Mothers who leave their children

I am a mother of 3 and think about leaving all the time. It's not because I don't love them, it's because I love them that I want to leave. I truly feel they are much better off without me. My husband is a horrible support but he is all I have. I live 6 hrs away from my family and friends and have no one around to help me when I need it most. I'm doing everything on my own day and night and both myself and my husband are stressed beyond our limits. I've been very emotional and my kids only see me cry or yell. I can't keep it together any longer and am only depressed anymore. My children deserve a better life than what I can give, and a much better parent than the mother they have. I worry constantly about how I'm damaging them and that I can't let them think this misery is normal and acceptable. They are so much better off without me around. I'm a horrible mother to them and they deserve so much better than me.

This is exactly my story happening as I write. Except I am the father and my wife is leaving me and the son tonight for an apparent better life. She tells me she was never cut out to be a mother and she gave birth to a child on my insistence. My heartbreak aside (10 years of marriage), its good to hear from the child's point of view (my son is 3 years old right now). Tell me more on how I should raise him. You seem like a responsible and well groomed grown up now. I feel completely devoted and responsible towards my child's life and I resolve to raise him up well. Still clueless as to why it has suddenly happened, and how I should undertake the new journey of my life. I came to this discussion because I still do not believe why a mother (or a father for that matter) would abandon a 3 year old.

Sounds kind of selfish... Only thinking about your happiness, your new life. GET YOUR BIG GIRL PANTS ON BE AN ADULT AND RAISE THOSE KIDS.

It might look really hard right now but I'm a single father who brought up my kids from 8 & 10 2boys. Now 17 & 19. They are now great young men. So many people came out of the woodwork to help. Your lucky my x walked out with a text not to be seen for months. I got in with people at church. My kids don't believe but the 10 commandments have served us well

My mother left my sister and I when I was 8 and my sister was 9-10 years old. She chose my stepfather and their family together over her first born children. All while knowing her husband was a pedophile. Growing up was hard, I thought I was worthless due to the fact she loved a child molestor over her own children and there was a lot of hate in my heart not only for her and her husband, but myself as well. My father was/is incredible and I'm forever grateful for him but with his three failed marriages, all of which expressed hate or dislike towards his two daughters, we struggled to form good relationships with any girls or women. I was angry for a while but now I have forgiven her for myself. I am grateful for what I have and the life I was given because it shaped who I am, and now I know everything not to do as a mother and will give my children when I have them the love and care that I have always wanted. I see no reasons to leave a child for another person, the only reason I feel a parent should not be with their children is if their safety and well-being could be compromised

I am 29 years old, and have been disappointed by mother my whole life. she has always chosen men over her kids for as long as I can remember. I recently let her come live with me and my husband after not seeing her for about 4 years. but I found out she was homeless living in and out of motels and being abused, so me and my husband deciced to let her come live with us assuming she was ready to change her life. well thts where I went wrong, assuming. she had already abandoned my two youngest brothers about a year ago just left them at my aunts house to go be with someone who beats her and only cares about drugs. she was with us 3 weeks two days after Christmas, of this year 2015, she left me in the middle of the night. I woke up so happy that sunday morning looking for my mom so we can go to the mall or out to eat since it was my first day off with her since she got here. I only found a letter in her room. As soon as I seen that letter I knew what that meant, I couldn't breath I just stood there in shock, I felt my heart just dropped and start pounding. she changed her number because she didn't want to hear my voice. in the letter she asked my husband to hold me while I cried. her letter just made no sense to me. I am so crushed and I cant stop crying. so I was hoping by typing this it would help me a little and also by reading other peoples stories. thank you for taking the time to read this.

you need to get it together for those kids. take it from me the worse thing you can do is leave those kids. read my story, my name is Amanda. , my life was rough but all I want, need, and wish is for my mom to want me and come back. I am 29 years old and I still just want my mom

My mother left my sister and I when I was 5, she was 3. Her parental rights were terminated soon after due to being unfit parent. My father told me she would be allowed to see me when I turned 18. Naturally I thought it would happen. I expected by then she would come looking for me. It never happened and what did happen was quite the opposite. It turns out that no matter how much I want her to know I would always forgive her for being irresponsible as a young person I would always take her back. I have had opportunities to reach out to her and she continues to run away. I am 35 now and all I want is my mom to change her mind and want me in her life. I feel like I will never have peace till she can hold me and tell me she needs me too. I long for a reunion that I will probably never get. Those of you planning to leave your kids... Make sure you go back someday. They need their real moms no matter what you did to mess up. No matter how long is been they will never forget you. I was 5 years old when I lost my mother, 30 years ago. I want her back everyday. I never not miss her... I always miss her. The older I get the harder it becomes.

This was nice to read. My mother left me 30 years ago and all I want is to be in her life. She is mentally unstable also... She avoids my invitations to connect, I wish I could say maybe it's better this way but I really miss her. I miss her and I really don't know her at all.

I am so happy to read a story like mine. I'm 35, my mom left when i was 5. It's not getting any easier, miss her more now than ever.

I am so sad reading that. I am a mom of four ages 9-18. Been married for twenty years. My husband is 21 years older than me. Very controlling. He has said he would keep the kids etc...Take my car etc if I left. I did leave and I came back because the pain was too much away from my babies...but I will leave again and want my children to know I want them...I will move overseas where I have a support system. Very very sad. I am so sorry. And feel for you and your daughter.

i left 2 year old baby with ex husband and i never regret it . i felt that man and his seed should stay together, and i have right to life my life the way i want it. i hated being a mom.

Such a brave thing for you to say. I have two children, they are amazing children but I have struggled for 5 years by myself. I never wanted children by had a controlling partner. Now he has a four bedroom house and a new partner and I am facing homelessness. I think the time has come when he needs to take some real responsibility. Why is it that in a time when gay couples can have babies and families (which I am all for by the way) but why is it still seen as such a bad thing for a mother to leave? Why is a mother that leaves classed as 'mentally ill'??

My heart bleeds, for all those children that were left behind abandoned by thier mother, I am so sorry, I have three beautiful children and one wonderful step son, his mom gave him up to my husband in court at age 10, it was really hard for me to see him depressed all the time, asking me, "when will I see my mom". It was so hard for me to answer, when I knew what she had done, now he is 15years he is much better or atleast he acts like he Is much better, I know he feels angry inside, he is not proud to claim her, she is Mexican so he is half white/mexican, and he does not like to say he is half mexican, which I can understand , but I tell him he should be proud of who he is, regardless of what has happened, I am here for him and I have been a mother to him ever since his mother left him I took over :) I love all my children, and I could never ever imagine leaving thier little lives.

My mom left me when i was 2 months.i really dont know the reason why i miss my mom every second in my life time ya i acsept tat i was abondened by my mother but i still love her till today i m growing with my grandmaand my dad eventough i have everything i dont have love i smoke coz of this eventough i m just 15 because i hate living motherless i know suicide is not a best way to die fast but smoking kills me scilently the reason i wanna die fast is everyone has got a mother but why my mom called saw me as a sin and left me when i was a kid. Wat dose a 2 month old baby knows. #HateMySelf