hi im an artist.more than the question of being ugly i think what bothers me is the fact that i have always been uncomfortable with the idea of looking a certain way- any which way that i looked at different ages-eventually to a point of having become an observer who is lost in understanding the absurdity of having a form,a recognizable form-sometimes i feel i have no mental image of myself, perhaps aggravated by the fact that over the last few years i avoided being photographed or looking at myself to a large degree,being intermittently in social seclusion. yes, im unhappy with who i naturally am, and i do not know who i am at all,what it means to look a certain way.i wonder who i am looking at when i look at myself-my mothers daughter or my brother's sister, or my friends aquaintance?now all self judgement has eventually suspended itself and i feel fine but those questions havent ceased to exist for me.as i grew i always felt a disconnect between the me inside and me outside,so much so that sometimes i feared i was autistic in my inability to communicate what was within me without having to struggle with my emotions or my physicality.
and i am someone who has had several people like me, chase me and even be infatuated with me although not in the recent year or two- since i have gone into my shell.i know with a little effort i can get anything i want but what i want is to be effortlessly beautiful, a beauty that does not change with the relativity of a beholder.
so, i guess there are those who have it easy and then there also are those who have no choice but to fight for their answers -which only throws you deeper into the web of questions, but it does give you a deeper shade of experiences in life that make you a stronger and higher person than one who has never known those shades of human understanding.
and i am someone who has had several people like me, chase me and even be infatuated with me although not in the recent year or two- since i have gone into my shell.i know with a little effort i can get anything i want but what i want is to be effortlessly beautiful, a beauty that does not change with the relativity of a beholder.
so, i guess there are those who have it easy and then there also are those who have no choice but to fight for their answers -which only throws you deeper into the web of questions, but it does give you a deeper shade of experiences in life that make you a stronger and higher person than one who has never known those shades of human understanding.
Im a guy, short and skinny. I feel ugly and unattractive too. Im not anorexic or anything im just small. I hate everything. It sucks to ugly. Especially when even ugly people lke myself go for attractive people. I hate myself for being attracted to pretty girls!
i bet nobody on here is ugly
i read your guys comments and you all seem like good people
if you look at anybody, you can see them as both gorgeous or completely ugly
its all based on whether or not you take care of yourself.
make sure you are clean, and look at youself as goodlooking\it takes work and its so much easier to be unhappy and think your ugly,\but thinking you are goodlooking is kind of like a habit that you need to get yourself into
i sure if i saw anyone of you one the street i would think you are a goodlooking person, and what makes you a BETTER person, is that you all seem to be better people than the ones taht constinanyl put other people down\
honeslyty, everybody has things that make them stunning and things that make them ugly, but if you dwell on what makes you ugly then you wont noticew whats beautiful about you, and when you do that uts harder for everybody to notice your beauty aswell
EVERYBODY LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND REALIZE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL OKAY
seriousllllyyyyyyy seeing stuff liek this makes me feel so much worse about myself, because you havent experienced ugliness on my level before.
feel better about yourselves!!!
i read your guys comments and you all seem like good people
if you look at anybody, you can see them as both gorgeous or completely ugly
its all based on whether or not you take care of yourself.
make sure you are clean, and look at youself as goodlooking\it takes work and its so much easier to be unhappy and think your ugly,\but thinking you are goodlooking is kind of like a habit that you need to get yourself into
i sure if i saw anyone of you one the street i would think you are a goodlooking person, and what makes you a BETTER person, is that you all seem to be better people than the ones taht constinanyl put other people down\
honeslyty, everybody has things that make them stunning and things that make them ugly, but if you dwell on what makes you ugly then you wont noticew whats beautiful about you, and when you do that uts harder for everybody to notice your beauty aswell
EVERYBODY LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND REALIZE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL OKAY
seriousllllyyyyyyy seeing stuff liek this makes me feel so much worse about myself, because you havent experienced ugliness on my level before.
feel better about yourselves!!!
My big question is, what makes us feel this way?! 18 years old, with a full life ahead of me, and even at my best, I can see no beauty.... I have an identical twin sister....yes, we look alike but I have never been able to get past the fact that she is more attractive than me...(though everyone reassures me we look just the same) ... I am in a relationship with an amazing guy, and I just don't see what he sees in me... He tells me all the time that he loves the way I look and that I am pretty, beautiful, sexy....and I know that should be all that matters- what he thinks....but, I just can't see past the fact.....that I am unattractive....To people that know they are good looking, this topic is very....unimportant....I don't want to have to look at my twin in envy of her beauty....I want to look in the mirror and actually like what I see....
okay so 17, im super thin 5 ft 11 inches and i have blue green eyes and dark brown hair. people tell me all the time i have gorgeous eyes and an amzing body n that i should model. but honestly...i DONT SEE IT. i look in the mirror and for a second i think i look good n then i realize i look like sh*t. im tall and lanky and gangly and ungraceful and my face is a hott mess. my friends tell me that i am pretty but in an unconventional way, but honestly, im pretty sure thats a nice way of saying "ur ugly, but we cant tell u that cus we're ur friends".
i feel like i have a decent personality, im outgoing and friendly and im always making people laugh. but i dont have a boyfriend, never had one even... Honestly, it sucks because i get along realllyyy well with guys and i make sure to not put myself in the friend zone with a guy i like, but it always seems like they just like my personality n are not attracted to me at all n just want to be friends. alot of the time they start of flirting and liking me and end up leading me on and i feel like its because they realize that im ugly or a friend of theirs tells them i am.
its gotten to the point that even though i love going out and socialising with people and having a good time, i dont even want to go out anymore because im simply ashamed of people seeing me. i dont want them to look at my ugly face or be turned off by my skinny body. im tired of being the fun girl everyone likes to hang out with but no one wants to date. often i think about going out and then i just dont bother because i think that getting dressed and putting on nice clothes and make up is a waste of time for me. people tell me i should model n tht im so pretty but they are always girls who tell me that....never guys...
guys where i live like girls with curves who dress in miniskirts and fancy dresses, but im stubborn in staying true to myself and wearing my converses and graphic tees....but i still dress girly so i dont understand it....
i dont even bother telling my friends or anyone i think im ugly because they all just tell me im fishing for compliments, but when i am crying over all the ugly ass pictures of myself i have to untag on facebok because im so disgusted with how i look, me commenting on one asking for a delete of the pic is NOT fishing for compliments...
okkay wow i just completely RANTED like, a tonne.....so im done now...but i just ....feel like i dont desrve to be loved looking the way i do...i gess im just being shallow...but i honestly dont feel good enough for anyone because of the way i look...
i feel like i have a decent personality, im outgoing and friendly and im always making people laugh. but i dont have a boyfriend, never had one even... Honestly, it sucks because i get along realllyyy well with guys and i make sure to not put myself in the friend zone with a guy i like, but it always seems like they just like my personality n are not attracted to me at all n just want to be friends. alot of the time they start of flirting and liking me and end up leading me on and i feel like its because they realize that im ugly or a friend of theirs tells them i am.
its gotten to the point that even though i love going out and socialising with people and having a good time, i dont even want to go out anymore because im simply ashamed of people seeing me. i dont want them to look at my ugly face or be turned off by my skinny body. im tired of being the fun girl everyone likes to hang out with but no one wants to date. often i think about going out and then i just dont bother because i think that getting dressed and putting on nice clothes and make up is a waste of time for me. people tell me i should model n tht im so pretty but they are always girls who tell me that....never guys...
guys where i live like girls with curves who dress in miniskirts and fancy dresses, but im stubborn in staying true to myself and wearing my converses and graphic tees....but i still dress girly so i dont understand it....
i dont even bother telling my friends or anyone i think im ugly because they all just tell me im fishing for compliments, but when i am crying over all the ugly ass pictures of myself i have to untag on facebok because im so disgusted with how i look, me commenting on one asking for a delete of the pic is NOT fishing for compliments...
okkay wow i just completely RANTED like, a tonne.....so im done now...but i just ....feel like i dont desrve to be loved looking the way i do...i gess im just being shallow...but i honestly dont feel good enough for anyone because of the way i look...
Do u sometimes feel ugly? well if you dont feel ugly but some body calls you ugly well every one is beautiful in their own way even u if u think ur ugly if u have pimpuls well u might want 2 try proactive it might help well now I HAVE 2 GO 2 WORK bye
you are not feel ugly.if people call you ugly then their just jelous of you and your beaty.sometimes their just bullies that like to make other people feel bad because their not as beautiful. JUST IGNORE THEM YOUR NOT UGLY O.K. bye talk to ya late
Hey...i didnt realize how many people felt the same way i do, but being ugly i think is all about the way you see yourself.I've been overweight my whole life but its now at the age of 24 that I've found that confidence is the key to feeling good about yourself. Being confident in yourself shows through more than you might think, people are drawn to people with good personalities so its true to say that beauty comes from within. Treat yourself to lil luxaries to make yourself feel good weather its a new perfume, dress, lingerie or a nail manicure go 4 it! If you wake up one day n feel like wearing your new top you've been saving to wear out "one day" why not wear it today? Use exercise to work off your stresses and feel even better about yourself- and please don't pick something you dont like! You want to enjoy the experience so if its salsa, badminton or jogging go do it!! These lil changes to my life have left me feeling less ugly - even though i have my days like everybody else i feel i have a few fall-backs to make me feel better now:) Hope this helps someone! ;-)
i know how u all feel im tall and skinny with a bony face and a big nose (people say it aint that big maybe im just being to picky tho) but i hate the way i look and it took all my confidence away i am managing to deal with tho i just look in the mirror and tell myself i look good, never let it get in the way of your life, we live in a harsh world where everything is based on celebritys and everyone has to be like them but what people dont realise is that they spent thousands making themselves look good with plastic surjory (spelt wrong i know :-P) and make up, some people however just have good genetics which gives them ideal face and features. dont change who you are for anyone if someone puts you down for the way u look turn round and tell them how shallow they are, they are only doing it to boost there own confidence cos they are insecure.
I often put my self down. Practically ever since I started high school i've been very worried about my looks. My mom and sister get annoyed about my "I'm Soo Ugly comments". I think I say them so I can get a reaction like "No hun, your not ugly." But even when they say it it doesn't make me feel better! I am chubby, my nose is big, my face is chubby, And i wear glasses. I always think that I'm "The Ugly Sister". My younger sister got contacts, cut her hair shorter, and does her makeup very well. I wish I could better myself and do those things but I can't get contacts in my eye, and i do my make up alright but not to the point of stunning. Ever since my sister went throught this total makeover when she was just about 14 she looks older (really!) and has been getting a lot of attention from guys at school (even though she's a bit over weight). I can tell that she's been getting puffed up with pride about her looks, and my mom has a lot of problems of her thinking a lot about herself and putting me down. the thing is sometimes feeling beautiful can go too far. And people who think a lot of themselves aren't very good people. I watch my sister though these last few years and I see MY nice qualities that she doesn't have. And I hate everything about me. I'm 16. My problem is I feel beautiful on the inside, but Ugly on the outside. And just because you don't have a girlfriend doesn't mean girls don't like you, they just can't see the real you, you got to show your personality. If a girl you like dosn't like you that means she isn't worth your time. Someone else WILL like you for who you are, you just have to find her. There is this guy I know and at first i didn't think anything of him because i didn't really know him well (he was my NEW FRIEND's brother). Also I didn't really find him attractive (also he's not the hottest guy you ever saw). Then a whole bunch of us started hanging out(not on dates just a bunch of friends hanging out) and I got to know him a little better. And now I get soo nervous when he's in the room, and I don't know what to say to him when we talk. Ever since I got to know him I actually find him attractive. He's funny and caring, honest, see where I'm going with this? I always wondered why I didn't like him before but then I realized it wasn't because of the way he looked, it was because who he was on the inside that made me like him. And I try to be myself around him now and I think he's giving me hints he likes me. Anyways, show your true self and she will come in one way or another. And don't think your ugly, SHE will like the way you look. Anyways, wow I typed a lot. Me giving this advice to you helps me see i have to take my own advice. Hope you find her!
just give up now ... what everyone else had wrote is nothing but a bunch of other ugly people with well i flushed hope doen the toilet a long time ago...if u havent had a piece of ass by now...then its not gonna happen for a long and when it does ur not gonna wanna tell ur friends...i have been an ugly f**k all my life still waiting for a gf and giving up on it as the days go by
take my advise...f**k it
take my advise...f**k it
Don't worry! Your appearance has so much to do with you're way of thinking. If you keep up with these thoughts, it will just drag you further down... and about the gf situation- not a problem either. My boyfriend is a really attractive guy and didn't have a girlfriend until he was 30! He was painfully shy.
Take it from me, you may not have an appearance that is thought of as typically attractive, but there are so many women with such a vast array of tastes. My friend is a really cute girl and she always finds the most offbeat looking guys attractive, or "hot" as she would say. I've known girls that were crazy over Steve Buscemi, and he isn't typically attractive. I myself am turned off by standard good looks. Tim Roth and Al Pacino were the guys I swooned after as a teenager... the prominent noses are what got me. My sister thinks Seth Rogen is wonderfully sexy.
SERIOUSLY, don't fret so much over your appearance. Be confident in your uniqueness. You've no idea how far confidence can take you (be clear: confident, not cocky), also dressing well can enhance your looks a lot. I'd much rather date an offbeat looking guy with a good personality rather than a Brad Pitt type with a so-so personality.
Take it from me, you may not have an appearance that is thought of as typically attractive, but there are so many women with such a vast array of tastes. My friend is a really cute girl and she always finds the most offbeat looking guys attractive, or "hot" as she would say. I've known girls that were crazy over Steve Buscemi, and he isn't typically attractive. I myself am turned off by standard good looks. Tim Roth and Al Pacino were the guys I swooned after as a teenager... the prominent noses are what got me. My sister thinks Seth Rogen is wonderfully sexy.
SERIOUSLY, don't fret so much over your appearance. Be confident in your uniqueness. You've no idea how far confidence can take you (be clear: confident, not cocky), also dressing well can enhance your looks a lot. I'd much rather date an offbeat looking guy with a good personality rather than a Brad Pitt type with a so-so personality.
I'm a 23 year old, female and I too have self-image problems. I feel like I look odd. I don't know how to describe it but I guess you could just chock it up to feeling ugly. I'm friends with girls that are stereotypically pretty (much prettier, i believe, than I) and boys who see that as the only way to look. I'm not fat, I'm actually really thin. I'm blonde with blue eyes (you know, the standard). BUT my face doesn't feel like its put together right or something. I've had people tell me that I was pretty and I was ugly. I've had boys obsessed with me, and boys who think I'm pretty much the ugliest person on the face of the earth. There is never any consistancy. It's completely confusing. I would say, however, more ppl think that I'm NOT the attractive one. Its either, wow you're really uniquely pretty, or wow youre rediculously ugly. I don't know who to believe. Further, whenever I see myself in pictures I feel like I want to puke. I feel like I look mildly retarded or something (no offense if you are handicapped). I've had a nose job and i still feel weird. It's like ok, ive had a nose job and i still feel ugly...I must be ugly. I dont know whats wrong with me. I feel like I'm trapped in my own body or something. ick. help.
I've felt ugly all my life. I'm 17 now and about to be a senior in High School, yet I can't even enjoy my last year because I am so disgusted with myself. I am overweight. I'm loosing weight now but every day I think to myself, what's the point. Even if I loose all the weight, I'll still be ugly. I have scoliosis, so my back isn't straight, I have acne, and I have thin hair. I am not pretty. Being overweight isn't the only ugly thing about me. I don't know what to do anymore. Loosing weight won't make me feel better about myself. I'm about to just not care completely because I am sick of crying myself to sleep at night because of my looks. I'm done.
K question, guys and gals. People tell me that I am Nice looking, not gorgeous. But still relatively handsome, so why am I a virgin at 21?