Bipolar boyfriend breaking up with me every 3/4months- at my

I'm feeling the same pain right now. My boyfriend left on Friday while I was at work came home and he's gone. I found out where he is living but he will not take any of my calls. He called me on Sat and said its over, he have moved on, he's unhappy,not in loved anymore and to respect him and leave him alone. So I have not called him at all,believe me I really want to cause I'm in love with him. I'm so confuse I don't know if it's really over or will he come back. I really want him back.

its so unfortanate, my fiance was diagnosed with bipolar almost 2years ago i was still pregnant with our second child i had no clue wot was going on he jst had these weired reaction, his parents wouldnt let me see him or anything to them i was the corse of it  they even told people i was using witch craft on him it was a really hard time for me but imagine wot it was like for him. after that he got better and evrything wwas going well we got engaged and evrything was perfect but his parents still couldnt accept me, he had another relapse last week and god knws they did it agen spreading sh%t about me how can i hurt sum1 wu i luv so much and got two children with i dont knw wot to do any more i luv him but cant let my children go thru this most of there lives at the end they r the ones wu"s geting hurt even his friends dont want anything to do with him anymore coz of the way his acting i love him and try to help and now hes rejecting my calls nd stuff wot must a person do!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wow. These posts... they're inspirational, really, for lack of any other words. My boyfriend is Bipolar II and I've known him since way back when we were 10. He's my BEST friend, he says anything and everything to me, he's so sweet, and he's no liar, cheater, any of that. BUT, to spare my feelings, he didn't tell me he liked someone else when he broke up with me recently... But he can't keep things like that from me for long,and I know all about it... I watched him getting worse as the years went by... He needs medicine, and he still needs to accept he's bipolar. He's been so distant lately... Something I've NEVER seen from him. I found that (for him, different people think different ways, even if they have the same mental condition) telling him I still love him then giving him ALL the space he needs, saying I'll ALWAYS be there and I love him unconditionaly is making him come back. He really does care a lot for me, as when I go long periods without talking to him he'll come to me for support. But I'm just SO lost now because now... He's just not acting like himself, not even like his normal self during a bipolar high or low. Is medicine the answer? He's been cold and numb, but yet he still has a deep concern for me. He doesn't do drugs, alcohol, smoking, and he's smart enough to avoid the wrong crowd, but I still worry for his mental and emotional state, and if he'll come back... He's the only guy I ever loved... It blows my mind that it could get like this... I love him unconditionaly, and dispite his daily or close to daily outbursts of depression and anger, I just can't make myself fight back. He can't help it... To actually TRY to cause him pain would be SO cruel, in my opinion, and the good, I think, corrects the bad that I know he doesn't even mean. Since the summer before freshman year of high school, what hasn't killed me has made me stronger, and I just want him back again. I love him, and I cry for him, and I'd do it every day. I want to marry him, but he really needs to accept proper treatment and I'm so concerned about how he feels now that he's shutting himself away. It hurts, and I need some help. And a note to all of you out there still hurt, or crying, or seeking help, practicaly going to the ends of the earth... The pain just means you care. If you didn't feel ANY pain after a relationship with someone like that... That just wouldn't make sense, now would it? Some people really aren't cut out for this kind of thing. If you're not, try to do what's right and leave peacefully if you can. If you really CAN do this, AND you really want it to work, and you know that what you have is special... Chase after it. Even if chasing means giving your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife some space and the comfort to vent to you. Don't blame yourself if you're doing all you can, and don't blame him/ her unless it's an ACTUALL character flaw, not the bipolar, or ANY condition. If anyone wants to give any information about what medicines work, if they work, how they work, anything, it woud be VERY appreciated, as well as if anyone has questions or advice. And finaly, just because he/ she is bipolar does NOT mean they're crazy. My boyfriend is a human being, and I personaly would never look down on him for his condition and I treat him as I would anyone, and a whole lot more.
Thanks for reading, best of luck

AM sorry that you are bipolar but maybe you should read books again! what those girls are describing is very true, am experiencing it as well and that has nothing to do with bipolar being picky...bipolar is ( and trust me I read a lot about it) and it is caracterised by UP AND DOWNS all the time, it is like two different persons...that don,t know each othersand it is very hard to deal with, plain and simple.

wow, this sounds like my man... not all but very MANY simularities from every post above...reading all of the above post is giving me strength to leave. i feel my man wants to break up and i dont, although i know i should walk. i think the thing that keeps me here is REJECTION!!!! the hell with rejection, i think im ready. i havent spoken with him for about 6 hours which is not the norm for us. i just called him about 10 min. ago and there was no answer. i have decided to not answer when he calls. i think its time to move on. this is not the life i want. if i stay, it will be an abusive relationship.  i think we have run our course. LADIES, PUT IT IN YOUR HEAD THAT YOU MUST GO, NOT THAT HE WANTS YOU TO GO. (btw, he just called and i answered....hahaha BUT, i kept our conversation in the area of a friend).  IM READY!!!!!!!!

Hi, I was with mine for 3 years. The first year was fine but after that it was every 3 to 4 months. I started seeing that patern but I thought maybe he was getting bored but like you said after a month he right back. Telling me nobody makes him feel the way I do and he is the most happiest with me. So of course I take him back several times. I mentioned that maybe he was bipoler and should go see a doctor, he agreed but it never happened. The only thing was is that he didn't have mood swings or anything. Maybe a little depression from missing his kids but that's it. Well then we were buying a house together and 3 months later he tells me its over and I have to move. But he stopped me before I left and I stayed. It was 2 weeks before christmast 2011 and he asked me to marrie him of course I said yes. I thought this would be ok he won't leave now. Nope 3 months after that he kicks me out again and this time I leave and get a roomate. So I have been living here since april and we have been seeing eachother. I thought things were good, and he told me I could come home at any time. That really crushed me cause that's all I wanted but now I'm stuck and I can't bail on someone like that! Well, I obviously took to long because last Thursday he told me on the phone he was going to try counseling with his ex wife. He left her a week before we got together. I guess all I can say is that it will happen again. About 9 times in 3 yrs and the only reason I took him back is because our relationship was the best I have ever experienced. We were really good friends and got along great except for this. And for me it doesn't get easer it gets harder but it has to happen this time cause its driving me crazy. Good luck

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i confuse with my ex,i think he got bipolar he drives me crazy like a roller coaster!! hes charming but he has sharp tongue! he likes black joke,we live in diff country so yea we met after 1year ol chat, he kept postpone his coming many excuses and have flip action up and down i cant handle it so we broke up n he seems ok with that! but then he bought plane ticket vacation for us, i mean he full of surprise ( heart melt =.=) doh! we had fun around vacation even he often sleep while vacation! i cant just sleep while vacation lol i like hang out! so yea we argue a lilbit but most of the time he was very sweeet he always tickle me when im mad xD carried me when im tired and always smiling! how come? =.= and at nite he purpose me a ring i felt so high! but the ring was too big! so he took it back to resize it, then we r long distance again, and u know what? i found out he is still in contact with his ex!! after he purposed me?? i mean his laptop on cus he wants me to speak with his mum, and he fall asleep so i accidentaly see whats contact on his msn and i got so mad but i didnt show it cus i wont ruin vacation! and i talked about it on phone almost break up but finnaly he got me again =.= hes just like a cute puppy! a very cute "AHOLE" I felt guilty, his suffering he cried alot on phone and begged to come back, so we got back again, and then he forget my b'day! and act like nothing happened :O I gone silent,if im really mad i will silent -.- but then yeah he sent me bunch chocolate and tedy bear and flower with poetry and after couple months he visited me and we had appoinment to watch movie after i finished work but then he called me said he wanna hang out with my friend and her bf and he didnt come for dinner! he went go kart and didnt show up at mall -.- and didnt care bout me, but next day he brought me flower to my office, that so sweeeet seems like nothing happened yesterday >.< he bought soup and take care of me T.T so sweeet u know what?? we broke up again after 1WEEK vacation with me he said he cant get married with me bla bla bla, and after 8months break up, he called me everyday i mean everyday! i cant stand it and i think he is serious so i should give him another change, and after a month we got together, he said "we need to talk" he said i still same i still funny and cute but he is just doesnt love me as much as before! he dumped me! yes! and after about 4days he said hes sorry, and we talked on the phone he said no other girl cus he just get interested in a girl at his friend cafe but he said yesterday he found out that this girl has a bf, so he felt stupid and oh yes i was so emotional and i said NO! and then he never called me again but he still send msg on fb =.= i what should i do to handle and should i still respond his msg? he said he missed us, but i know someday he gonna break my heart again. when hes sweet he is veryyy sweet! when he is on mood swing he said he doesnt love me anymore and ignore me T.T

Thanks for your post.. your explanation has really made me released... although i still love my boyfriend,,, it was a stressful relationship having needed to deal with his emotions..i didnt know he has bipolar.. i just though he has depression.. after the breakup i have been blaming myself not able to give the love he needed and that i should have understood him better..i still feel the same.. i hope i can have a chance to rekindle with him..anyway....i know it is going to be tough...but i love him so much..

some of this behavior sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder

My Name is JEREMY.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will ********SPAM********* for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed***Please read our Terms of Use i cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck  ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed***Please read our Terms of Use

I do love my ex fiance till this very day. he's bipolar, and I late research and knowing what exactly bipolar is. The phony and ignorant and cant keep up with you, thats all his accusation to me. I didnt know bout bipolar episodes erlier back than, so I reacted with anger and ill temper towards his episodes. And not learning his condition was accused as im lacking of love for him. We had a bad break up. He did texted me couple times few months ago, sending love song and hate message to me. Switching his phone number, but texted me again with his new one, after i replied called me a stalker. I do still care bout him and regret the way i coped with his bipolar back then. How do I make him see this, explaining this to him? while he already blamming me for the cause of his episodes when we were together. I do still hoping we can solve this mess and build our friendship again.

Thank you for this wisdom! It has really helped me cope. You have definitely found your calling in counseling. Best of luck to you! :)

I wish I could agree with you on your point of being sooo intelligent and that you get bored with those that are of AVERAGE intelligence - - I am NOT bi-polar and I have an extremely HIGH IQ - bordering genius; and my BI-POLAR b-friend was not picky in the LEAST about who he chose to CHEAT ON ME WITH - so, please don't take this personally, because I'm sure you weren't referring to ALL INTELLIGENT people, but go get BENT!



EXCUSES are for LOSERS!

I will love to share my testimony to all my friends because i never believe i will have my girlfriend back. When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status.when i went to her to her place of work she told her friends she never want to see me.I tried all i could do to have her back with me but all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to meet my aunt.I told her my problem and i all have passed through in getting her back and how she embarrass me in her place of work,he told me he is going to help me but don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him,he said he will ********SPAM********* for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back home the following day and i called him when i got home,he said he is busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 3 days that is Thursday. My girlfriend called me at exactly 10:35am on Thursday and apologies for all she had done, she said she never knew what she’s doing she promised not to do that again.It was like am hallucinating when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my girlfriend called me on phone apologies. Am posting this to the forum for everybody that is interested in meeting the man for help this is his email address _[removed]_ All i have to say is THANK YOU DOCTOR

Great advice Tommy and sp open and honest.Thanks bud and wish u well!!