hey Toboy ..
Your welcome bro ... Trust me, i know how difficult it is to share your sexual health with even a medical professional, especially something like premature ejaculation. You are very right about these numbing and desenticising creams n stuff... Those things are the worst, trust me, coz they not only decenticise you, but they also do the same to the woman you are making love to, and she ends up getting a burning sensation .. its really nasty, trust me. and the worst thing is that it doesnt even cure anything at all ...
as i said earlier, the first step to treatment is stopping masturbation all together.. it will take a while before your body comes back to its normal state, but keep on.. Next, start exercising your PC musles, this will really help.. I also talked of a herbal energy drink called ENZOY, its not normally found here, but you can buy it off the internet. i can also help you get it , if you are willing.. This herbal drink comes in sachet form. it has a mix of ashwaganda, dextrose, sucrose etc. What this herbal drink does, is it gives you a firm erection, and even for someone who is a premature ejaculator, who ejaculates 5-10 seconds after entering a woman, your penis will remain firm, and you can continue thrusting. Therefore your penis doesnt go soft, even after ejaculating. I found this hepful, since it makes your penis glands start getting used to the vaginal enviroment, and most often, you will find youself ejaculating about 30 minutes later..
The good thing with this herbal vitality drink, is that after you drink it, your penis only gets hard when aroused, and the energy lasts inside your system for upto 4 to 5 hours .. So with using enzoy, i found out that i was gradually gaining control of my ejaculation, since i was able to thrust into a woman for upto 4 minutes, without my first ejaculation...
I'll tell you another secret .. : " WOMEN'S SEXUAL ORGANS ARE INTERNAL, UNLIKE OURS, AND THATS WHY IT TAKES THEM LONG TO GET AROUSED. SO THE KEY IS, DONT RUSH INTO GETTING INSIDE HER, BUT *FOREPLAY* IS THE GAME BRO!!! CARESS HER BREASTS, SQUEEZE AND SUUCK BOTH HER NIPPLES IF YOU CAN, TOUCH HER DOWN THERE, KISS HER NECK, EARS , SUCK HER TONGUE, AND IF YOU'RE OKAY WITH IT, GO DOWN ON HER, LICKING HER CLITORIS WHILE STROKING HER BREASTS. " ALL THESE WILL GET HER SO AROUSED, AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, SHE WILL START BEGGING YOU TO ENTER HER. ! AND THATS WHERE YOU GAIN CONTROL. KEEP PLAYING AROUND WITH HER BODY, AND ALSO YOU CAN FINGER HER GENTLY BUT ROMANTICALLY, WHILE RUBBING HER CLIT WITH YOUR TONGUE. TRUST ME, NOTHING AROUSES A WOMAN MORE THAN THIS. !!! SHE WILL GET SO WET, AND BEG YOU LITERALLY, TO SCREW HER. CHANCES ARE VERY HIGH, THAT SHE WILL EVEN EJACULATE WHILE YOU ARE DOING ALL THESE TO HER.!! SEE ?, YOU WILL HAVE ALREADY SCORED MORE POINTS THAT ANYONE RIGHT THURR.! NOW THE NEXT PHASE OF TEASING HER IS "WHILE HER LEGS ARE NOW WIDE OPEN AND SHE IS TREMBLING AND EAGERLY WAITING FOR YOU TO GO INTO HER, JUST PLACE THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS AT THE MOUTH OF HER VAGINA, BUT DONT GO IN.. SHE WILL LITERALLY START TREMBLING, SINCE SHE NOW REALLY WANTS YOU..! NOW, JUST INSERT THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS INTO HER. AND TAKE IT IN AND OUT. DONT GO DEEP, COZ THE DEEPER YOU GO, THE MORE SENSITIVE IT GETS.. THEREFORE, JUST INSERT THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS IN AND OUT, AGAIN AND AGAIN, AND TRUST ME, YOU CAN DO THIS FOR EVEN UPTO 20 MINUTES NO JOKE. 1 NOW WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE EJACULATING, THEN DIVE DEEP INTO HER WHILE THRUSTING, AND RELEASE YOUR LOAD, AND SHE WONT CARE IF YOUR PENIS GOES SOFT OR NOT, COZ WHAT YOU WILL HAVE TAKEN HER THROUGH, IS MORE THAN SHE CAN HANDLE..
i'm not writing this from theory, its something i have done before, so i know wat m talking about ... Just to let you know, there are men out there who cannot even last 3 seconds in a woman, but have women dying for their love, since they focus on foreplay, and use their tongue like a sharp sword on womens clitoris, and only enter the woman when he feels like ejaculating.. and just with that, they are adored ...! its not rocket science bro, you can do it, even better than me,,! Trust me.
Let me know how it goes ..! anyway, let me know how it goes, and if anyone has any questions, you can holla at me at "letmepractise" at yaahoo dot com . thanks guys .. lets keep this spirit on, for everyone to benefit..
Peace out .
Peace .!
That being said, here's WHY premature ejaculation happens: you have been using masturbation as a substitute for sex with another person. You are comfortable in your environment and you are the best at pleasing yourself - simple. But when you are put into a sexual situation, the emotions are so strong that you pop off quickly with the slightest stimulation. You DON'T need creams and supplements - you need to get used to sex with people, that's all.
There is nothing "wrong" with you and you didn't damage anything PHYSICALLY - but you may have caused damage emotionally. As soon as you have any sort of problem with your performance, men panic and worry about how others will see them. Men's believe that their entire life centers around their penis, so the slightest hint of something wrong puts you into a tails spin. Then it gets worse, because the more you worry about it, the more you panic and freak out...making it worse still, drawing you down into a rut that's tough to get out of.
This is ALL in your mind, that's all, it has nothing to do with masturbation - but it's the link that most assume to be the cause. Skip pills and creams and junk like that, your brain is controlling your machine, and it needs reprogramming. Once you accept this explanation to be your cause (I'd guess 95% of you on here), you have several options.
-speak to your doctor and chat with a sex counselor, they are trained to help in ways you'd never think of
-discuss it with a willing partner so she/he will understand and offer support and work with you in ways to assure you that it isn't nearly the problem you believe it to be for them
-limit your masturbation and porn and seek your relief from the warmth and energy from another human
-a very successful method is to masturbate prior to sexual activity either privately or as part of sex - this will minimise arousal temporarily and allow time to have sex without climaxing immediately. This also has the benefit that it will subconsciously increase your self-confidence and help recovery
-some men (straight with few hangups) have found it very helpful to have an understanding buddy to help get you used to being stimulated (hand job) by a hand other than your own to make you less sensitive to being touched. Before you freak out, this method is NOT a sexual situation, it is basically not much more than getting a shoulder massage. Although it's not for everyone, this method works very well because there is no attraction to act as a stimulation, and no worry about how your girlfriend may judge your performance
-stay away from people that tell you masturbation is a sin, or that it's dirty - it isn't.
There are many options you can use once you understand that your subconscious is causing the difficulty, not masturbation. In this day and age when you can sit at home with a computer for everything from banking, shopping, porn, there's no requirement to leave the house and people are becoming less social and unable to relate with others. This is a perfect example of that.
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Think about this, and good luck. I hope it helps at least one person.
Peace
My name is Sudesh from India.
Thank u for sharing your views...its an eye-opner for me...
I do mastrubate 2-3 times a day, not daily within an interval of 2-3 days...
but buddy i can feel the effect of it..as i'm losing my concentration power. But your article was so informative that it cleared my whole doubts.
thank u once again.
take care.