Maybe you ladies should get hobbies instead of sitting around complaining about your husbands.
I also had enough of my husband's game addiction. This month is a whole year of non-stop gaming. Our little family of three is falling apart and it never register in my husband's mind that we're slowly becoming strangers. No communication, no family time and our love is fading away. At first I thought this is just a getaway or hobbie. Who doesn't play a little game now and then? But this constant gaming after work till midnight, day and night through the weekends...no dinnertime together..its eating me up. I confronted but it was useless. Its bad enough that our relationship is suffering, what about his only daughter? Just wasting life away in this imaginery place with these online people he friended. Am I being selfish for asking for some attention and love for both of us? This is not normal! I know he's stress about his family and money, but shutting us out like this is not fair. I put up with this for a whole year and gave him space without taking if away, but this is ridiculous! After work as I'm walking through the door, I see my husband sitting in front of the screen. He eats everything in front of the screen. I go to bed and sees him still sitting in front of the screen. It's like seeing a stranger sitting in front of my screen everyday. One day curosity got the best of me, my husband wasn't home, I checked to see what's got him staying up all night hooked like that. Found out there's a chick he's been communicating with online. The sweetest words he says to her that I haven't heard him say to me all this year. I don't know if I was suppose to be hurt, furious or laugh?! I mean is this even real? I know life is a struggle and we have difficulties but why do I feel like I'm facing it by myself to support our daughter while he escapes into this game world messing with an online chick? This is unhealthy for us. We have a daughter to care for to raise. I was furious! He's a grown man 35ish and shutting himself into this. I did what I thought was right at the heat of the moment. I deleted everything. I know he was going to be furious with me but he needs a reality check! Later that day, he found out what I did and storm into the dining room and cursed at me for deleting his sh**. He was pacing back and forth while I was trying to reason with him. I had my cell phone in my hand at the time and he grab my phone and threw it against the wall. I was in complete shock. All I heard was my daughter crying....I'm done.
I have read a lot of the posts on this, seeking to know that I'm not alone or insane in this. I feel brokenhearted for all of the women suffering with their husband's gaming addictions, or any addiction that causes him to be distracted from reality around him, hurting loved ones in the process. A distraction that is completely self-centered when it causes him to neglect the pain and hurts of his wife, who is crying out to her mate to be that help mate, shoulder to cry, to help her carry her burden as well the burden she already carries of her husband's, because that is her nature.
To you, David Grant, you who as well have the same name of my husband, your words made me cry; because those are the words I have been longing to hear my husband say. I do not want him to give up what he loves and his outlet. I am all for that and completely understand the desperate need of escape to refresh oneself. But when the addiction is so consuming that he is irritable with those around him, neglects to help his wife with her burden, feels he is entitled to spend hours and hours for himself day after day, week after week, for years, when she is left doing the brunt of all house work(yes there are moments he helps, but came after pleading with him for help), tending to the families needs, regardless of the number of children she has, waits on him because she loves him and her heart loves to do so, and if she does have more than one child (which makes it that much harder for her), as well her husbands outbursts of irritability mistreating the children because he has no clear understanding of what's going on in a given situation…because he’s distracted by his game, then on the moments he deems...only allows a certain period of listening to her (NOT reality, as any woman knows, or else we’d have a list of things to share all at that one time he allowed), whether its a complaint or something she loves...just wanting her husband to love her with his ear at the moment...he then feels fair to decide whether what she says is worth listening to and refuses to acknowledge and continues on his gaming.
This is where our anger and hurt come in. I'm sure many women willingly have given their ear to listen to their husband as he comes home and unloads his workday and frustrations on her because she is there to love him and validate him, but then refuses to give her that same love. We feel alone! We feel unappreciated! We've been abused with neglect and verbally abused, abandoned by our so called best friend, told that our complaints or concerns of being hurt by them in their time of gaming, are “OUR ISSUES, NOT THEIRS; THEY WORK AND THUS DESERVE THAT AMOUNT OF TIME FOR THEMSELVES,” completely disregarding the wife and her pain and cry to be heard and understood and helped.
Do the men not understand that when we are with them and interacting with them it is healing and refreshing for us as well? Do we as wives not also deserve refreshing that does us good as well our marriage bond, thus creating a more healthy family atmosphere for children, not to mention the makings for a “super sexy wife, ready to pounce her husband,” because he….self sacrificed for the good of his relationship to show how much she means to him. He listened and grasped her heart and took action. Do men not know how sexy they become to women when they listen, hearing her out and then saying how can help you wifey? The woman, in her nature lives through her words, and we need husbands that are willing to understand this need of ours. You men force us to understand your outlet need, yet neglect your wife’s. We do not search outside as you do, it is not in our nature, so why assume we should be like you?! You made it safe for us when pursuing us, because…you listened…we could be ourselves. Why did you stop loving us in such a way? We all would be more than eager to fulfill your desire to game, whathaveyou, if you noticed our needs as well, putting us in a moments notice before your game. Put your wives back in their rightful spots in marriage. But, we are neglected and have been put back on the shelf to collect dust.
Yes, we all have our short comings, I'm sure none of the women are saying that they are perfect. We are saying, “WE are hurting!” If you love us, take this splinter out before it festers further. “If your hand or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire. And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire. (Matt 18:8-10 NKJV) Learn what is good, right, and true! Love and nurture your blessings, taking care of those PEOPLE, not “things” which hold no real value in the grand scheme of things. Life is more important that the material.
Yes, I'm sure most of these women would do well to have an outlet, but then are we just spraying perfume and putting lipstick on a pig? Healing starts in the home, lest she go out seeking healing outside of the home that would destroy. Husband’s have drunk of the poison that infects their whole body (family) with these outlets of theirs. Have an outlet, but priority first. You are men now, with wives and children as blessings to you. Do not take them for granted.
“The Lost Goal for the Prize"
A man wants what he wants with passion and desperation!
Once attained, he leaves the prize utterly abandoned;
The prize decaying with neglect!
It sits on the shelf, unattended, without notice,
All the while the beams of beauty that once captivated the man
Slowly dim with rust and dust.
Oh if only, if only, a daily eye would come upon it!
Oh if only, if only, a daily touch would sooth it!
Oh if only, if only, he took notice once more;
To give of his heart, to give of his ear,
To aid this broken prize back with tender care.
Now for those who do hold Christ in their hearts, (to those who don’t, please, don't turn away, I’m not at all trying to be more righteous or offensive, just here to validate and help, as well.) Christ is our example of the perfect husband, giving himself up for the church (His Bride) and those who would call on His name. He is our comforter, our strength through all trials of life. When your husband is not, let God be.
We all suffer together to help one another, wherever you are coming from, beliefs or not. There is no one perfect, but Christ. But when you give your pain, your burden to Him, He promises to take it. Though you longsuffer through your pain, for so did and does Christ for us; do not give up, Joy comes in the morning! I love God with all my heart, soul and mind. I make mistakes like the rest, and more than I’d like, and I do not count myself better than my husband, but do recognize gaming is a splinter in marriage, and without proper managing with careful consideration of loved ones, it can destroy, if allowed and ignored.
Peace and rest,
Your sister, who pains with all of you who hurt.
Much love ladies! And many prayers of strength for endurance through your struggles. Please don't become jaded by my belief in God almighty, in whom I stand and believe is the Great God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, The Beginning and the End, of Old and New Testament, Who sent His only Son that we who would see our need for Him would have life and more abundantly, which is His plan from the getgo. I am still treading these waters along side you, and though I cry I am comforted and know that we have a Savior and have each other so as not to walk alone. And we MUST continue to listen to one another with compassion and understanding, for there are many, many others just like us. Sorry for the length, but if at least one is uplifted, it made it worth it.
With regards to the post of BrokenbutHopeful,
There is much Hope to be had. If you ladies, my fellow sufferers with loved ones’ with addictions, will allow me to share yesterday’s events; I shared my post with you, above under the name: BrokenbutHopeful, letting you know that I am hurting right there with all of you ladies.
When I wrote yesterday's, I had been suffering with the pain of this gaming issue, like you, once again, as well I developed a serious migraine. I shared with you my beliefs and how I have been able to make it through these years with my husband's addiction...it has been with prayer and trusting in Christ Jesus, looking to His word to know what He says to us about marriage, how we should treat each other, and who Christ Jesus is to us in all situations (our ever present help in time of trouble). It has been through much growth in this area, learning to remember His words, listening to His still small voice speaking to my heart, and through much crying out to Him to teach me and help me with my husbands gaming and to see where I might be wrong; asking Him to take this burden from me, to help me to trust Him to answer, however long it takes for that answer to come, knowing He does hear me and does answer when we truly seek Him for help with all our heart.
I prayed, like I always do in this situation, because it had come to an issue of provision. My husband was angry with me for once again expressing my hurt because of his ignoring me due to his gaming. So, because he had ignored and later asked for affection, I refused in my pain, not saying I was right in refusing, but due to my refusal he decided to hold back finances so as not to get food for the house and our children. Now, I'm sharing this detail because maybe at least one of you might relate to this. I know, through the word, that the Lord says, "You have not because you ask not, so make your prayers known to me in My Name, and the My Father will hear you. Ask anything in my name, and know that He hears you. I AM your Provider. And just believe that you have what you petition for." So, I prayed, sharing my list, specifics of the needs, from food to my pain, knowing He is Just and saw my pain and what happened. I told Him, whatever way He used, to provide, I will trust that He will. My mom as well was praying for me.
God loves my husband as well, and I have to remind myself of that in my hurt and anger, seeing him through the Lord's eyes. This always helps me to forgive.
My husband came home. I didn't rip his head off for refusing us groceries though I was still upset, but I lay in my daughter’s bed nauseated by my head pounding with pain, while putting both my girls to bed. My husband seemed gentle and in good spirits with the girls, enough so that even I was able to joke lightly with him. He saw how sick I was and had compassion.
Eventually it led to more lighthearted conversations between him and me. Now, with the girls down to sleep it was just he and I, though last night was his gaming night, he sat at the computer watching a clip on History, not his game. He asked if I needed anything. (My husband does have a kind heart. My frustration comes from just the times he's gaming, he acts different with me). He came and sat down next to me after I said all I needed was a little love and touch because I was in so much pain with my migraine. There, somehow, we came back to the dreaded conversation of what I needed from him, and what truly causes this pain in my heart while he games. He listened entirely to me, letting me completely share it all, and he, this time, did not cut me off with defensiveness because he heard me speak "game." He let me finish all of what I needed to say this time, and I could see in his eyes his acknowledgement and I thanked him for that, and shared, that was what all of us women need from our husbands. He shared his frustration after I finished, but he shared it with a gentle heart this time. I told him I would try to work on the areas that I frustrated him with while he's on the game, that I wouldn't be perfect and needed him to at least be sensitive to my mistakes, and to gently remind me of them, and that I'd try to catch myself when doing those things. We both understood one another with love, and agreed to be more aware of one another's needs.
This is not to say that my husband is ready to give up all of his days he games, which is not at all what I’m asking of him, but I know this too… God will work, all in His perfect timing, because He has many times before, for me and many others. I know God is answering and working on the both of us, teaching us daily how to be more like Him, loving one another self sacrificially, and less like the old, when we used to only think about our own needs being met. If we take care of the other person, then someone is always cared for, and no one is without. This is the message Christ Jesus wants us to know and do, because this is His Character, and it blesses us and others. It defeats the destruction that comes from the enemy, who prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour and destroy. Marriage and friendships and human bonds are high on his target list to destroy. When people get together in agreement, much can be accomplished. But when we are alone: destruction, anger, fear, depression, hopelessness, sickness, sometimes even death and much more. This is the goal of the enemy.
I thank you, anyone of you, man or woman, who reads my testimony all the way through, and sees the blessing of it, not becoming angry or offended because of my belief, but sees the truth that is in it and lets it help and bless them in their marriage or relationships with others.
We will all get through this together. Keep sharing, keep listening, and don't give up your love and hope of your heart being answered. There is One who understands the deepest things of your heart, and daily hurts with you, and hurts for you to hear His voice speaking to your heart… just as we wish of our husband’s and wives to hear us, remember He is always speaking to us but sometimes we are too distracted to hear it, or don’t recognize it, or have built walls of pain that block out His voice. I pray one day, you will hear Him and find your Joy; THE Joy that He promises NOTHING will take from you. He promises, not as the world promises which holds little value, but true promises from Him to those who hear His voice, His calling out to them, to those who turn from this old life of pain and chains to bondage of all addictions and sin, and turn to Him realizing their need for Him, that we can’t do this life alone without His help, and we weren’t meant to, but reaching out to Him, that one day He will Himself wipe away every tear. "In this world we will have trouble,” Christ says, “but take heart, I have overcome the world." My heart has much hope and explodes with tears of joy in that statement of his. For Christ Jesus also assures us, "How great the Father's love for His children." Many do not understand this love, because many of us have fathers who weren't there for us, or even mothers, but God promises His love is always there, is eternally unconditional and gentle and available for our every need, a love that promises to satisfy what man, material, and this world cannot. Addictions are broken, sickness is healed, hearts are filled, forgiveness is given and experienced, desires are met, and death is conquered! WHEN we turn to Jesus.
Now this does not mean death of the flesh will not happen, but speaks of, not only to the proof in His own resurrection after His death at the cross, but of the believers who were raised from the grave then and will in the future when He returns, but this second death which is more real than our minds can comprehend, is conquered for the believer and we will be taken to Him instead of eternity without His love. Christ offers you life, and life in Him, to be had NOW and forever, for He is LIFE and was breathed into us, but sin separated us from that LIFE. Though we die here, we go on to live with Him, when we turn to His arms that are always held out reaching to save, and never to condemn or disgrace us. “There is no longer any condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
My sincere apologies to all the many that’ve been hurt and jaded by churches, and Christians claiming to stand for Christ, that preach a different gospel of condemnation, hate, and works. God’s view of good works is different from ours, and only come from His working in us, every other work done apart from Him is done in vain. His Son, Jesus, is the only one righteous and righteous works only come as a result of His working in us and through us. Christ came to love and reveal the Truth so that all who would hear with their hearts and understand would come to him and be saved. “For we are saved by grace, not by our works, lest anyone should boast.” None of us can point fingers, or we will find that finger pointed back at us.
I encourage you who hurt and are suffering and are maybe angry at organized religion, Christians, God himself, people, this world and its cruelty, to earnestly with your heart seek and ask Jesus to open the eyes of you heart with understanding, and reveal Himself to you. You can’t do this life without His help, or this life will destroy you. Then give Him another chance and open the Bible (whatever application because there are many, as well many study versions, which is what I have and helps to aid your understanding. The “thees’ and thous’ frustrate me and are difficult for me to understand and get past). The New King James Version, or Study Version, is a good one to start with. But any version with Old and New Testament is a good place to start, not letting your anger or hurt or your old opinion hinder you, but cry out for Him to help you to understand and clearly Hear Him speak to you.
It may or may not happen right when you want, because it is His Holy Spirit that helps us to understand His words at our receiving of Him when we turn and make Him our Lord, but be patient and soften your heart, keeping your eyes open with continued cries out to see His revealing. I promise, and HE promises, you will know God and the truth, and He shall set you free! But, I plead with you and He pleads as well, that you not wait too much longer before you look to Him, even a moment, because in a moment anything can happen. Life can be gone in a second, at a next breath. We do not know when our hour is, so seize the day, giving Christ Jesus another chance. It will be well worth it to you. You have everything that is of true value to gain with knowing Him.
Much love, peace and understanding to you all. May God hear the cries of your hearts and reveal Himself to you, but you must be willing. Thank you for your time.
“The Lost Goal of the Prize”
A man wants what he wants with passion and desperation!
Once attained, he leaves the prize utterly abandoned;
The prize decaying with neglect!
It sits on the shelf, unattended, without notice.
All the while the beams of beauty that once captivated the man
Slowly dim with rust and dust.
Oh, if only, if only, a daily eye would come upon it!
Oh, if only, if only, a daily touch would sooth it!
Oh, if only, if only, he took notice once more;
To give of his heart, to give of his ear,
To aid this broken prize back with tender care.
“The Prize Restored!”
Look up little prize,
I see your heart, your sad eyes.
I’ve heard your pain,
Your outbursts and your cries.
‘I Am’ what you want!
Let your want be no more!
‘I Am’ here and will be always!
Please, search no more!
But rest….Rejoice!
Yes, you were dim with dust and rust.
My Eye saw your need, I said, “I must!”
My hand was on you. My touch you did not feel.
You see, as you cried My heart cried, too.
I whispered…“I’ll help you through.”
At that moment in your pain,
I cleansed and lifted your deep dark stain.
Yes, you were broken and you were bruised.
But look now! Do you see?!
I told them all that they must flee!
See…hold your head now high!
I’ve given you new wings to fly!
Your beauty has returned,
But here, take notice…
See now what you have learned?
It is not your old beauty that you see,
But your beauty now in Me!
I Am your Healer, Your Redeemer,
Your First Love!
You once rejected Me,
But now you see your need for Me!
I Am the Way, the Truth, the Life!
Author: Christ Jesus and Your Friend and Sister through your pain
I just found this post so I don't know if your still around. My live in boyfriend is also addicted to gaming (final fantasy). He spends countless hours on that sh*t. We don't talk for hours because he has to concentrate we did seek counseling and he signed a contract that he broke 2 days later. I'm @ my wits end. He is a wonderful man but I can't be ignored I'm a women in need of companionship not neglect. I don't know what to do he says he wants help and I believe him and the whole time he says this he's on his game. He goes to school full time and comes home and plays for 8-9 hours a day. Someday's he don't go to school because he's so tired from gaming. How is he going to be able to work if he can't make it to school everyday because of a internet game. Did I mention he is 31
Dear-My boyfriend is a gaming addict,
I don't know if you'll get this response as email notification, but if you do, or do come upon this site again, I encourage you to read the responses from the username starting with Broken. They will encourage you through your pain, as well, so will all the rest of the responses from the other woman hurting and the gentleman (David) above, to know you are not alone.
My husband, before we married, was a gamer. I didn't know this while dating him, because he'd always be hanging out with me when we were together, but apart, he gamed. When I moved in with him, after being engaged, I saw the gaming full blown. It caused many fights between us. I always just assumed it'd get better, that i could persuade him to stop or lessen his gaming. It did not happen. He as well became hooked on a game called EVE, which is extremely time consuming and needs focused attention a majority of the time. I married him and had our first child with him. I thought that with that he would surely come to his senses. No. My message to you is not to follow my path, but to understand that no matter what you do, it will not persuade him from this addiction. While you are still not married to him, I know it will be tough, you need to remove yourself from him.
Sometimes the only way for people to see the light is for them to hit rock bottom, to come to the end of themselves. I'm not saying to stop loving him, but to love him enough to step away and start taking care of yourself, or else it'll brake you, bringing you into an unhealthy state, which will only worsen your problem. You need not try and replace him with another man, because that will only just continue your path of pain. You may possibly choose someone who is just as unhealthy.
First, I would urge you to start restoring yourself mentally and emotionally. Search yourself, as a way of prevention, to see if there are hurts and pains within you that might hinder your ability to see what a truly healthy man looks like, and would cause you to place yourself in painful relationships. No one is going to be perfect, but look for major red flags. Healing starts from within, first. I am a believer in Christ Jesus, and don't know if you are or even if you know of Him, but if you want to know what a true love looks like, model it to Christ's Character...it may even bring you into the knowledge of how much you are loved, already, by Him, which is more satisfying than what any man can give. You will no longer need to look, but will know that He will bring the right one to you, when you are truly satisfied in Christ alone, and in His perfect timing.
My husband, because of many prayers and trusting in the LORD to work, is slowly becoming more and more the man I desired....more like the Character of Christ. He still games, and has his moments, but he now has come so far from what he used to be, all because he has come more and more into the knowledge of how much Christ loves him, and each and every one of us individually and intimately. Though your boyfriend neglect you, Christ will never neglect you and is eternally passionate for you, and for you to know Him. Please don't feel forced to, but at least put all past opinion aside and just give Christ another chance, He promises to fill the void you have in your heart.
Much love and prayers for restoration for you and your boyfriend.
i would really like to know how things turned out for you. im in the exact situation u were in, minus the pets and my husband plays EVE online not WoW. he also started in the military, i have talked to everyone, he won't even get a job!! his game is too important to him. please let me know what you have done to solve the problem..even if it meant divorce thank you!
I am so glad I found this topic. My husband and I have always enjoyed video games - however my husband won't stop playing them. It all started when he finished his degree and couldn't get a job in the area he studied in - so had to get a basic job that didn't require any training. He was unemployed for a year and a half and did tell me he felt like a failure in his life - so I get why he played games then. However, he stopped helping me around the house, didn't mow the yard etc. I did as much as I could but I am limited because of medical problems and he wouldn't let me get home help as he thought it was too expensive and didn't trust a stranger to clean our house. Anyway, things got worse - he bought several dogs and stopped walking them in a few months so I had to do it (they were rescues with alot of nuisance behaviours, not nice quiet ones that were happy to run around the yard like our old dog), then I went into severe organ failure due to my medical issue - this raised issues of noticeable disability/ infertility in myself and possibly a shortened life span. So what did he do - play more games. I just don't know what to do - he is becoming more rigid and extreme in his behaviours - has now stopped eating animal products so we virtually can't eat anywhere and it is a big issue even when going to family gatherings because they are all basically barbecue maniacs, as well as constantly going on about video games. In some ways I would like to leave but it is difficult because of my disability and I feel a sense of responsibility towards the dogs (if they go back to the pound they will probably get put down, but it's also my house they're ruining). So I am basically trying to manage a terminal illness, work full time, rehabilitate a pack of wild dogs, keep a yard looking presentable, and keep the house tidy enough so I don't get sick. He won't talk to me - I can't just stop doing everything because I will get complaints and fines about the dogs, as well as end up in hospital due to lung issues if the house isn't kept clean. He has even watched me flatline in hospital and almost die and it just made him retreat into himself more. When he wants to be he is the nicest husband in the world and I know my leaving (or death) would destroy him (he has practically admitted he would become a crow-like vigilante if I died). I know there are some serious problems there but when I quiz him he denies it. I think it is basically him feeling out of control in his life - he has a job he hates that he didn't study for, a dying (in his mind) wife and no hope of children (with me). I want him to get help but he is so afraid of change he goes on with these long convoluted discussions about why he can't or why it's not a problem. I know I probably have issues too - my own behaviour is selfless to a fault from being told all the time that I should be grateful just to be alive. I would be happy to get therapy but I don't see how it would help much if he's not involved.
Screw that what is wrong with us women for allowing this to control us. Let me get this straight you women have children with these men who are large children themselves, Thank god I don't have any children with my gamer we have a dog that goes outside because I'm here if not that poor dog would never go to the bathroom. I totally understand the frustration how can grown men be addicted to gaming. To me there selfish and I know how hard it is to walk away that is easier said than done especially when there's children. I finished school and haven't been able to get a job but when I do I will not allow this anymore I will take my dog and go. Here's an example of how bad his gaming is last week I noticed my dog itching allot so I checked him and he had fleas. So I bombed the whole house went out to pet-smart to get the stuff gave the dog a bath did the laundry, the whole time he didn't budge once he continued on his game as if it were my responsibility. Our kitchen sink has been not working he has had the snake for two weeks still hasn't fixed it because that would interfere with( FF)that's his online game. Maybe these men need to be left all alone and see how they like it. My BF's therapist told him you can't be in a relationship with a women and not talk to her all day and think that she won't be upset women need attention. Ladies one day we will get the courage to leave and when we do it may take awhile but we will be okay because women are stronger than men.
Hey all. This is what I did: I laid down the rules. There will be no disrepect in my home due to a computer or any technical device (including a cell phone). Last night I yank the computer off the desk and ripped out all the insides. I will be having the motherboard destroyed. Another computer will not be allowed in my home. I have lost 10 years of marriage and I WILL NOT stand for it anymore. If my husband wants to have another computer he can move out and get one. Enough said.
I feel the same way. I'm so sad, I have 2 beautiful kids and they know where to find their father: at the computer.
They also know not to bother him because they've been ignored for so long that they learned to just come to me for everything they need, (which does not bother my husband the least).
Saturday I gave him my very best for his birthday, made love to him in the morning (din't get mine and din't complained, smiled instead), shopped for present, food, cooked, entertained his friends all day just to spend Sunday completely ignored while he played games and watched TV at the same time.
My heart is broken and this is not the first, the 10000th or the last time I'm sure.
I'm tired, very lonely... I feel helpless. I'm a SAHM and can't get a job in my old field... I want out but think I can't for financial reasons.
I have left my husband and feel so much better. He would get up before I woke up and be on it until after I went to bed... Who knows what hours he kept?! He would get bitter and angry at me if asked to do anything. Had the odd date night, but he would often want to buy more games at the shops. I was over it and left. Best thing to ever do. Will never be involved with a gamer again.