don't like nipples to be touched

Are you a mother? I have found over the years of being open about it , its actually more common than i thought. It seems to develope after having a baby..

It's unfortunate that people have different hang-ups that are counter productive to a healthy and happy sex life that is fulfilling to both partners.

If your partner isn't interested in breast/nipple attention, there's no issue. However, most men do sexualize breasts because they are unique to women so they are feminine. Cultures also reinforces this. How many ladies here don't want their breasts touched but still enjoy wearing revealing clothing that draws focus on her breasts or displays any cleavage when wearing something that fully covers would work just as well? That's completely natural because it makes women feel pretty and attractive because it displays a physical feminine trait.

There are a number of reasons that a woman man not appreciate breast attention. A medical reason (not necessarily an issue) may cause the breasts to be tender or hyper sensitive, especially the nipples. This hyper sensitivity may make it uncomfortable for the breasts to receive attention. Unfortunately, hyper sensitivity is nothing that can be treated and must just be dealt with. An underlying pain could be the sign of a serious problem and should be investigated by a physician.

A woman may also not want breast attention because of some past trauma or molestation. Even if this isn't a pain point with your partner, this is something that should be confronted with a qualified therapist. This is not your fault but it still has power over you and if it continues to be an issue, you owe it to YOURSELF to be free of it. A beautiful side-effect of getting help would be something you can share with your partner for your mutual benefit.

Breasts viewed solely as something for babies is a fairly common issue that surprises a lot of women. They go from something perceived as pretty and fun to utilitarian and necessary. That transition can be surprising and long lasting. For most, it's just a matter of time. If you are unhappy about the amount of time it is taking to get past the "motherly" mindset, talk with a counselor to help you and your partner through this.

Last, and an issue that seems very common here, is that you just don't like breast attention. We're not all wired the same. There's a wide spectrum of women's interest in breast attention ranging from a complete loathing to a must-have that can even bring orgasm. There is no right answer here. First, you need to be honest with yourself about what you like and what you don't and determine your limits and desires. Then, you need to be honest with your partner. Offer a healthy compromise that works within your limits and expect a compromise for other things with your partner as well (such as more doing that thing that he does to you that you like so much). If there is no point of compromise, it may be time to visit a counselor that specializes in marital counseling in addition to general counseling.

I wish it wasn't a major sexual let down. My husband is obsessed with them. He's even talked about an adult breast feeding relationship. I tell him I really dislike ( more like loathe) nipple stimulation but he doesn't listen. It has really caused problems in our relationship.

WOW!!

I only feel sorry for the woman, not her husband. I feel like the woman should seriously talk to her husband and try to tell him how much she hates it and if he doesn't stop sooner or later, then maybe you guys are not the best match. Regardless of general norms about women and men, and how each other's preferences, it's considered polite and as a MANNER to respect an individual's feeling and opinion. I feel bad for this woman, but i don't for the husband who seem like a jerk to me since he has been ignoring her dear wife's opinion for 6 f*****g years. If I were you, I would have divorced with him or something. It's a serious respect issue. You have a right to claim what you like or don't, just like you choose what you wanna wear and eat everyday. So this comment makes me angry. For curiosaboutit44265, please don't feel like there's something wrong with you or you need to continue letting your husband touch your nipples. Just say STOP and tell him no sex until he respects your opinion. If he doesn't listen, treat him with coldness for days and days until he changes. If he gets angry, he's an as****e, and he probably doesn't deserve you since he's a jerk who doesn't respect his girl's feeling. XO

You're biased. You make it sound like women who wear showy clothes are more likely to be raped. The truth is, women who wear showy clothes not all of them wear them to show their body and attract other males. You're projecting other women who you think you know about them to this lady. How do you know if this lady wears showy clothes and want to appeal her boobs to others? I bet she doesn't, since she doesn't like her nipples being touched. Don't talk about it if you don't know it well.

A caring gentle man, whom you loved,and trusted, could change your mind very quickly!

Me tooo what is the problemmmm

That's great for you and your wife. Surely you know that your experience and her experience is not the experience of all. Also, your condescending feigned sympathy that essentially tells all of us who don't like it that something is wrong and pathetic about us. You could not be more wrong.

I have the same issue, it bothers me when my fiance touches my nipples or even just tried to go in for a grab or wants to suck them or just lick. It's almost the same issue with my vigina/clitoris. I don't like my pleasure spots being touched due to sensitivity and the fact that I used to enjoy it, and now I just find it annoying. My problem I am assuming is that I've lost luck luster for my fiance. Because of the way we fight or argue and the way he treated me afterwards like if everything was ok. Then resulting in makeup sex. I used to think make up sex was the answer to solving our frustration and huge arguements, but because it always ending leading to that then it became meaningless to have sex for any reason. Now I think about all the times he would just lay like a child next to my breast and I felt like I was breast feeding a large inbisule a man I didn't feel strong love for anymore after so many countless arguements. Then because it got to the point where his smoking became a really really bad habit 5x worse than it used to be. And the roughness from his course tongue did not feel pleasant at all when he would lick my clit. I assume the pet peeves I grew towards him out of anger turned me into a bitter woman that drove my sex drive down and gave me unpleasant sex whenever we did have sex. Now that I've said all this how many of you women feel the same as me. Because this discussion became more than just a nipple problem. Can someone relate to me or am I just going crazy and grown out of love for this man.

I have this issue aince I was about 10 or 11 when I was woken up by my grandmother on the first day of school. For whatever reason she felt it necessary to rub her fingertips across my nipple and wake me up. I woke up throwing a huge fit and she told me to get over it. Never told my mom or anyone cause that's just how I've always been in any case where something bad happened to me. I guess it was just embarrassment or just trying to be tough through it. Anyways, I had to go to school that day with that on my mind, I remember after school I was at the store with my mom and grandma, and all throughout that day I had been very aggressively trying to rub the feeling off of my nipple, really just making it more sensitive and worse, and my mom saw me and not knowing what I was going through jokingly asked "you playing with your booby?" And I got so angry, feeling like she was laughing at this situation I took very seriously. That year I had to be put in anger management and I had to repeat the fifth grade and I think it can all be attributed to my grandma's perversion. Since then anytime someone lightly brushes me almost anywhere on my body I get pretty aggravated. If someone touches my nipple on accident I get extremely aggravated, but I keep in mind that it was an accident. If I have already warned someone once not to touch me, and they go ahead and do it anyway (which I find a lot of people think they are gonna be funny and do it cause I said not to, so I try to keep it to myself) but if someone ever does go ahead and do it anyway, I lose my freaking mind. Have literally lost a job once for fighting someone who just kept on and kept on poking me in the nipple. Once I got into dating and had a girlfriend it helped me a lot with keeping my mind off of that incident, and even if I did think about it, I just chopped it up to some weird ass thing my grandma did when I was young. Nowadays I am single, and not really looking to date because of trust issues. And since having to deal with the person I lost my job over, has brought up a whole lot of painful angry memories of the incident when I was younger. I am a boy, so it is very hard for me to open up about it, cause I feel most people would tell me to "man up" or "get over it." I have 2 cousins who think this particular grandmother is the greatest woman in the world, and constantly ask why I don't visit her. I would like to explain myself, but I feel like they will laugh at me and it will turn me against them, and I don't want that cause I was once very close with them. I 27 years old still dealing with these issues in my head all over that incident. I told my mom about a year ago, the very first time I ever talked about it with anyone. She basically said not to think anything of it because it's not really anything compared to something her brothers/my uncles did to her when she was a kid. Which is sad, but I feel like that was wrong of her to say to me. I told her to think about if it were the same situation, except instead of me it was my younger sister, and instead of my grandma it was my uncle. She said that is a different situation. It does give me a lot of relief to see there are other people who are bothered by this same thing, a lot of you seem like it just naturally bothers you and nothing happened to trigger this, so that's also relieving. It also seems like a lot of you are women though, so that makes me go back to the insecurity that I should "man up." I would like to read some feedback from other who have this same pet peeve, let me know if I am weird for this or if I have a legitimate claim to be upset about it. Thanks :)

Not everyone is the same as his wife. Haha some people.

I love my nipples to be played with, but hate when my boyfriend goes straight to them without touching me somewhere else first. Mentally we have to be in the right state of mind to receive pleasure. Otherwise it can have a negative effect. Try different things to get yourself and your breasts in the mood to be played with. Try having him kiss you on your stomach first or a back rub to get the feeling of pleasure before he goes for them. I hope that helps!

I have the same problem with my nipples being touched but in my case it's with my 6 year old ... i breastfead him for 2/5 years and he touches them all the time almost as if he is obsessed with them... i get really irritated and sometimes even furious
But when it comes to a man touching them i feel really good and it's a huge turn on for me
I don't understand why i feel so worked up and even get goosebumps with my child

I really thought I was the only one. For as long as I can remember I got this feeling. I can remember when I was just four years old I remember laying in bed with my mom and her boyfriend at the time I don't remember anything other than feeling that very uneasy sickening feeling and that it had something to do with my nipples. I had assumed that her boyfriend had touched me that night and that's what started this as he molested me my entire childhood life(they had gotten married). It's every time my nipples are touched. A few months ago I woke up to my boyfriend playing with my nipple a little and I cried. It's just an awful feeling and I wish I didn't have this problem because my boyfriend really loves my ladies.

I am so glad to find this post, I am not the only one. I really don't like my nipples being touched, especially during sex. It is distracting and to be honest a big turn off. My husband doesn't understand this as he loves having his nipples played with. He loves my breasts and always wants to touch them and so often it makes me irritated, not the best start to making love. He has never encountered this weird problem with previous partners and it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. To those who worry about "nipple/breast irritation" causing problems with breastfeeding, from my experience it was not the case, I luckily found it comfortable, natural and after the first few days easy. A baby suckling was a very different feeling, it was a calm, loving closeness that I felt for my son, so different to being touched in a sexual way. I personally think the answer is that I have don't think of my breasts as being particularly sexy, they are quite small and struggle to create a hint of cleavage so I don't think of them as being much of an asset. I suppose my mind doesn't connect them with sex, to me they are just bumps on my front. Breastfeeding did feel like the correct use for them, so if you have" sexually irritated breasts" don't let it put you off trying breastfeeding, it doesn't feel the same ! I fed my son for a year, never had to mess about with sterilising bottles or buying formula. My boobs did a brilliant job and I loved them for that.