Husband only wants oral sex!

end it...you are a toy

Good for you!!! I love it when people don't stay stuck with a person who is selfish and treats them like c**p. So far, you're the only one here who refused to tolerate this kind of situation.

I love this rant!!!! You are so right about a lot of things! Not all men are selfish pricks, but nearly everyone of them mentioned here seem to be. And then there are the women who are selfish too. Just to be fair. That person who talked about sex drive was right too. People who want intercourse with each other, should be together. Let the other people go figure it out for themselves, just as long as they don't make the rest of us suffer.

After putting up with a selfish man for too many years, and finally leaving him, I realized it is very simple. Does your partner care about your happiness? If not, then LEAVE. They don't deserve you! The hurting and suffering NEVER GETS BETTER. If they are selfish now, they ARE NEVER GOING TO CHANGE! Stop waiting and wishing they would change.
I am so depressed reading about ALL these women AND men, who are staying with people who make them miserable and USE them. LEAVE THEM! You deserve love and happiness. Being alone is way better than being treated like dirt.

It doesn't matter WHY your partners don't like intercourse with you. They don't like intercourse with you! So LEAVE THEM and set yourself free to live a happier life and someday find real love.

How did I miss this rant? I love it but to be fair you should give some of us good guys a little face time. You can sit on mine for as many hours as you want. There are some of us who get our pleasure from pleasing you. I can lick my wife for hours and every time I bring her to orgasm I get one too even though my little guy is not in any "hole" or being fondled. Actually my wife refuses to touch me, or suck me but I still love to play with her vulva and vagina. Feeling her legs shake and clamp my head while she screams and moans is the best turn on I can imagine. All I have for pleasure is a little part known as the head or glans while you girls have such a selection. You enjoy having your boobs worked over and sucked. Then your clitoris is such huge pleasure center. There is the tiny highly sensitive little button plus the roots that go down both sides of your vulva. Those I can rub and lick and just play with for hours while you enjoy every minute of it and you don't even need to climax for that to feel good while there is not much of anything on me that feels good except when I cum which lasts for all of a few seconds. For the inside of your vagina there is a G spot that can be rubbed for a lot longer than a few seconds. Many girls like the feeling of something rubbing against the walls a or playing with the cervix. You are like a whole thanksgiving meal to be enjoyed for hours by a man. So grab him by the ears and make him learn how to do what you want or find someone else. I keep thinking of that cartoon of a little girl and boy facing each other wearing under pants. He is looking down inside hers and she says: "With that I'm going to rule your world" so DO IT.

":"" You want some real answers from a Real GUY? don't be afraid to go out of your way to give a little pleasure without getting anything back from time to time. As i promise you, your boyfriend or husband will think about how sexy and obedient you are........"""" F'n BS! FROM A REAL WOMAN!!!!

What misogynistic BS. This just shoes how men view women as sexual objects- treating a person as a object of sexual desire rather than a person with desires and wants of their own. You fail to realize that women are sexual subjects and have sexual desires and wants of their own. The orgasm gap shows that less than 64% of women orgasm to 95%of men experiencing an orgasm during sex, and this is because men view women's sexual pleasure less and use women selfishly as objects for their own sexual desires and disregard and ignore the fact that women need and want sexual satisfaction.

Your misogynistic response shows that you are apart of the problem by saying "go out of your way without getting anything back", " men need stimulus prior to sex we can't just jump into it" and " this will lead to great sex". why should a women go out of her way to please a man if the man won't reciprocate the favor in return by you saying that a women should always fulfill a mans desires but disregard her own and not expect any just shows you view women's sexual satisfaction as less than a mans and just shows how selfish you are when regarding women's sexual desires, like we are sexual subjects as well who deserve attention and if any man views as less or going without pleasure just shows that he doesn't care about her. men are able to orgasm in 3-5 min while it takes women about 10min so no men don't need stimulus prior there's no factual evidence for that men are able to climax just the same without a women doing anything prior to intercourse but I see you forgot to mention that women need sexual stimulation before sex, you clearly know nothing about the female body because apart of the reason women orgasm less is because of not having any clitoris or sexual stimulation before sex without that women aren't able to have an orgasm.

And lastly your final response that says women doing that for men and expecting nothing in return will "lead to great sex" just shows how you view women as sex objects a mere object to have sex with and not a person who has sexual needs desires an wants of their own. Women deserve better than that BS that women should go without pleasure, its selfish , sexist, and misogynistic if a man is not willing to reciprocate or put her needs as his priority that just shows he doesn't truly love her

He is definitely WRONG for forcing you or manipulating him to do...you are also wrong(and boring honestly) if you think youll be able to truly satisfy ANY MAN (not just your husband) with the whole "i hate giving oral sex " thing...99% of guys will run away from women who let stupid things like that come out of their mouth.....i onow thst seems harsh...but its the TRUTH!!!!...oral sex is a part of sex itself...no man or woman wants limitations like thst on their sex life....be lucky hes not cheating...i would b

I’m sorry to say this but your husband’s behaviour is absolutely abusive! I can’t believe a therapist didn’t pull him up on it. You are in no way obligated to perform oral sex if you hate it, and him is using money to manipulate and bully you into it is disgusting. What a coward. If he loved you he wouldn’t treat you the way he is. Simple as that. If he can’t accept no oral sex, why did he marry you? Surely this must have come up early on in the relationship.

I personally cannot perform oral sex as I was repeatedly forced to do it as a child by my father. I’ve had therapy but there are boundaries and limits to what I can do. I have always been open about this and made it very clear to men early on so they know exactly where they stand. I’ve had men dump me because of it, which didn’t really bother me in the slightest, because I’m a strong woman who deserved better! And I found it. I’ve been with my loving, supportive husband for 6 years now, and we have a beautiful son together. I am the happiest I’ve ever been. My husband understands and respects my feelings, and we have a great relationship despite the fact we don’t do everything sexual.

I guess the point I’m making is that everyone has preferences based on a host of reasons, and not everyone is into the same thing. Bottom line is no means no. It’s your body and you don’t have to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing. Sadly, some people don’t have the maturity to get that and they have to use manipulation to get what they want, instead of taking responsibility for getting their needs met in a way that treats other people with respect. Some relationships are just not meant to be. If I was you, I’d do everything I could to get out of this relationship. I know it sounds scary, but you can do it with professional help. You are worth more that what you are getting. Best of luck.

Sorry mate, you’re full of c**p. Lots of people don’t like oral sex, both woman and men, for many reasons. I think it’s sad if that is the only thing that holds a relationship together. Sure sec is important, but what about respect and equality.

my english is limited but i'll try..
may be you won't like it but :
1) sexual anxiety 2) he's not in to you or any other girl probably. It's not a rare situation and most times you''l hear the wrong explanations.. selfish , lazy etc.. Sex IS a selfish act ! And we like what's best for us . That is vaginal penetration no matter what , no matter gow good oral can be. I am male , 43 . I love women so , vagina , the odor , the taste , everything about a woman gets me hard. I like to receive oral , but i want SEX . Why ? It feels ten times better ! Always ! Are you sure he doesn't like guys ? Many men so but they don't know or afraid eeven the thought and they 're miserable. Cunnilingus is awsome too. Remember .. men LOVE women.

While reading your story I became very sadden. I understand your sentiments completely! My advice, he’s not going to change. Therefore, take your power back by changing the way you view his behavior. When you look at it from a different perspective, you’ll realize that you’re not alone.... as you can see from this panel. When you’re aware that your power can be channeled in a positive direction of growth and maturity, it’ll be all worth your while.

It appears that you need a game plan or strategy moving forward. My remedy:
Get a part time job
Go back to school
Pray

So I'm not the only one...
My partner of 10years is only interested in oral. It's the only thing he asks for.
He'll never initiates sex. Its hurting my self confidence. I also want to feel wanted. To have a sex life that is about making each other feel good. Exploring new ways to please eachother...
In every other way our relationship is great. But our sex life...is non existent :(

Men over 35 frequently have trouble maintaining erections. But because of certain body processes most men will wake up with a morning erection. He wants you to come back to bed in the morning because he’s hoping to take advantage of this to satisfy your desire for intercourse. You may have to wake up before your child to take advantage of this natural opportunity so you can both be satisfied. Set a vibrating alarm to wake you before your child normally wakes. Wake him with an oral tease and cowgirl. I’m going to give you another piece of advice all women should know but especially if they have an older male partner. Playing with and sucking a man’s nipples releases oxytocin (a hormone) that will make it easier for him to get an erection, maintain it, and have a more intense ejaculation from any sex act (yep, Science has finally revealed why guys have nipples! They’re a sex toy!) But you have to tell him you’re doing it because you enjoy it. He will likely resist at first if it’s an unfamiliar pleasure. Guys are sometimes shy about admitting this is pleasurable to them, often because noones ever bothered to do it to him. But you tell him you’re going to do it anyway. Begin gently and over time intensify it. Trust me, it will grow on him and he will enjoy sex even more because of it. Eventually he will admit he likes it because it feels good to just about everybody once they get past any unfamiliarity. If you develop the use of male nipple stimulation as a regular part of your sex life, all of his responses will intensify because of increased production of this important hormone. I’m sure he thinks so already, but this will reinforce his feeling that you understand him and you’re the sexiest woman alive. Oxytocin is a self-esteem booster chemical as well, which is part of why an orgasm makes you feel on top of the world.
As far as stimulating your partner while they’re sleeping; it’s funny how we often do for others what works well for us. Studies have shown that men like to be touched and petted in their sleep and it gives them a feeling of emotional security in the relationship. He’s unknowingly giving you a cue to what will work for him. Always touch him when you’re sleeping together. It will be unlikely to disturb his sleep. Women, especially mothers, tend to be much lighter sleepers than men. You can rub him and his stimulate his nipples when he’s awake or asleep. Rub them when you kiss him. You’ll have a happier, hornier husband lol
I wish you and your family a lifetime of love and happiness. Warning: Nipple stimulation may also cause additional children lol

It's been a year now, Is your situation still the same?