I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

I feel 100% exactly like you do. It only started about 2 weeks ago where I would think bad thoughts and question whether I love my girlfriend or not. My stomach has been empty and no matter how much I try I can't eat. When I'm with her the guilt or sick stomach feeling is so immense that I couldn't deal with it. Whether I'm at work school or with her my stomach just feels anxious. We had some problems but in reality she's perfect. I don't know why I question whether I love her because I know I care so much about her and I truly believe I do love her but when I'm with her I can't help feeling like I'm trying to love her because my subconscious is taking over and questioning whether I do love her and if it's fake or not. I've seen a psychiatrist and they really didn't help much they just let me cry. I go home exhausted every day I have not had a solid meal in 3 days and it really hurts to know the pain that she's going through because I broke up with her. But I can't give her up because she's perfect and I know that something's wrong and that I think that I do love her but my mind is taking over and it's destroying me. I thought I was the only one and seeing this thread makes me feel better. I want her to understand because I can't give her up but at the same time I'm scared two go back into it and hurt her again because my subconscious is messing me up. I don't expect her to wait for me but I need to find out the answers before it's too late.

i wish i could do the same, i want to get away from my gf too bc of the same exact feeling, but i cant in anyway i tried, and it makes me more sick that if i quit on her than she will have some other man and i just cant afford to see her with anybody else , this is shittiest feeling , let me know how much time it took you to be normal after you broke up with her

i feel the same around my gf, she say that she loves me alot but can get engaged or married bc i m indian and she is mexican , so that shitty culture thing u know! so what u suggest now what should i do?

I'm with my boyfriend for 6 years. Since the day 1 I have been feeling sick!! So tired!! What to do??

Just be honest. Let her know. I feel the same way. I decided to take a break from my relationship to allow myself time to focus on myself and other areas of my life. Being sick is your body's way of letting you know something is wrong. Take a break. Things may surface and come to light.

This is a great topic this needs to be expressed more like on social media we don't talk enough about topics like this I believe it's just love because if you think about it when you first met the girl you wasn't feeling this way now all of a sudden you fall in love and you're nauseous

Thank you for the post it helped a bunch

I suffer from this issue too, with a feeling of overwhelming nausea around my partner and sometimes around food. Most people on here seem to think it is a psychological issue like anxiety, but what if it is physiological. Ive been doing some research online and I believe this problem could be linked to hormones. The two hormones that are secreted when we are in love are oxytosin and vasopressin or Anti-Diuretic Hormone (ADH). Now say that our body secretes the incorrect amount of ADH when we are around the one we love, the excess in ADH causes symptoms of Headache, Nausea and vomiting. I suggest that this is not anxiety rather a case of an hormonal imbalance. As I'm not a doctor or biological researcher this is just meer speculation but if there is anyone out there with actual qualifications in this field then I would love to get in contact and see if we can research the problem that effects all these people here

Hi I don't have any qualifications or a professional answer for you but I can speak from experience. I have no idea what causes this but i put it down to nerves and anxiety? I have suffered with this since my teens (35 now). It first happened when I was 16 and at my friends house, I had a crush on her brothers friend and when they came home that day this dreadful sick feeling hit me and i started to retch! (oh the embarrassment!) and I literally left their house there and then and rushed home! It stopped me from having a relationship or getting close to any boys for years. When I was 24 I met a guy and thought it's now or never, I had to start taking control of this awful thing. The way I did it was to not put too much pressure on anything, I thought ok so I'll agree to a date if I feel sick then I'll just cancel, and if I make it to the date and I feel sick then I'll just leave...and so on. I was nervous but the date was drinks at a bar...this helped calm things down...im not saying drink is the answer here, I'm not a big drinker but one drink can take the edge off enough to actually get past it. Obviously not all our dates involved alcohol but I found after a few dates things eased and when that awful sick feeling was there i found it best to keep talking to him, which distracted me from that feeling and after a little time it was ok. So like mentioned before, the best way to deal with this really is to face it head on and ask yourself what's the worst that's going to happen? Oh and just telling them you're nervous helps too. I went on to be with him for 10 years, we recently split. I will have to date again at some point and I'm sure my old problem will rear it's head but I will deal with it the way I did before. Mind over matter guys, if I can do it, anyone can! X

Maybe you are a very intuitive person/soul. Maybe your "gut" is telling you this isn't the right person. Many years ago I was given 'signs' to not stay with my boyfriend. I did not heed the messages. I even married him. So wrong. I stayed with him as we had 3 kids. Now older and has passed and wasted an entire life. Think it over.

I have the same thing! My stomach feels uneasy everytime im with her, its prolly because im very lucky that i have her and she is very beautiful as well. I get sick when im with her and i think that feeling only happens when you are with your truly aligned soulmate! Food becomes dull and my stomach gets queasy and i cant eat that good. I have so much love for her though so its probably natural. Im glad there are others that feel the same way as well, we are all just lovestruck lol

Im very young, and the first relationship I ever had I was throwing up for a good 24 hours until eventually he broke up with me after a day because we were young and stupid.my sick immediately went away. A year went by and I started talking to this other boy, I was pretty confedient he liked me and I sure liked him. I ended up getting the worst hives I have ever gotten in my life. And things didnt work out and just like that my hives went away. Untill this past month, im getting to know this boy and he is really nice and he is very honest about how he feels towards me, he REALLY likes me, so we were hanging out and I was falling asleep, it was around midnight, so I decided to drink a redbull in my lemonade, to stay up.He outright told me he liked me and I was so happy about it. Then I went home, and I threw up. I couldnt tell if it was the redbull (I never drink them ever) or if it was because of him. This morning I woke up thinking about him. I can feel the hives starting again, and my stomach drops everytime i Think about him, This really sucks because he is a nice kid and I like him but I can t even think about him. When im around him the feeling goes away, but when im not im in constant nausea. I mean I spend lalthe my time wondering about how nice it would be to have a boyfriend, and when I get near to having one, this happens. What do I do?

Yeah, don't go to psychiatrists, they cant help you. They'll just make you more frustrated because it's impossible for another person to understand how you feel. Psychiatry is a HEAVILY harmful, overrated, crock of quack science shit that will be abolished one day when smart doctors realise how harmful it is to a hurt mind. Going to psychiatrists can get you into trouble too. They'll lock you up. Once i told a bitch psychiatrist my feelings & i got 3 days in a shitty hospital with bad food. Avoid psychiatrists they're crooks only after vulnerable people's money.

Tell him you want to be his girlfriend. Only then will he be comfortable to take the next step. Girls can be terrifying. You are the one that own the keys. He's not going to step forward until you give him the keys & permission. This is a mistake girls always make. You expect the guy to make the first move, but you don't realise you have to give him permission to first. He's waiting for your permission ;)

I too have the same problem. I will try this.