully as you get things in place to help you that this becomes easier for you and the children as they are probably wondering what happened to their mother.

Your not alone i have three and there not with me i have emotional detachment disorder and i have sever post pardon depression on top of manic depression.

You are amazing. I relate so much.

How is the Situation with your daughter leaving going. This happened to me with my wife. She left us the same week my son turned 1 and my daughter was 2 1/2. She comes over to help me get the kids things ready for me to drop them off in the morning at her aunts to take care of while I work but she never really spends quality time with the children. The kids are beginning to show sings of feeling abandoned. They Cry badly when I drop them off at their aunts, my daughter will no longer sleep by herself and wants to sleep with me every night. My son wakes up crying and won’t want a bottle but rather also wants to sleep with me. At church when I have to go up to the stage because I’m part of the worship team they won’t let me go and cry while I’m up there ministering. My wife left in Jan we are now in April.

thanks, i m the father, with 3 kids

because she is a f****** w**** that's why she left her kids and husband she should be in the f****** jail or drop dead and go straight to f****** hell

Thank You. Survival is about all there is.

i dont know either what did you decide to do