I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

Every time i cuddle with, kiss, or other things (which are inappropriate to list) with my girlfriend. I get this nauseous feeling, and i have to stop and take a breather. Which upsets her, because she thinks she's the problem, when i know she's not. I love this girl with everything I own, and i'd give my life for this girl. But i can't seem to do anything with her without getting this nauseous feeling. I try to ignore it for the sake of her, but the longer i kiss the worse it gets!

I seriously thought I was alone in this. Ok. Thank God. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and everytime I think about her I just feel ill. She has noticed and we have decided to go to the doctor together... But after reading this I definately feel better. I'm not crazy xD I love her with all that I am and I was beginning to doubt- but thank goodness everythings ok. Still gonna go to the doctor to make sure the nausea isn't something chronic. *sigh* Love bites.

Have you heard of psychoneuroimmunology? It's all about how the mind, the nervous system and the immune system interact with each other. Our immune system is like a sort of 6th sense and plays an important role in sexuality and mating. There is a very good reason. It links back to evolutionary instincts. It's important for survival of the species to produce offspring that have more versatile immune systems than the generation before. The more we are able to adapt to a variety of environmental stressors, the better will be the chances of survival of the species. Our immune system and nervous system react and detect patterns much more rapidly than we are able to consciously perceive and we don't necessarily consciously understand the responses with our mind at times, especially when they conflict with other feelings or needs we have. One of the ways our nervous system and immune system work together is through our sense of smell. It's the first sense we develop, and it's the last one to go usually. Even though humans don't consciously recognise all smells across the spectrum, we are still able to detect them unconsciously, as well as other mammals. We just might not consciously understand what they mean, again. It's well established now that one of the key components of successful sexual attraction is complementary immune systems, which are detectable to us unconsciously by our sense of smell. we look for complementary but different immune systems. The more different to our own, the more arousing the smell in a sexual partner. The key evolutionary benefit of this is that it prevents incest, which is detrimental to survival of the species as it affects future generations over time, leading to physical defects and also less flexible immunity. Since sexuality evolved to be largely about ensuring survival of the species, this is an important factor. This is important to understand in relation to your original point, because we can love our family members very much. But we do not normally invest in sexual feelings towards a family member, because our immune systems are too similar. You might love your girlfriend very much as a person. But your body is actually giving you feedback about the suitability of your sexual compatibility in relation to future offspring. The interesting thing is that we can still experience this even in homosexual relationships, which suggests that our immune system still reacts as though the sexual intimacy is a threat to the survival of the species, by threatening our own body. It's actually like a form of allergic response that your brain is producing. Normally, we produce serotonin, a feel good chemical, in response to engaging in behaviours that will strengthen and deepen bonds and intimacy with a sexual partner who will have a strong complementary immune system to our own and who also has personality and behavioural characteristics that will complement our own. Serotonin makes us feel happy. However 80-95% of our serotonin production occurs not in our brains, but in our enteric nervous system, which is an entirely separate nervous system in our gut. The central nervous system and the enteric nervous system interact with each other, so your gut can affect your mind and your mind can affect your gut. almost 90% of your immune system is also in your gut, which again, has a strong inter-dependent relationship with the nervous system in our gut. The serotonin in our gut has a different role, in that it controls things like nausea, the movement of our intestines. This is why many people with conditions like IBS, often report that stress is a major contributor to their symptoms. Or why people sometimes lose control of their bowels when they are really scared, or why we talk about having butterflies in their stomach when they get nervous. It's our mind and our gut interacting. The study of psychoneuroimmunology is primarily interested in looking at how all these things interact in relation to choices that we make that affect our health, including the interaction on diseases. There have been interesting studies where people with irreversible conditions, like MS, have gone into remission, just by doing things like changing a job, which they thought they enjoyed, but psychological profiling suggested otherwise - the idea being that though they consciously believed they felt one way about their job, their body was telling them differently. When you're bonding with your girlfriend, what is occuring is you are getting mixed messages. Your brain is rewarding you with feel good chemicals because you are strengthening an intimate relationship and because that is meeting some of your emotional needs, such as for intimacy, unconditional love, giving and receiving attention, recognition, sexuality and security. The trouble is, your body is also giving you feedback using those same systems, to tell you that it doesn't believe your girlfriend is the right person for you, long term. Your emotional investment in your relationship, is conflicting with your own physical health. We have the capacity to love a wide range of people. But sometimes, the people we love might not be the people who benefit our own health the most. It's important that you don't judge yourself for this. Listen to your body. There are lots of people out there who you can love, without feeling nauseous. Trust your body. It knows better than you think.

it's Limerence look it up

I get sick too I don't know what to do

It sucks I feel ya

When I started feeling this is around the time her parents found out we were having sex

Sounds like anxiety to me

I feel the exact same way with my girlfriend, Ever since I've started dating her I don't eat very well, i feel sick all the time and when I text her I feel more sick. I love her to the moon and back but it's not just a sick feeling. A lot of it is like butterflies in my stomach but when I eat I do get a sick feeling. I don't want to break up with her because I love her so much but sometimes I just can't stand feeling sick like this. It's a bad feeling, feeling sick all the time, for a while it went away but lately it's been coming back and I have no clue why.

You are only experiencing a soul awakening in my experience. A deeper part of u is waking up than usual life can touch inside. I found its helpful to breathe. deep slow and feel the feelings which arise. You might be startled. Hatred,anger,violence even from past lifes is the only way i can describe it..or maybe bad blocked out things from a childhood experience u wanted to forget and managed to. It's GOOD! Love is a safe place to be, and our memories feel "safe enough" to reveal themselves in order to make us whole again around someone we love fully and completely. I was shocked to discover what was inside AND what I would do when breathing into the nausea, pukey, even blackout/dizzy scares. I loved him SOOO much I stayed for over two heartfulfilling/breaking/rebuilding years. Still do. I've been changed irrevokably. Purified, if you will. Like digging super deep into who I can be and here's someone who wakes it up. Super super awesome and scary and fabulous and even danger, a bit, as we often "stuff" the more negative expressions of life... and this is where they have the ability to not be judged (pure love) when they come out and get purged/dealt with. Breathe, back up when overwhelmed (to prevent subconsciously harming due to unresolved fears,can happen, i know! even in a gentle gentle soul were all human and imperfect)... and observe. Fall into it. Its like being washed in giant ocean waves. No longer our process, but feels great once we make it thru! Best (and worst) relationships I've ever had. Takes maturity, for sure. But, if the relationship found you, then u must be ready.

Hi guys, I'm a 20-year-old that read this post over a year ago when I was having these problems... every time I was around my girlfriend I felt sick to my stomach, had a decreased appetite and felt really nervous, I couldn't eat much if anything at hers as I knew I'd be sick after if I did... I didn't want it to get in the way of us so I looked it up to try to find help and saw people putting it down to anxiety disorders, so many people said they had to break up with their partners as it got too much. I'm now writing to let you know that, 2 and a half years after getting together, I haven't felt anxious in about a year; it does get better (other than it does still occasionally affect me when we go out together and drink a lot (not that drinking ever helps anything, but I can drink around friends fine, but only a few if I'm at a party with her). This year we went on holiday together for a week and I didn't get anxious once. At the start of our relationship I really didn't think I was good enough for her which did make me quite nervous, but as I settled into the relationship it got easier and the anxious feeling got less and less frequent over time. If I had to give one hint it would be to spend MORE time with your partner (within reason, don't scare them off), I didn't see my girlfriend very often at first (twice a week at most due to work and education) and found that when I started seeing her a little more often and for longer periods over the summer it got better. Also I find that it's better when we're alone, e.g. when we go out for the day. I really hope this helps, don't let this discourage you from someone you want to be with, it will get better over time.

Hey buddy. I'm getting the exact same feeling these days. Even I didn't understand it . Now after reading all this, I can maybe relate to something. I guess it's very natural and nothing wrong. Personally in my case, I feel it and feel really really odd because I'm insecure, I'm afraid of her leaving me. I need more and more of her time with me. When she talks with me lesser during some day, I wish she talks more. And when she does talk more, all I want is MORE. It's like I never get enough of her. I'm afraid that I might lose her someday. This also happens while she's with some of her friends. I get this feeling of insecurity. Someone also replied that once he got engaged to her gf , this felling went away. So I'm very much sure that this feeling is because of some fear in me. Just like you, I know I'll do anything for her except giving her up. And I know she loves me. Even then, I feel this way. So, nothing is wrong . All is fine. It's just the brain working on shitty thoughts. She's yours. And you just don't wanna lose her. Keep yourself busy. Whenever I'm with her on phone, all my thoughts are about her only, my future with her, I stress or think more about my relation with her etc. So at that time, thoughts like these come even more to my brain. I guess something of this kind happening with you two. PS: It's really ironic it's me whos saying all this. But after coming to this page, I finally realised that I'm not alone. ;)

ive been dealing with this for ten years!! and i get a pain in my head and if that subsides, i feel sick...and i dont know why this happens and the only way for it to leave is it the guy leaves :( ut i dont want to let go..its something to do with me..its anxiety but i dont know what causes it

im in the exact same boat, i get the sixk feeling, a pain in my head that makes me naseous, its psychological, i have been trying to find answers for years, i know that it has something to do with me subconciously, i am not aware of my thoughts but i think that it is insecurity within myself and FEARA OF BEING CHEATED ON, or fear of rejection if he sees the REAL me...its all subconcious, i just know what i can do to change it,, cognitive therapy maybe..every single guy i have tried to be with makes me sick like this,, i get a head pain. i cant function at work, im nto myself it makes me depressed. i dont want to leave this guy.

i love this! mine used to be the sick nervous feeling at ur age but it now im 25 and it has gone into my head now..how do i get rid of it..it wont let me goto your site.. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed*** Please read our Terms of Use