I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

Hey, I'm the guy who posted that message you quoted. Since I posted that over a month ago, I've been feeling normal again whenever we chat. I had to look inside myself and question myself about what I want with her. I asked her many questions as well to try and understand what she sees in me and why she doesn't want to lose me. It's clear that we both want to spend time with each other and stay in contact forever. As I said in the earlier post, we both know we can't have a life together. We've both accepted that. We both want us to find our partner in our own region. We see each other as very close friends, but we feel that there is something special between us as well. We want to go a little further than in your average friendship by being more intimate with each other. We are not exactly sure what we feel. Neither of us has truly felt in love with someone, so we can't tell if we're in love or if it's more of a "friends with benefits" type of situation. We wouldn't mind either situation. As long as we do stay in contact. We both look forward to meeting each other, just to see what exactly we feel. We both love each other as friends, just like how one loves his/her parents, but to say that we're in love would not be as accurate to describe these feelings we have. Besides, we won't really know for sure what we're like until we meet. I've already realised she's not the perfect partner. There's no such thing as that. I even asked her what she thinks are her biggest flaws, both physically and in terms of her character. I told her mine as well, just so that things stay two-sided. It helped me understand her as an individual. Some of her character flaws do bother me a little. But at the same time, I want her to be comfortable around me at all times, so I told her she just has to be who she is, whether it bothers me or not. I don't want to tell her to be different just for me. I want to give her the freedom she deserves, because I want her to give me that freedom as well. All in all, things are better now. No, things are fantastic now! I didn't need a doctor or any medication to get through this. I think it was just a phase. Maybe I felt a bit insecure because I thought she didn't care about me as much as I care about her. But the opposite is true in a way. Now at times I feel like she cares more about me than I care about her. She has been telling me how she doesn't want to lose me, no matter what, and that is really reassuring for me. I was scared that she wouldn't care about our friendship as much as I did. I think that was the biggest reason why I felt so sick while spending time with her. All of that stress and nervousness because I didn't know if this was real or not. Who knows... For all people who are dealing with this, talk with your partner. Tell him/her you're not feeling well when you're with him/her and ask him/her to help you out. You have to 100% trust each other to get through something like this. Honesty is key here. I only recommend doing this with someone you have had more than a date with. Talk about the things you love about each other. But you should also talk about the things you don't like about each other. Quit hiding your feelings from each other, both positive and negative feelings. Tell each other you care about each other so much that you wouldn't want to lose each other. Being able to trust and be honest with the other has helped me out a ton!

Depression is a chemical imbalance , no need for psychiatrists to pump you up with more pills and chemicals , you might as well smoke crack or drink to relax

I felt the same way about my bfs in the past (all of them) like the second we started dating there was this huge pit in my stomach. They were all perfect and great, but i had so much anxiety. I could't eat or sleep. But then I found the term aromantic and romance repulsed, which I think fit me very well. At that point I stopped forcing myself to be in relationships to feel normal and fit in to society. Hopefully this helps you, but idk, it's just my experience.

TO EVERYONE READING THIS. Hi everyone i wanted to share my story because i had this exact same problem. I have had a problem in which i used to get sick to my stomach i couldn't eat and i always used to vomit before seeing my girlfriend or with my girlfriend. The story behind me and my girlfriend was i left her and we got back with eachother after 2 months its now been a year since then. the first time i got sick was when i was with her and her friends at her friends house i went outside and spewed up. Every single time i would see her which would be once every 2 weeks or once every week not including school i would vomit or be sick before i would know i was going to see her. I trusted her but i was completely protective over her and anything small that would make me protective would make me sick even if i wasn't with her. We both live in the same street just to add to the story. Our first date i had to get out of the cinema to vomit which upsetted me and her a lot she got sick of me being sick i could tell. NOW this is the part where everything gets better. we started talking may 2015 and its nearly may 2016 I was always sick between may 2015 till about February 2016. Then this happened I pretty much went out with her everyday after school weekends after about the third day in a row my sickness starting going down i could actually eat around and with her obviously it didnt take only 3 days to make this happen it took a YEAR because I think when i was always with her i got confident in my stomach and it made me feel not sick. So what im saying is you have to maybe spend a lot of time with your parter and you should get used to not being sick making you not sick at all. Its the best thing ever after you have control over your sickness anytime i feel sick when we fight or argue or i get protective i can make myself not sick by just taking a breath and just waiting a couple of minutes this actually works trust me. So now i get sick once in a while usually after school because i walk home with her and before i walk home with her and meet up with her at the gates i usually get a sick feeling in my stomach but the reason is that we dont really talk at school and seeing her and not talking makes me feel weird idk i dont wanna get into detail but yeah now when i go on dates i dont feel sick and i hope i helped anyone out there im sharing my story because I too went on this exact same article around august 2015 so thank you and hope i helped :)

Thankyou soo much I'm suffering from the same problem now and it's great to know that their is a solution to this ! Any further updates or tips would be awesome. Thanks soo much

Thankyou soo much I'm suffering from the same problem now and it's great to know that their is a solution to this ! Any further updates or tips would be awesome. Thanks soo much

My girlfriend (whom I've been seeing for 2 years) sometimes feels really anxious and sick, this only seems to happen with me, this bring only about 5 times but all in the last year. I can't help but feel it's my fault and I don't know how to make things better.

I'm having the same thing as well. I see this stunning girl sometimes when I'm on the bus that I really like. I don't know who she is and we haven't talked but my stomach feels sick when I think about her.

Same with me. I've been dating my girfriend for about a month now. But the thing is I literally have no attraction to any of this stuff. Kissing makes me want to puke, and sexual things just flat out make me sick to my stomach. And she's really romantic, I can't tell her or I have no way to tell her these things. And to be honest right now, I regret saying yes to her because I can't give her what she needs. I can't deal with the stress. I don't think this is a phase because I've had this feeling with several other people in the past and I'm getting to the point to where I don't want to be in any relationships. I'm starting to think that I'm Aromantic?

it's all good, you have all met your twin flame soulmate...run back as quick as you can to them...the sickness is every fibre of you shivering with the connection...go for it

Hmmm are you taking any new medications.? Wellbutrin does the same thing to me. Hope u figure it out

I have the same problem. Feeling panic, nausea... I think i'm lithrosexual/lithromantic.

I have the same problem. Over the last two years every relationship has ended because I always get to sick. I am unable to eat around my gf and throw up a lot of the times when I am with her or about to see her. I have noticed that the longer I get into the relationship sometimes the worse it gets. I just don't know if I should wait it out and time will heal or if it will never go away.

Thank you so much

I'm the same exact way. Every time I know I'm going to see my girlfriend or sleep over at her house I end up throwing up for a solid 20 minutes before I see her or while she's over. It's not exactly a turn on. We've been dating over 6 months and it still happens consistently