Mothers who leave their children

Im crying for you...I am so sorry for what they have done to you and your daughter. Your not one of the Mom's who doesn't want her responsibilities, and gives up, selfishly, you fought for her, want her, Grieve over losing her, and heartbreat over the brainwashing they are filling her head with. Praying for you tonight. God WILL provide a miracle for you and your daughter, we may not know how, or when, but keep perserving...xoxo

Hi I'm am a single father raising my 9year old daughter alone her mom ran off 4and ahalf years ago its hard for me and my daughter sometimes but we do ok we love each other a lot I could never leave my kid. Some people are so selfish.

As a mother who left her children, the answer is because someone has taken away her self worth and she doesn't feel like she is good enough for anyone including her children. She feels they are better off without her.

Hi, my mom left too when i was 15. She had 7 children ages from 15-4. its been very hard but you really have to be strong about it.I still can't seem to ger thru to her that her children still suffer and she the only one who can try ti make things right it feels like a piece of you is missing. its very sad. I really thunk those mothers have a screw or two missing

Bring him to me, I'll provide a loving home.

Hi im a Step-mom to three children aged 15 and twins 13, i also have two children of my own 16 and 12. The past five years have been an emotional roller coaster, my husbnd watching and knowing his children werent being properly looked after at home with their mother, they hid it so well. Even steering my husband to always picking them up and dropping them at their nans, we wondered why the same clothes each fortnight, why they hardly spoke. Until what will be two years ago April, they day they were abandoned and the last time they saw their Mother, no Goodbye ..nothing! wihout going into too much detail, two days after she had dissapeared we went to their home to pick up belongings only to find the house empty, skip on the drive, their belongings inside together with their broken up beds, and this will stay with them for the rest of their lives. Her family also dont want to know the children cos they know they want answers, how can they egnore their grandchildren???? After settling them in my daughters school i began the task of getting them counselling which isnt easy and has taken along time , i got the Family Group Councelling on board with us which took 6 months to geta meeting sorted with the Grand parents myself my husband the children and their Mother, the Grandmother declined and said it was nothing to do with her and the Mother doesnt want to attend. So a second blow to the children that until they are old enough to find her themselves to try and get answers, they must now get on with their lives. we now have a lovely chap that is with us for the next twelve weeks and hopefully can help us all to cope as a family. Fortunately our children have grown up knowing each other as my husband and I have been together since 2004 and they do get on. I often try to put myself in their shoes to try and feel how they do and reading some of the letters has given me an insight. but I do know the hurt will never ever go away.  

that's so sad for you...

I am a single father of two outstanding boys, 18 and 15. They are well mannered, loving, very appreciative young boys, honor students as well. My youngest was diagnosed with aspergers which makes him all the more a heart strangler and adorable. My ex left us when the boys were 11 and 14. Since that time she has made many efforts to connect with me but not the boys. Being well aware of all the pitfalls many breakups encounter I was determined to not make the same mistakes. I never kept the boys from her, actually was quite the opposite I tried to encourage her to see them, and kept the boys well adjusted and still willing to see her even after countless broken promises she made to them. The boys are doing well even though this is something we never wanted. This has been very hard for me as a single father but I love them so much it makes all I do more than worth it.I just never will understand how or why she never sees them.

Hi There, You are not alone. My Mother abandonded me as well. I was sent to live with my Dad, and she told me, I was going to "visit", as I had many other times. I am a successful business person. However, the Hole in my Heart, is there. You are not alone, my Dear. It is better that she left.

Cha, dads who leave thier kids get a welcome home. Ive heard so many of my friends say they forgive their dads for leaving, but why not mothers? my mom put me up for adoption, i dont give a fuck. Why is it ok for dads to leave and not mums? consider that she has already wasted her body and her time and her innocents giving birth to you. She does bot owe you anythibg, if anything you owe her her free time and peace.

The woman I married 13 yrs ago would have chosen our kids life over mine. The person that has left us.Told me that she has been torchered for all these years. She says all the same things that all woman say when that want a divorce, Pick the worst things someone could say and i did that to her. My promise to her is I will never be a bad person in my childrens eyes. After she called the police she was arrested twice now, my daughter has nightmares my son doesnt understand. Now I am angry because of what she has done to them. And the sacrifices they have to make because of their selfish mom. My daughter thinks her mom hates her. My son is afraid I will leave also. This person doesnt call them doesnt make an effort to see them. I dont consider any person who leaves thier children human.... Especially women

It began 2 1/2 years ago, when my wife basically abandoned our family.  She wanted almost NOTHING to do with the daily lives of her 2 kids, her husband, her best friends, her "adopted" mother, her church...she just likes to dress up like she's 18 (she's 50) and go out to the bars and get really drunk.  Skin tight jeans & heavy cleavage tops.  She only will associate with "professional drinkers" like herself.  I tried to get her in to counseling and therapy, but she told me that everyone was crazy and that she had no problems with drinking or depression.  She was in total denial (I have over 10 photos of her passed out on the couch with a Vodka bottle!!). Unable to endure the heartache and looks on my children's faces, I finally gave her an ultimatum.  We were divorced in September of 2013, after 25 yearsof marriage.   Although I hated the whole "abandon the family" situation, I am truly in a much better place right now.  I feel sorry for her because she now lives in an apartment the size of my master bathroom, is constantly broke, and works as a checkout girl at Kroger...but then again, she did this to herself.   The more I read about with this "mother abandons her life" scenario, the more I understand how common it can be. The judge awarded me the kids, the house, ocean real estate in NC, my business, 95% of all of the household belongs and she pays me child support.  I have become MR. MOM...and I love it!  The kids are safe & secure in their original home & we do EVERYTHING together!  My son gets all A's and is a scholarship "to be" athlete.  Daughter has a full golf scholarship and will earn her bachelors degree in just 3 years!!  So I guess my advice to those men out there that suffer the same "what the hell just happened" abandonment of your wife - hold tight, love your children, and rest assured - sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side!!    

You are a wonderful beautiful person and when you have children you will be an amazing parent

Why are children abandoned by their parents?                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Either because the parents do not afford to keep a child or because they think they did a mistake and they do not want the child.They should not play with the life of an innocent kid!

Moms sometimes know that they will do more damage staying then they would by leaving. It was NOT your fault.  You were a kid and your mom just didn't have the resources to deal with her issues. She felt that her problems would have made her hurt you - either emotionally or physically.  She hoped that a new mom would make it all better. That a new mom would would be better than her.  Pity her, hate her, forgive her.  Do whatever you need to make you feel ok about yourself. That's the only thing she would have wanted.  Again, it's not your fault.   People are imperfect and it's tragic when their problems affect a small, innocent child.  I wish you the best and hope that you find your peace.