Mothers who leave their children

If you are a female, and you can DITCH TWO FAMILIES, back to back, and for no reason other than you don't want to grow  up, and have responsibilities! You don't have kids just so you don't have to get a fucking JOB! Then just ditch them when the guy is sick of your immaturity, and wants you to finally step up, and grow up!

You should have yourself checked out for post natal depression - 25% of women have it after giving birth to their child.

Hello there, I can relate as well. I am furious, proud and upset at my mother and father for not raising me. And they still call themselves parents. No they aren't. They did raise me for a couple of years, but not my whole childhood. If the parents do not raise you and you still look up to them, then they aren't role models. It's a ashame to see parents abandon their child like that, isn't it?

In reply to guest above, previous post. Sounds like whomever was around you growing up-even neighbors or friends, made you who you are today. Despite, the tragedy that happened to you as a child, you have your head on straight. My post is 2 pages ago. But my mom left my brother & I when we were little. Dad did EVERYTHING!! I don't she has ANY right to call herself a parent. A PARENT-never stops being a parent!! Good for u!!

Just cause you mother leave does not mean she doesnt miss you or love you, i don't know your circumstances but my mum, wanted me but she knew it would be better off for me with my dad because of financial issues and my dad wanted me and my brother to much to let us go.

I agree sometimes the situation is no life for a child, and perhaps leaving is actually the most loving thing to do. Another good point you made, very important, is to never assume you know why a person has left or is selfish or do not love their family. I cannot imagine any mother in their "right" mind leaving their kids and until you are in someone else's shoes, you cannot judge them. It just perpetuates rejection, separation, misunderstanding, and all the shit that at some point caused her to leave in the first place. Love is what is needed, not condemnation. I bet you that every mother at some point when asked if they would ever leave would say emphatically no of course not and yet it happens. Let's try some compassion.

I so agree with what gurlfriend84781 said in her reply

This is a beautiful reply and really speaks out to the mothers that are hurting inside

I wish I'd seen this so much earlier and hope you're all well. You have/had postpartum. I had it. And now am so happy and honored to be with my son. Hope you got some help and that things improved

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my mother left me when i was 7 years old. without w mother father , grandparents no one to help me grow up. i was left on the streets. i am not 58 i miss my mother yet i am very angry at her for leaving me. she was a drug addict.

I feel deep sympathy for everyone of these stories on this page. I came here to learn what i should be doing. Im a grandparent whos been raising my grandchild since 6 months of age. Now the child is almost 7. Very happy, very healthy, outgoing, independent, smart, a real neat kid. Never met the mother. For the past year my daughter began demanding i give her child back to her. I refused and told her how much damage this would cause to this bright beautiful kid. She went to a lawyer for a consultation, told him a bunch of lies. They threatened that im going to prison for kidnapping. Other lawyers told me that ive done nothing wrong. I recently heard from her again, she didnt apologize but she begged me to move to the state she lives at so she can be a part of her life. She didnt have the money to pursue any case against me. My heart breaks for her just as much as for the child, but i dont want to disrupt the childs life. Im lost and would love some thoughts or advice on this. Please someone, what is the right thing for me to do?

How could u survive on the streets at just 7 years old sweetheart? Im so sorry. Heres a hug from me to you. I had a rough childhood too but not that rough. May God bless u and treat u sweetly with many blessings.

You said the words ive been feeling for 7 years nana, feels like a living death at times for me too. I finally moved on with my life and gave my grandchild a wonderful happy childhood, and out of the blue the mother, my daughter contacts me and demanded her child back. Anyway i put that in my other post. Just wanted to say the words u wrote hit home for me too. Maybe we can chat sometime and be some support for each other. Granny talk. Smiles n hugs.

my mother left me and i will never know her. she has never made contact with me or tried. she abandoned me when i was not even two years old. even if you're emotionally unstable, don't leave. its hard to live with only a father. kids need two parents. that's why two people join as one to form a child. stay. your child needs you.