how to stay in love with a bipolar person

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This is normal for a person with bipolar. my boyfriend of 8 moths is bipolar and i am still trying to find ways to help him with it and help him find his happiness. as long as you love her, just always be there for her. Don't leave her because of her bipolar. she needs your support.

Hello Guy's : I have been getting a taste of a bi-polar relationship. I've been in one for about 5 or 6 mths. I noticed that it can drain your emotions if you are not careful. actually just being a decent guy put's you in a disposition somewhat.from what I gather that's the kind of Guy they want,knowing that you will put up with it some. I agree with another post .seeing her smile touches my Heart.at times I can see the child(or maybe inner child) in her;and that's okay with me.I'm on the rollercoaster ride still, until she has pulled me too far down. I guess prayer is a good outlet too; maybe we can be more understanding that way. there is obviously some severe wacki-ness to some people's minds. Good luck to all who partake in relationships like these.

I have a suggestion.  Run like hell and never, ever, even think about looking back!

i have been with my bp bf for just over a year.my story isn't a lot different.he made me aware of his condition almost straight away.we met early June last yr.for the first few months i didn't notice anything till before xmas when he had a low episode which wasn't too bad,the worst of it was i absolutely love xmas but he could hardly crack a smile.he is now having a manic episode and it has been goin on for a couple of months.events that took place leading up to it were spaced out like asking me to move in with him them 3 weeks later wanting nothing to do with me-came from nowhere(as in we hadn't had am argument) then things became more frequent like changing his mind,contradicting me constantly,he seemed irritated by me all the time,very cold with me and distance.it wasn't till it became very obvious,for eg extreme bursts of rage over little or nothing along with giving me lectures about life,what he thinks its all about,religious beliefs etc -till i got in touch with his mother and he said he would go to hospital.he spent 2 weeks in there,disappearing 1 night and had me and all his family lookin for him-only to discover he took a train home and was drinking in the local.they discharged him a few days l8r. and have changed his meds.his strange conversation has stopped but 2weeks l8r he is really bad.her up and down constantly,he could bite my head off at least 10 times a day and apologise as often.he's very cruel and cold and hurtful.its now 6.20 am and after storming out of my house 4hours ago,suggesting suicide and sayin ill never see him again,i have just walked maybe 10-15k on dark country roads lookin for him,called the police and they got him.i walked him home and he didn't speak a word.he picked up his phone at my house and is gone home.ITS TORTURE!im emotionally and physically drained.i can't even cry any more.i was afraid i would find him dead somewhere.how am i or how does anybody deal with this?im asking sincerely,i wanna stay with him but i dont know how to. deal with all this stress,anxiety verbal abuse. etc .Any advice please.

R u still with this girl cause I can really use some advice u described my relationship to a T

just going thr it been with ex for 6 years we have to kids together now the six year wernt easy but i loved her so i stood by her she had sex with someone during the 6 years i forgave her i was with her for the times she tried to kill herself..was the one who took the kids to see her in the mental ward when she tried and the she has sex with a new friend of hers and wreaked us but then says she wanted to make us work so we went on a date but i find out she was texting him to make plans for after our date the one who wanted to make us work..so we broke up and i have the kids and told her she can see the, anytime ....she never text me back wheni asked if she was ok so i took a drive to make sure she was alive and i see his car there at our house how can a preson after 6 years of everthing she ever wanted do this to the one she loved so much i dont understand how she can move on so fast after 6 years then say its cuz he remides her of how i was wen we started to date and say its cuz she is sick and will never be happy when she was she told me all the time how luck she was to have me still and she would not want to wake up to anyone but me and now this i know alot about bipolar but i dont have it she does so i cant feel it is this normal plz someone tell me

I met my girlfriend almost 2 years ago,shes the sweetest person in the world,until she has an episode,she hits me,bites,and throw things at me,i have been patient with her,and still am,i love her so much,she is 35 and im 30.im new to this bipolar,some times i feel she is doing this on purpose,but now i see that it is serious,we got engaged a month ago,out of all the verbal and physcal abuse,and to mention,that she has prostituted at her job 3 times,confessed after she quit,and acussed me for it,she told me to stay away from her job then,so i did,this was last year.She acuses me of cheating,but all i do is work and come back to her,we take care of business together,i cant even go and pay my rent without her thinking im with someone,its draining me.we been there for each other we love each other.We broke up day before yesterday 7/12/2012,she wont reply to me or will she call me,im worried about her,what should i do?somebody give me some help and advise

please.

i have been 5 years with my girlfriend. she always lies, she has cheated on me, she is not in touch with reality. even thought she has been on her meds for the past year, she is still doing the same hurtful things.

Myself and my gf are split for the fourth time this year.I leave her alone and always welcome her back and give her a big hug when she goes but if I dont hear anything back after a month I feel like just giving her a call to make sure she's okay.Its not about being back together but genuinely to know shes okay.Do u think I should.I think she knows me well enough at this stage to no that I truly am a friend and that the relationship to me would be secondary to knowing she's okay.

Sorry, my best advice is to not get involved w Bipolar. I was married 20 years to a fellow who was and is a genuinely nice guy. But just this year we divorced. In the last ten years of our marriage he racked up huge credit card bills, embezzled 30 thousand from his old job on company credit card. Had two affairs. I tried to "fix" things by remortgaging our house, lessening his stress, being more attentive. In the end it did not matter, I became the enemy even after showing my loyalty and unconditional love.

I know the bipolar people on this forum say to stick with the relationship and some have been married for a number of years. But they can't help it when they snap, they don't see it coming and have no control. You become the enemy and have to endure the worst words of anger and ill will that you will think you are the crazy one. This will hurt you and any children you have. Do you want your children to see their parent have affairs, spend their college future or take the home to brink of foreclosure all because the bipolar parent can't stop their habits, hobbies, or need for intimacy that you can never give enough of yourself to fullfill?

If you are in a relationship and see the signs now - don't stay. It gets better , then worse, then better, then worse, then sooner or later it is nothing but worse w no better. They take the choice to stay away from you in years to come by deciding to leave themselves, but only after they have spent all your money and health is gone too. 

Thanks.I actually was beginning to think I was the problem too for a while but now I realise that if it wasnt for all these break ups in the first place I wouldnt be so tense and anxious.She is my first gf I know and that would obviously make me a wee bit anxious but I know now that the bi polar is the primary problem but I'm ot saying I'm perfect either.

I ended up in a hospital nearly suicidal with my bp bf, he mentally abused me used me and loved me pushed me away fought over anything, Finally a found a wholistic healer who gave me strength. They like to play tug of war with a rope, when you let go they don't know what to do even if they dont want you there is no one to pull the other end of the rope and game over. I left him he refused to get help took medicine felt good and sickly said I feel to good this is not real an droped it, luv yourself no one has to take this nonsense if these bipolar people won't help them selves, my patience is over now I love me, I don't need to put all my energy on people like this, they can't work productivly, attack all the time, cant say anything to help them its always look at you why criticize me, 8 years I wasted, he still leaves and says sorry after two weeks enough I am not happy if he is not happy does not mean I don't need to be happy, even my worse relationships atleast made sense these people don't make any sense don't try to figure them out. live your life.

yes the story is true

I am a female 27 and a bipolar. I had 7 unsuccessful relationships full of ups and downs, one day i wanna be a make up artist the next day wanna be a university professor I am highly talented and creative I ALWAYS GO TO THE EXTREMES FOR EVERY THING.

i fail to pass 20 course at 2 first years of college but the first ranked at my Ms. studies. I am so tired of my mood changes

I really dont know what I WANT. one day I am religious and the other I AM not .........

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my girl friend is the same way