Mothers who leave their children

At age four they don't know any better and just cope. When they are between the ages of 13-18 they begin to wonder why. Then they hurt and keep it locked deep inside until it begins destroying them. These children never understand why they were abandoned.

Hi there, guest; I just read all these posts, and this last was so heartbreaking

my daughter has left her 3 beautiful children also and they live with a their dad who can barely take care of them he was on heroin supposedly on methadone now they are either taking care of themselves they are 12, 8 , 5, while their dad sleeps or with his mother who is bi-polar and treats them horribly My heart is broken also, my daughter could care less about them she used to be a good mom i dont understand :(

My mother was an alcoholic. She walked out on me and my 2 brothers when I was 10. She had 2 other children after me and after 18 years and several failed reconciliation attempts later, on the day of our last meeting she died of a heart attack which was a result of years of drug and drink abuse.i say sadly as obviously she was my mother but being brought up by a man with nothing but brothers and friends to rely on in life I since went on to have not only children but 2 beautiful daughters. I reflect on my mother every birthday and mothers day and anniversary of her death and sometimes cry when I listen to a song or just think how when I watch my daughters grow how much not only I love them but she would have loved them too if only she'd still be alive. My point is not her family or her husband or children stopped her walking out. She wasn't physically or mentally abused. She left her children. Me as a mother I could never do that. And I will spend the rest of my life trying to understand how and why she did what she did, and thrive to be a better parent than she could ever have imagined. I make my father proud every day I could have been turned out completely different to what I have today. Respect to all fathers AND MOTHERS who do this alone.

My boyfriend's ex wife who is an elementary school teacher fought for her children during their divorce, got ample custody and then met a man 15 years her senior and twice married and since - has practically abandoned her children, ages 12 and 15, only maybe seeing them four or five times in the past year - and she lives in the same neighborhood. How does this happen. I too think bipolar / what other answers can their be. She will not speak to me or my boyfriend, we even found out only because of social media that she'd married, and they'd only known each other six months. Share your similar story with me because I can't wrap my head around this.

I am a mother of 2 wonderful boys. 14&4. I love them with my whole heart. But the bad news is that I am in a abusive marriage. So the only way for me to leave is to let them stay behind. It breaks my heart into peaces. I cant see my life without them. But I love them so much that I can't hurt them the way that me and my husband are hurting them with fights and being this bad example for them. My husband will get full custody over them as he is narcissistic. And I allowed so many things and was so blind to see the warnings earlier.

My mom left me when i was 8 along with my siblings. My siblings and i were then sent to live with my grandparents because my dad was in and put of jail 5 times. My mother was given a choice stay with her children and stop doing drugs or leave. And guess what she chose. She chose to leave. Ever since then i have been angry at her for leaving but when i get yelled at or think about the day that i will lose my sisters or my brothers. Even my grandparents or my dad i start crying. Her leaving gave me this extra compassion that i never had before. I couldn't stand to lose my family. My mother claima that i have a different father but i know she is lying, she ways did. Anyone else have a story like mine?

Wow.. Reading all of these replies breaks my heart.. My mother left my family when i was in the fourth grade, so around 8 years ago! One night she just packed all her stuff, lugged her suitcase out of the door and left.. no goodbye. That night my brother and my dad and i curled up on the couch cried and watched a movie... Thankfully my father has always had more love than two parents combined and he  has always been stable in every aspect so we didn't have to struggle but nonetheless, having a parent leave you is one of the hardest things to go through.. No matter how much love my father gave me, the hole in my heart still remains, knowing my mother decided to leave us, then a few years later finding out she has a new family, new life.. It makes you feel like you just aren't good enough.. haha

I have an ex fiance. She has a kid in another country. Kid is 4 years old. She came over here and left her kid with her parents. Kid was crying all day and ex husband was about to take his child from grandparents. She went back to avoid that. Now she tells me she wants to be with me and leave the kid with his father since I can't take care of both people at the same time. I need her to work and adjust to America before bringing her kid. I'm scared that if she leaves her kid with ex husband she would lose her kid forever. I feel guilt for not being able to be with her without separating from her child, and I feel guilty for not being able to fulfill my promise to her to marry her. I feel that if I marry her and bring her over again, ex husband will take his kid and she will lose her child forever. I don't know what to do. Please advise. Thanks.

My mom left when was born my dad was there but not her I was not breathing when I was born either after a couple of days I was released but when I was 5she walked out on me and my 2year old brothers and I never knew why or if I was the reason for this can someone please tell me why

My bipolar mother left with my younger brother and sister and left me behind after introducing me to the man she was leaving my father for in a park across the street from the home where we lived. I stayed with my father, who was so distraught and overcome he could do little for me but house and keep food in the house. Years of pain ensued with many changes in fortune and circumstances. I was subsequently pushed out of home when my dad remarried a few years later. Turns out she saw me as competition, damaged goods. I moved into an apartment with an aquaitance, but soon failed at a job to pay my own bills. I know now that I was bipolar also. From an early age, my mother demonstrated that I should not exist. Being in the company of my mother and then being thrown away by her remains the most painful memory. For me, I lived the "...things could have been worse." The anger, depression, feelings of emptiness were horrible. I read a book some gave after my mother left that said to go where the love is. There wasn't anyplace to go. Consider yourself lucky if mom left you to someone who could love you and raise you.

Having a mother that hates you will always be better than having no mother at all. No matter how messed up the situation is.

Thank you. Thank you. So much for this.

It's unthinkable even today, we were all dumped my two children and I by wife and mother. The stories about unhappiness, my hatred of her family, showing no support for her work, we heard it all. In the end she was simply having an affair, she had new best friends that gave her the recipe to evicting the husband and children from their own house. The saddest part was an intervention order, fabricated to allow her to keep the family home which she sold for nothing as she couldn't afford repayments due to her lavish lifestyle. I hear of desperate women in horrible situations that genuinely need the laws help in protecting them and then we have the fony's that use it to secure a larger share in the matrimonial home. What a disgrace , the recipe is simple, buy a Safeway knife and place it anywhere near the property and take a picture of it. As the father and husband you go to court and are told to sit down, nothing is required of you. Grin and bare it! Some of the recipe givers are family lawyers that incite these terrible actions and advice not to talk to or enter into communication with your spouse. Extra bucks for 2nd hand Information, very convenient. Oh and avoid concerned family members and members of the clergy! Their loose lips only worsen the situation as it's breaking news for them and they obviously thrive.on gossip and the suffering of others. Some 7 years have past and my children and I are right as rain, all unanswered question have been put to rest now as there is no Involvement from their mother and probably never will be.

You can't tell people how they should feel!!! That is absurd and totally misguided. How lucky for you that you had a relatively normal life compared to the others who ate bravely sharing their stories.