Mothers who leave their children

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I could have written every single word that you wrote. I am in the exact same place. Did you find a way out?

Are you still there with your family?

Yeah, I'm on the same boat she's leaves to be with a person that can't work For her literally almost killed her ... but shes been home for a long time she just gets up and leaves for days to be with this psycho..barely paying attention to the baby well hes 5 to me he's still a baby. . n her answr is I love him so im assuming more than her son I don't know ... I really don't understand. Shes 27 years old don't work don't go to school doesn't want to do anything for herself .just do stuff with him ...sometines I'm the one that feels that need to seek help .... n pray that he doesn't do anything to hurt her anymore and that gid will give her the knowledge n the wisdom she needs to wake up one day with a new way of life ! They were both intoxicated when it happened .they have already been together for 5 years now n the first time i hear he puts his hands on her n went to jail for it to.

My mom and dad got divorced about 5 years ago, and my mother didn't show up to court to get custody. She decided to leave her 3 kids for drugs. Even though we arent't supposed to, we have seen her a few times since the divorce ( about once a year), but she started getting worse and worse every time, so we eventually had to stop going to see her. I have decided to completely cut all ties with her, and move on. Doing that has helped me forgive and forget. I feel that if i continued talking to her she would try to make me feel bad about the whole situation, and try to get me to see her. This story doesn't completely fit with the topic, but I just wanted to say that sometimes being the bigger person is the best thing to do. Sometimes you just have to do what you know is right, even if it's hard. You can get through it, and if your mom walked out on you, she is a terrible parent, and that's not your fault.

I am a single father of a 13 month old baby boy whose mother left us for another man. I understand her leaving me if the relationship did not work but to abandon her own baby.... just disgusting & selfish

Hey my mom left last year and she did horrible things to me and my family sometimes i miss sometimes i get so angry at her punch things and cry but if u think of it if my mom stayed she would've done even more damage than she did when she left

If your family is willing to help with your kids right now, give the kids to them while you figure yourself out. I know it seems like that is not what you should do, but please give them the kids and find yourself so that you can go back and be there for your kids. Else, they will have even worse issues than you are facing. Forget your ego and your family. Do the right thing for your kids. _Concerned

Isn't that unfair? She is expected to care for you as a child which you feel shouldn't be too much for her to tolerate but her mental illness is too much for you?

I left my kids not because I wished too do but because of this..... I was in an extremely psychology abusive marriages I could not hold on so I thought ether I kill my self ore I ask for an divorce. I was so scared when I said I want a divorce. My then huspend got furious he said I will never ever give you the kids you here. And what happend next second was. He screamd too the kids everybody come here rigth now and sitting on the sofa. All kids came down I trying too say too him not too do anything stupid now but he dident care. He took a shiar he putt it in the middle of the room and putt be one it. I was so sad so scared and totelly devastated. Then he said kids your mother has somthing too tell you. I said no I don't not now not now . Then he stod up and said ooh really well kids then I say it. 2 minuts ago you mither just told me she dosent love us and never did she told me she will live the famelie tomorrow and she dose not want too hear from you ore see you. Then hi sended the kids too there room took the computer got me a ticket too the Netherlands I hade my best friend there and told me too pack my bag now. I said no I don't want too it's my kids I will stay you can't do this. But then hi calm down down and said just go this week so I can think and calm down. I said OK this week but then you need too get real and think of what you are doing. Next morning I had breakfast with the kids trying too explain what is going on but my them huspend corrected it all too what he wanted. Then I said buy and went too my friend I was trying too rest my mind too get oeace when I was there but I couldn't.after a week I went home and my ex stod at the air port hi drove home all quiet ooh that happy moment when you see you kids ooh I cried so hard of happiness. That nigth my ex huspend raped me 3 times then went up and ordered me a new ticket too my friend I need more time hi said. I dident speek i just took my bag said by too my kids and went too the car and back too the Netherlands. I was so sad and choked my best friend is a man btw he took such good care of me them 2 weeks and I fell in love with him. We had been friends for years and that felt so good. I got stronger and I went home with the ticket my ex got me. When I was at the airport my ex told me that I won't see the kids that sosial servis has forbidden me and we are going too a meeting now. On the meeting was my ex sister her husband his mother my ex and me. I was like wth is this. I have been that mommy that baked did things always with my children I loved them more them anything. On the meeting they said how can you just pack a bag and live your kids and huspend and just go too a friend and not say anything. Am like wait what I don't understand I been skyping with the kids all this time no my ex said we haven't herd from you and that I have witnesses for and then I said but you got my the tickets and drove me too the airport. I did what he said hahaha really you think sosial servis buys your lies. Am like am not lying. But the sosial servis believed my ex and his famelie. I could not meet the kids in 4 weeks. When the day came when it was time ooh I was so excited I went too the home and it was empty my ex had taken the kids too his brother and was going too be there 3 weeks.i got an apartment I had nothing I could not come in my last home too get stuff I went and got some I'm a second hand store. Then ppl started too see me the asking wth is going on in told one of them the hole story and 2 days later ppl came with sofas bunker bed's bed for me I got everything that is needed in a home ooh I was so great full also got lodes of toys and computer for them and so an for the kids then. I was in kontakt alot with sosial servis asking if that investigation they did was readdy so I could see my kids. And then one day I got a letter I was a perfect mother school and ppl around had been at the sosial service and told them I was a great mother and a caring mother and so I won. And I said I am asking for 50% because a child should have a mother and a father so be it they said and the kids started too come

New try too end the story of my life now ...

As a mental health professional you are clinically depressed. Medication and counselling will get you back to who you were..please go see your doctor

Hi.My mither left me when i was only 11.Now i stay with my father and brother.I don't know why she left us.My father ask her to come back.She come back home and and 3 days later she left again.She only bring her work bag.She inly left her big bag.nowondered she tell ask to slept erliear.

Hug you seriously hug u xxx

Well well, I am a FATHER of a child who was abandoned by EGG donor "mother" in more exact terms a person who uses EXCUSES like many in this forum to make excuses for "women" who leave their kids. BiPolar? Give me a fusing break.... BiPolar is BULLSHIT...its a label applied to women especially AMERICAN Women who are IRRESPONSIBLE. And to those making excuses for these "women" go to ANY other country in the world: There is NO excuse to leave ur kids .   ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** inappropriate posting*** Please read our Terms of Use