I understand completely. Im a girl aged 20 and had a abortion last Monday. I need people to talk to who have gone through this too. I regret it so much that I hate myself. I have a boyfriend who is so unsupportive and is treating this like its nothing. Im going through this alone.. my poor baby....thats all I can think about... I should never have given up on you. I wish I gave you a chance. Is it possible to love something that wasnt even there.... I sometimes catch myself rubbing my belly but then realizing its gone... Love you my darling
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My girl friend found out that she was pregnant two weeks ago. We talk about it and agreed that it was not right time to keep the baby. She made a appointment to see the doctor on a saturday and we were going to the appointment together. In the last minute she called me and told me not to come with her. That broke my heart. She took one of her girl friend and went to clinic. Following tuesday she had the abortion without me being with her. Right now she is extremely angry at me and i don't understand why. I want to be there and support her all the way. In the and she was carrying part of me. This is not fair. I am not person that runs away from any problems. She wont see me, call me or text me. She teared me and my heart a part. I don't know if i should walk away from her or just hang there and wait to see if she calms down.........
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It is possible to love something that is not there. It was part of you. You had a connection with it. I wish you could talk to my girl friend and explain what I had to go thru. It will never leave me. Top of it she pushed me far away..
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I had mine done 3 weeks ago now.. since then i havent coped... 2 drug overdoes and i am an emotional mess...
i never thought i would get an abortion, i was not against them, but just never thought i would.
I am 20 years old and have been with my partner just over a year ago. at first i was fine... i wanted a baby but we couldnt give a baby a life that she would deserve and after a hard choice we went for it. abnout a week after is when it all started. i cant help but cry when i think of it and i keep wondering if somehow we could have done it but at the same time i know we couldnt have.
I have panic attacks around pregnant people mainly (6 people i work with are pregnant) but all the time, the doctors say that its natural and i will be ok eventually but i dont know how to do this. I hate being alone like now when i think about it all and i cant stop, i try to do other things to keep myself busy but half the time i just cant find the energy and other times the thoguths are still here. a councilor told me to write a letter to my baby girl with my thoughts and feelings and its made things so much worse, i dont know what to do and i just cant cope with the ever present feeling of emptiness and loss
i never thought i would get an abortion, i was not against them, but just never thought i would.
I am 20 years old and have been with my partner just over a year ago. at first i was fine... i wanted a baby but we couldnt give a baby a life that she would deserve and after a hard choice we went for it. abnout a week after is when it all started. i cant help but cry when i think of it and i keep wondering if somehow we could have done it but at the same time i know we couldnt have.
I have panic attacks around pregnant people mainly (6 people i work with are pregnant) but all the time, the doctors say that its natural and i will be ok eventually but i dont know how to do this. I hate being alone like now when i think about it all and i cant stop, i try to do other things to keep myself busy but half the time i just cant find the energy and other times the thoguths are still here. a councilor told me to write a letter to my baby girl with my thoughts and feelings and its made things so much worse, i dont know what to do and i just cant cope with the ever present feeling of emptiness and loss
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my boyfriend has been with me the whole way and for a time i looked at him i and felt guilt then he reminded me of the baby i lost, i kept wondering if she would have looked like him or me.... its so hard to deal with the loss even though it was a choice we made together.... if the situation is still same patience is the key. i am really sorry that she isnt coping and takining it out on you.... hopefully you are going better now
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i know how u feel , but if someone actually made a deal or bit to have sex with u , thinking all this time the person loves u . Get pregnant , and abortion comes and goes and still no one at ur side , even today as my birthday . I Pray God Forgives me.
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I've had a live birth and my second baby died 3months old and a while ago I've had an abortion, it's your personal decision what to do but I found the abortion easier than losing the baby I got to hold and hug and kiss, it was very hard but in the end it is still a loss
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I am nearly in the same situation as you, I am 23 my son is 13 months old and I was 18 weeks pregnant my partner tried so hard to convince me to get the abortion and finally I did it, only a few days ago, we are broke, I don't have a job and my partner barely makes enough for the 3 of us to survive and it was an extremely traumatic experience for me, I can't look at my son without crying, thinking "what about the baby I have just murdered" it's been hard and I can't talk to my partner about it because I am so ashamed of myself for what I've agreed to do and I am a little upset with him for trying so hard to convince me to do it, he acts like nothing happened like it's any other day but inside I feel like my sanity is slowly slipping away, I wish I could take it back :-(
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I am 17 years old and I had an abortion a few months ago. I didn't want to get an abortion but when I told my dad he demanded that I have one. I wanted that baby so much and I was ready to make a family with my boyfriend if I needed to. I had already told my boyfriend that I was pregnant and both him and I tried to make the mature decision of raising it and still go to college and what not so when my father made me get an abortion my heart broke. I lied to my boyfriend because he wanted that baby just as much as I did so I told him I lost it instead of telling him the truth. I haven't told anyone and it is eating me up inside that not only did I kill my precious baby for my father but that I lied to the love of my life about our child. I don't know what to do. :,(
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I will be having an abortion this week, and I feel absolutely horrible about it. I'm a 28-year-old recent college grad working in a low wage, dead end job and have also moved to a state where employment opportunities are limited. I keep telling myself this is the best decision even though deep down inside I don't want to go through with it. Bringing a child into a crowded 2 bedroom apartment was not what I intended for my potential children. I'm not like most of you who are either too young to have a child or are already parents with what seems like fair reasons to abort. I simply don't have the job I want and it is the sole reason I can't go through with this pregnancy. That and the fact that my boyfriend also has a dead end. I don't want to tell anyone but I need to get this off my chest because it burns immensely.
Children deserve to be planned and even though I feel horrible about what I'm about to do I know that a poverty-stricken life is the last thing I'd wish on a family member. My boyfriend is being supportive of any decision. The worse part about it is most of my friends are having children and are content, I would be too but my child deserves nothing short than the best of me something I can't provide today.
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i know exactly how you feel, me and my boyfriend for over a year, got pregnant and we have been so in love with the idea,. being only 10 weeks along i was so excited but the then tradegy happened. my boyfriend got arrested for a drug charged and was kicked out of medical school in the hopes of becoming a doctor. so now he has no job, but i do, and now he has reconsidered our baby and wants to get rid of it due to financials. all i want to do is cry and i dont want to go through with this, i love my baby so much. i dont know how i am going to go through with this procedure. i probably wont be able to live with myself once its over because i killed someone that means the most to me over anything else:(
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I've found it's easier to journal all your emotions this kind of pain shouldn't be kept inside. I wrote to my unborn telling them that I love them already and that I will meet them someday under the right circumstance. I also wrote a letter to my boyfriend one that I will never show him of course explaining my anger for not being financially unsupportive explaining my self loathing for what I am about to do. I don't know how I'll feel after going through with it but I will strive to feel happy again. I know all about the crying, it feels as if it's never going to end but I have to believe that someday I will forgive myself wholeheartedly.
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i have an abortion about 2 years ago my partner i hae been with for 6 years took me he wanted to change my mind but with my parents there are really stricked with me my other half was trying to talk me out of if but i have to do it sake for the baby and me!! i regert it even 2 years on i cry nearly all the tim to this day my parents dont know i was pregnant!!!!! i really hard x
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i know how you feel, i felt the same i was with my boyfriend for 3 months and by mistake, caught pregnant, my boyfriend didnt want to know really and didnt want to speak about it, i felt like i was forced into has i didnt have a lot of money and my boyfriend didnt feel the same as i did, i was happy inside but felt like i had to think about how others felt and not how i felt and how it could be for me and my baby, now six years on and i still regret it, its haunted me everyday since mame me poly in the end
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