I am 22 about to be 23 next month. I just found out today i am 8 weeks pregnant from a man i'm not even in a relationship with. I cant tell my mom or anyone in my family. i just cant stand to hurt anyone. i am so disappointed at myself for making such a stupid decision. I dont want to hurt my mom. I cant afford to even take care of myself, I don't have a steady job and I am a full time student. I barely have time for myself. My guy wants to keep it which is odd since he doesn't have a job or a grip on what he wants in life. I never thought i would be in a situation like this. i was always anti-abortions. but now that i'm in this position it seems like the only way out. i will regret it for the rest of my life but if i keep the baby i will have to live wondering how i will support it and if i will even have a family left to help me. I feel like God will turn away from me. I feel like he is going to punish me and not allow me to have kids in the future. i feel like everyone will hate me regardless of the decisions i make. i just dont know what to do anymore. i just know i cant keep it. im terrified at the next step i have to take...will God ever forgive me?
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I had an abortion at the age of 18. I was not financially ready and neither was by x. He was the only person I had sex withso everytime I had the urge, id go to him. We had been having sex unprotected from the age of 17 and I never got pregnant. When I did become pregnant, he immediately told me to terminate. After that, it got worst between us. I cried myself to sleep each night because I throw away something that was a part of me. A living being. I was only three weeks but that didn't matter to me.he doesn't wanna talk about it and we act like everything is fine. to those that haven't done it, don't, it'll be the biggest mistake of your life.
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hey there, i know that what you are going through is hard (just about everyone here on this site does) there are other options as well other than abortion. you could always put your baby up for adoption. i was so scared when i found out that i was pregnant and was in a similiar situation that yourself. i was so afraid to tell my mother and family that i was ( out of fear that they would no longer talk to me... the only ones in my family that know i was pregnant is my mother, my aunt and my grandfather and those were by choice. i guess it helps that noone lives near enought to care what happens to me anyway lol) i would seriously talk to your mother about it. i dont think that god will punish you for doing what you have to do if you chose to abort. it may sound strange, but i think thta when i aborted he is giving me gifts to be able to have gone through with that. i was without work for 8 and a half months when i was pregnant and had absoultly no way to support my self, now i have an almost full time job that i could not be any happier with! also, we are getting ready to move into a beautiful new home and things overall are going great. yes i do get very upset when i walk down the isle in walmart and see all of thoose baby clothing that my baby would have looked so cute in had it been born, but now i can picture him or her in a beautiful white outfit sitting on gods lap and smiling down at me. i know that i will meet my baby in heaven and its all i can do to smile and think that he or she is in such a better place now.
so keep your head up hun and smile! because nomatter what happens for you god will see it as the right choice.
so keep your head up hun and smile! because nomatter what happens for you god will see it as the right choice.
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getting over an abortion isnt easy, im still hurting & its been a week. i think about it every second of the day. i think about what could of been, what ifs'. i honestly deep down know i made a mistake. i listened to everyone & i never once thought about what i wanted, how i would feel. seeing my little child brought a smile to my face but i soon remembered the reason i was there. all alone i went through this, no partner, no mother, no friends, nuthing. alone in these cold rooms. girls of all ages looking at you knowing your there for the same reason. it happened so fast i just remember speaking to my doctor while he placed the needle in my arm and then i remember just closing my eyes and waking up in a room filled with girls all with their eyes closed. the pain afterward was unbearable. i immediately knew i made a mistake. i had to smile to hide my pain, the pain of knowing my child was no longer with me, knowing my child was gone. 7 weeks old and i would never see your little face. mommy thinks of you everyday, i just want to say it wasnt ur fault. if its part of gods plan maybe we can meet again. <3 ily more than you'll ever know. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 :'( :'( :'(
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congratulations if you marry the right man. God bless you, sex is better when things are right i am not marry neither i have sex but it is the best decision you could of have taken not to have sex before marriage
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I am currently deciding if an abortion is what I need to do. I am married with two children. I love my family but I also am feeling lost. I don't want another child and I want to be able to continue to be present for my own two children. I got pregnant against the odds and I am not sure emotionally, mentally and financially keeping it is the right thing. I feel like I am loosing my mind. I keep wishing it would go away on it's own. None of this makes sense to me. I have loved being a mother, it's the happiest I have ever been but yet the idea of another is unbearable. How do I decide what the right thing to do is? I keep reading women's stories and so many have so much regret. My husband wants me to keep it but his life doesn't change the way mine does. I just don't know. I need help.
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I'm 20 years old. My boyfriend and I have been in a loving relationship for almost 2 yrs now. I became pregnant last november out of sheer stupidity on my part. My boyfriend and I were in no way financially ready to have a baby. Still, i wanted nothing more than to keep it. I began to resent him for pushing me to get the procedure done. So on new years eve, i got the pills from the clinic. As soon as i took the initial pill i felt immediate remorse, but with a hint of relief if that makes any sense. That night was the worst night of my life. I can still remember every detail like it happened yesterday. I spent the night naked, crying in the shower as the fetus passed out of me. My boyfriend stood outside the shower the entire time. He never said a word. Whenever i bring up the topic of what happened that night he just tells me to get over it. He said it was the smart choice to make for us at this time. Neither of us have good enough jobs to support ourselves and we're both living at home still. I know he was right, but i still cant help but wonder what if. I honestly dont know if i'll ever overcome this, I'm so glad i found this thread because now i know that i'm not alone.
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The night before I was scheduled for an abortion, I googled "How to cope with abortion" cause I already wasn't coping very well at all. I came across this forum and I just want to thank you, because if it wasn't for all your stories then I would have gone through with the termination. I really really just want to thank you for making me see that I was being influenced to have this abortion and you all saved me from a lot of guilt and regret.
I pray that you are all slowly overcoming your experience and I wish you all the happiness you truly deserve.
Thank you, thank you, thank you xx
I pray that you are all slowly overcoming your experience and I wish you all the happiness you truly deserve.
Thank you, thank you, thank you xx
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I have just had an abortion a couple of days ago and I am 17 years of age. I was just over two months gone and my boyfriend did not know I was pregnant until after the abortion I went through every thing alone and when I told my boyfriend he was really upset we cant stop talking about what the baby would look like because I got a test done nd they said it was a very strong possibilaty that it would be a boy and when found that out I was devastated. A part of me feels like I have died and I am regretting getting rid of it. My boyfriend has been super supporting me through it all but I feel that I need to chat to people who have went through the same thing. I am alway holding my stomach as I had a slight bump and didn't want people knowing and I just feel soo empty without the baby now. How do people cope with this
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I am fifteen years old. I just found out I am 2 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of two years is vey supportive and we have agreed to get an abortion. I am already guilty and depressed. I don't know how I'm going to go through with it. I'm terrified and I dont think I'll be able to cope. There's no way I could tell my mother, and my boyfriend said this was the only way.. My appointment is next week, any advice? And I just wanted to tell you ladies you are so brave, and I hope the feeling of loss with subside eventually... There can't be any pain worse than a mother losing a child. Also I don't expect my boyfriend to understand. Men will never understand. Though the good ones do try.
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a termination has to be the worst thing iv done! im only 17 jst finished a sixth year in high school and i didnt have the courage to fight off everyone who was putten me down maken me feel like it was the best choice. for some people it is but when theirs a doubt in ur mind about and u go through with an abortion to keep other people happy; just remember the weeks after the termination everyone has forgotten your experience and your are left feeling like someone you love so closesly and more than anything in the world has died. if your mentally able to cope with an abortion then my advice is completely diffrent however it can cause extreme depression afterwards and it really isnt what I wanted for myself or my baby.
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I am 22 years old and a mother of a 1year old daughter. I had an abortion 3 weeks ago and still feel horrible about everything and depressed every single day. I had a boyfriend, who I was pregnant by and we decided to get the abortion. We did not think we could afford or manage to care for a 2nd child and I know I was not ready for another baby yet, especially since I was not married yet. I wanted to be married before I had another baby. We talked about it a little bit, not much because he seemed he wanted to hide his feelings. He said we could try for another child in the future. He came with me to the clinic the day of my abortion and was there for me that day. Two days later he randomly broke up with me :( He told me he couldn't help how he felt and that I needed to find somewhere else to live with my daughter. He never even gave me a reason for the breakup. I try to talk to him, every couple days I will text him and he either ignores me or tells me to leave him alone. I dont understand and have no clue what to do. So I am not only hurting by the pain of the abortion and depression from it and the feeling of loss, but also losing my boyfriend who I love so much. I feel so helpless now and sad. I have no self confidence anymore and don't even want to hang out with friends and family. I try not to show my sadness and pain infront of my daughter, I cannot let her see that. I have not told anyone about the abortion, so its like all these feelings I have to bottle up inside. I feel like I am going to blow up. I do not know what to do anymore, I feel like just giving up on life all together, but atleast I have my daughter who keeps me going. If it wasnt for her I would have given up on everything. Maybe going to church every sunday would help? I have no clue, I just wish I had someone to share my feelings with.
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im eighteen its been around 3 months since i had the abortion done. . . images of that day are constantly coming through my mind. the sonogram, the counseling, the people outside the clinic holding crucifix to my face, the operating room, the moment i woke up feelings like the world was going to end. i feel like every time something bad happens to be its karma for what i did. i was so selfishh only thinking of my future and not even throwing the idea that i mightve still had the same future if i had kept the baby. a week before the wbortion i had went to the hospital because i was feeling weak and i saw a clear picture of the baby, never felt a connection with anything like that day. the day at the clinic i saw so many girls going and not one cry, not one even look back i felt like i should do the same but once i got out of counseling i sat down adn they said in 5 minutes youll be going up i tried hiding my face from my boyfreind and sister i went down intears i wanted to kill myself in the elevator, undressing myself to on the gown i wanted to slam myself agaisnt the mirror. i hate myself so much. when i entered the operating room i ooked around so many people there running around with smiles i was just thinking whats so good about this, i layed in that bed and all i remeber is the nurse sayn count to 3 and i went blaqnk i woke uop 2 hours later and i began to cry hysterically, hooow wasit possible that i did it alrdy how come i didnt rmeber anything i wantd to actually rmbr so i could feel some pain, some memory of the disgrace i had jus done. im still with my boyfriend and everytime we argue i think about the baby and how it brings me peace thats he's my angel now and hopefully he's lookin down on me and forgives me for what i did to it, for my selfishness. i need some way to get back to normal, back to not being so mad at life. i dontknow how anymore. idont know how i wake up everyday. im driving myself nuts.
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reading this i just broke down, its been a year and a half since my abortion and I've never really dealt with it. i still remember it all like it was yesterday. every single detail.
when i found out i was pregnant i was with my boyfriend (who i am no longer with) i was so happy and immediately wanted to keep it. he was furious and ordered me to get rid of it or he would leave me and he said i would be a horrible mother and i couldn't look after myself let alone a child. after that i decided to tell my mum because i thought she would help and support me but i was wrong she wanted me straight away to get rid of it. i cried and pleaded with her and said id do anything and everything to keep it and look after it and love it. after she booked the appointment i put on a front to everyone and pretended i was fine with it but deep down i felt like i was drowning, i cried myself to sleep most nights or just sat there feeling nothing.
it was the most painful thing i have ever been through physically and mentally. i pray that my baby doesn't hate me or blame me for what i did against my will, everyone still says "you can still have children" but il never, EVER be able to have that one or see them grow into a little person. he or she would be nearly 1 now and its still as hard as it was. im desperate to be able to deal with this and move on with my life i just dont know how. HELP ME. im only 18 and i feel so depressed i dont want to be here most of the time!! i need help!!
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To the dear women further down who has a child with neural tube defects. All u can do is make
The best decision that u can at the time. Same goes for all the beautiful ladies here. Don't dare think badly of urselves. Sometime making the
Decision to terminate can be the most loving and compassionate decision you can make as a mother. I had an abortion last year and got so serveley depressed that I refused to come out of bed cried everyday and believed that god was going to make me sterile for what I had done. I went and got help and the lovely counsellor made me see things so differently. We all subconsciously weigh up the pros and cons in our head for me I wasn't married this made my parents very mad and they told me there would b zero support. I hadn't finished my degree I wasn't financially stable and the man I am with isn't greek so I had to worry about the baby being at racially discriminated against. I had to make the hardest but best decision for the baby at that time. Now I probably wouldn't make that same decision or in two years or three. All u can do is make the. Est decision at the time. The fact that u r thinking logically about the life U can give the child shows what good mother instincts u have and how much u love. I am happy to talk with anyone about their decision. Lots of love xxx
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