Do you ever get over sexual abuse?

Once you have been abuse your life will never be the same again. However one can be healed from it but it do takes time it can takes up to years to get over and yes the mental part of it is the worst.

so true, esp if it was done by family or friend...

The same thing happened to me, I would really like to meet you?

so sad for you..

More than life itself, I hope it erases itself from the depths of my mind and unattaches itself from my very soul. I'm in my mid 40s and every second of the last 34 years has been gut wrenching. The flashbacks......the flashbacks. I don't know why, but the fear and shame are the ruling forces as far as emotions go. Panic is close. Molested by an uncle, raped by best friends older brother and physically, and emotionally abused by mothers husband. I don't sleep much. I jump 10 feet in the air when something startles me. My marriage suffers. I can't talk about this to anyone. The thought of looking someone in the eyes and saying these things is HORRIFYING. I'm ashamed and embarrassed. A bit angry as well. I don't want to be the poor me person either. Seems like all of "this stuff" stays close to the surface most days. I cant seem to keep followup appointments with doctor that treated my cancer. Yes, I said cancer. She needs to feel my neck and around my head and throat. The min. she goes for the neck, I feel like her hands are those of someone else, someone who wanted to kill me at the time. My heart pounds so hard I can see it in my eyes and my kind doctor is no longer herself somehow. I'm right back to my youth for a moment or more. My doctor is amazing lady, but I can't bare to have her examine me even to see if the cancer has returned. I had almost lost my life a couple years ago with a severe illness. The illness and fever seemed to take a bit of my memories, but just not the ones I would have chosen. I would love to find a way to lay these experiences down for good as I can no longer function well with them. I wonder what my eyes looked like before these things happened .....before when my soul was my own. I see the eyes of my friends children and for years have looked for a glimpse of who I may have been. How did this happen?? I mean, I know these things happened, but what am I or who am I without them .
So as far as the question......oh, trust me, I'm over it, so fricken over it. My body and mind are not.

I was abused all of my childhood. My dad was always verbally/emotionally abusive. He got physical only a few times, that I remember. I also remember him always taking me into his bedroom when my mom was not around, I do not know remember much else. My mom just stood by and watched my dad tear me down. They eventually got divorced and both rushed into marriages. My mom married this guy that I never really trusted, but could not figure out why. On their wedding night, he kissed me on the mouth for the first time, I was 9. This would become the way that I woke up when I was with my mom. When I was 10 he molested me for the first time. I thought that it was normal so I did not tell anyone. From then on he molested me every chance that he got until I was 15. This is when I found out that a friend had read a piece of paper that fell out of my binder that had, in detail, everything that my stepfather did to me. My friend said that if I did not tell a teacher, that he would. He did. My mom believed me at first and then she ended up saying that she did not believe me. I am now 18 and I still have nightmares nightly about the things that he would do to me. I wish that there was something that I could do to make them stop. The truth is that they have gotten worse now that I go to a college that is 6 hours away from them. Oh I meant to mention that nothing ever happened to him, even though a police report and a report with DSS was made. I was made to live with my father. Anyways, not a day goes by that I do not have a flashback of him. I wish that there was something anything that I could do to make me forget or at least not be reminded daily of the abuse. Honestly, there are days that I think that it would be best if I just ended everything. I have almost done it several times. I have resorted to self harm as well. I cannot seem to ever be in a successful relationship. I get really awkward anytime that I am around guys. I wish that there was a way that I could get over all of this but it seems like that is very unlikely.

a cousin molested me for about a year when i was five and before i used to think it was just bad dreams and i couldnt understand why i was "dreaming" of things at a young age , but i came to realize it wasnt a dream it was reality . i remember the last time he attempted to. ever since that day he has not. i see him all the time at family gatherings and he smiles in my face and acts like nothing ever happened like he never damaged me. sometimes i wish i could have told someone because he doesnt deserve to be happy. he has a family and kids, a nice car andhouse and im stuck here cryingevery night 16 years later. struggling in college. my parents do not know and i will never tell them because i think my dad would kill him. and it will just create waves of damage. and honestly i dont feel its worth telling. i also got sexually assaulted the summer before my first year of college. i read somewhere that people who have raped/molested before have a higher chance of it happening again. i am not sure if that is true or not but for me it is. i feel like i am a weak person. too ashamed and scared to go outside of my room. to scared to talk to new people. all because selfish people hurt me. its just not fair.

I am in my 30's now and it just keeps hitting me harder and harder as I get older. I tell people about it and then hate how they react so at some point I tell them I made it up. It's stupid I know but I find it hard to deal with how people react.....it's never helpfully or helping me get over it. It never feels like it's the right thing that I have done. I will never get over it. It just gets worse with time. When you think of all the guilt you carry and you can't unload it. No one can take away the worthlessness of how you feel. No one can tell you the perfect thing and make it better and no one has the patience to listen to your story over and over and over. But that is how it goes in your head. Over and over and worse and worse.

i know your pain but don’t let what happened to you take over. it’s easier said than done and trust me it’s the hardest thing to deal with but we have to fight and love ourselves. we can’t let what someone else do affect us in a way to where we can’t have a family, trust people, feel good about ourselves! we shall overcome whether it takes a week or years!

If you would get a account here then you could have private messages.You can unload on me all you want.

Nope,Never, No

I'm in my thirties too now. Whenever I breech the subject on the way my brother sexually assaulted me as a young girl, my family simply ignores me. They completely disregard my pain as if it's trifal and irrelevant. This gives me great pain and, ultimately, makes me feel like I'm a whiner and should just get over it.

I have been a victim of sexual harassment since I was at school and sexual abuse started much later but still haunts me and the more time passes the more I think it affects me I thought I could forget about it but it’s present always and I don’t know how to deal with iit. I’ve tried hinting to family members but they don’t care. I will never be able to live a happy a life because I can’t get over what happened to me so I refuse to trust anyone and I’ve kind of got used to it.

I have been sexually abused as a young girl. My family does not seem to care. I have breached this subject often only to be dismissed. I understand how you feel. I have had to find strength within me to carry on. Back in 2015 at 27, I suffered four strokes. I lost alot of my memories but not the sexual abuse.

I'm sorry these things were done to you, My heart aches for you and the years of pain you have known. You and I are similar in our past. I too struggle with how my experiences have influenced my life. I just need you too know that you are not alone. Perhaps you could just ask your doctor to let you know when she is going to start the exam so you can prepare your mind and body? You don't need to go into why if you don't want to. Just a thought. Take care