Guess what you are all asexual and like any other sexuality it can not be cured. If you feel nothing or pain in sex maybe it would be better if you found an asexual partner that way you would not have to worry about sex you could have a intimate relationship without the need for sex
I am 17 and male. I never managed to find women attractive and to stop bullying - outed myself as bisexual. i do find male's more attractive than female's, i find the sex boring and unenjoyable; after reaching orgasm feel completely homophobic and straight! i'm so confused and really want help but don't know where to turn :'(. i have always aspired to be straight and "normal" - i aspire to have a wife and children. i just don't find women attractive at all, where as men appear attractive until that crucial moment. anyone out there in a remotely similar situation?
Hello. Dont think so much on this . This is normal condidation in all everybody. Somebodies deny that as because of ego. But I said u truth, all person in this world , after sometym they do not get the such flavour which they got first time. So from now try to add some flavour with your hubby. And watch the porn or not Its not Maters. If u like, watch it. If you dont like, turn off television. But enjoy the life wid sex every day and keep this mind to get pleasure every time and try to give the particular tym. Ur best only. U will overcome your this health problem. So try to from today. best of luck!!!!
I'm so glad I found this site. It's a huge relief to know that I'm not the only girl who feels this way. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and he was the one I lost my virginity to (he only had sex with one other girl before me). My boyfriend is very sexual, and tries to engage me but...i'm just really not into it. As people have said before, it feels like I have to, like it's a chore. Sometimes I just cave in and have sex with him because I feel bad that we haven't had it in like a month. I was sexually abused when I was younger by another girl, and I know that that has something to do with my sex drive, but I can't blame it entirely on that. It just sucks and I feel like my boyfriend will either cheat on me or break up with me because of our lack of sex. Ugh
Thank-you so much for your honesty all who have posted here. It is such a relief to know that there are other people who feel the same as me. I have had 4 wonderful kids and a hysterectomy and now at 65 have no interest whatever in sex. I have a wonderful husband who seems to love my body, but I just find sex so unpleasant now. I am affectionate and love a cuddle but sex is just not a pleasure any more. i feel sorry for my husband really. Has anyone found a solution to this problem without resorting to drugs?
That's what I'm wondering!! Has anyone found a solution yet? I love my fiance to death and I want to be able to enjoy sex with him physically.
I have the same problem. I do not enjoy it. I can have an orgasm if I masturbate but I have never had one from my boyfriend of 3.5 years.
Everyone in this thread (and every other one) is agreeing to the problem, but there is never any advice or ways to fix it!!
I don't know what to do!
Everyone in this thread (and every other one) is agreeing to the problem, but there is never any advice or ways to fix it!!
I don't know what to do!
I posted on here as well and agree that there is no solution. That's because there is no solution. You can't make yourself like it or get off. My bf is the first to get me to orgasm almost every time but for me it's getting I to it. It makes me cringe thinking about having to have sex. When we start to I don't want him to even touch me. I love him alot but the thought of being touched makes me squirmy. I find that watching porn helps a bit or kissing alot before we even are going to do it. PLUS maybe if you take over when you guys are fooling around and show him what you like he will be very turned on watching you do it and won't think he does anything wrong. My bf and I are so open and from the beginning I told and showed him what I liked and he listened and gets me off every time. And I had the same problem before too.
I dated a guy for 3 years Nd could count on one hand how many he got me off and another for 2 and he got me off twice so I get the frustration. Now I have someone willing and able to and I just don't want the sex :(.
I dated a guy for 3 years Nd could count on one hand how many he got me off and another for 2 and he got me off twice so I get the frustration. Now I have someone willing and able to and I just don't want the sex :(.
I also have this problem, with a few exceptions. I find it hard to be turned on or aroused unless me and my boyfriend have had a long time to build up to it. Before my current boyfriend, I never enjoyed sex at all or foreplay and when I lost my virginity I was so put off sex that I didn't have it again for over a year. I think its caused because I used to be very self concious of my body and used to worry about if I wasn't 'normal' down below. I was petrified the first time I took my clothes off infront of a boy and I think this has caused me to not enjoy sex. I could always however reach orgasm by myself but never with another person. But I've found if I'm totally relaxed, during oral sex, if he licks my clitoris in a certain way after a while (usually 10-20 mins) I can orgasm, it is very intense and soo worth it, more intense than when I reach orgasm by myself! However I still cannot orgasm during sex and it still dosent feel great but I do like it because the fact my partner enjoys it makes me enjoy it. There are tablets you can take to increase your sex drive. Ever since I've had sex I have been on the injection. All contreception (apart from condoms) dramatically lower your sex drive and can cause 'vaginal dryness' which is where it is hard to get wet during sex. I am on the depo-priva injection and am going to switch to something because I am certain this is causing me to not enjoy sex! Btw, 70% of women cant orgasm via intercouse alone
I thought I was the only 1! I use 2 b premiscuous cuz I was goin bout finding love the wrng way but never have I enjoyed sex. Its just somethng I have 2 do 4 my husband..
Oh man, am I ever glad I found this topic. I have multiple issues relating to this.
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship (He's in Western Canada, I'm in Eastern US). I visited him back in January and we lost our virginity together. When I was a virgin, I was very intrigued by sex and I wanted to have it badly, mostly out of curiosity. So we sort of rushed into it. It was very uncomfortable for me. Though eventually I did loosen up a tiny bit. We ended up trying about 3 times. Aside from being stretched, my discomfort comes from my cervix since it seems to be very low. My gynecologist said most girls can't feel theirs, but I can feel it without even putting my finger entirely in. She still says there is nothing wrong with me, but I feel there is.
I should also mention that I discovered I had a cyst on my fallopian tube after I returned from Canada, which did a number on my sex drive. It returned slightly after it was removed, but not much. I found that when I reach orgasm while masturbating, I completely lose interest in sex and feel disgusted with myself.
Anyway, he flew over here this past week and had sex once. I thought I felt something physically, but it still wasn't very good. He managed to make me orgasm from foreplay, but like with masturbation, my interest completely died out and I tried right up.
Much like a previous poster said, I also seem to lack emotional connection during intercourse, which honestly makes me worry if I really love my boyfriend or not. It isn't all the deep, romantic, tear-shedding love making that I imagined. The only reasons I really want to have sex is to discover what is so great about it (which hasn't happened yet) and because in a way I feel obligated to. I don't really have many opportunities to find out in the first place since I never know when I'll see him next, and the idea of practicing vaginal insertion in the meantime doesn't sit well with me since I consider it a chore and I don't get much out of it.
Ever since I lost my virginity, I haven't been interested in having sex with him. I find masturbation and watching pornography by myself to be a lot more pleasurable, even though my interest is short-lived. I much prefer cuddling and having fun (thankfully, so does he), but I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me for not enjoying sex. It really does suck, but it's also a relief to see that there are others like me. I just wish we could do something.
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship (He's in Western Canada, I'm in Eastern US). I visited him back in January and we lost our virginity together. When I was a virgin, I was very intrigued by sex and I wanted to have it badly, mostly out of curiosity. So we sort of rushed into it. It was very uncomfortable for me. Though eventually I did loosen up a tiny bit. We ended up trying about 3 times. Aside from being stretched, my discomfort comes from my cervix since it seems to be very low. My gynecologist said most girls can't feel theirs, but I can feel it without even putting my finger entirely in. She still says there is nothing wrong with me, but I feel there is.
I should also mention that I discovered I had a cyst on my fallopian tube after I returned from Canada, which did a number on my sex drive. It returned slightly after it was removed, but not much. I found that when I reach orgasm while masturbating, I completely lose interest in sex and feel disgusted with myself.
Anyway, he flew over here this past week and had sex once. I thought I felt something physically, but it still wasn't very good. He managed to make me orgasm from foreplay, but like with masturbation, my interest completely died out and I tried right up.
Much like a previous poster said, I also seem to lack emotional connection during intercourse, which honestly makes me worry if I really love my boyfriend or not. It isn't all the deep, romantic, tear-shedding love making that I imagined. The only reasons I really want to have sex is to discover what is so great about it (which hasn't happened yet) and because in a way I feel obligated to. I don't really have many opportunities to find out in the first place since I never know when I'll see him next, and the idea of practicing vaginal insertion in the meantime doesn't sit well with me since I consider it a chore and I don't get much out of it.
Ever since I lost my virginity, I haven't been interested in having sex with him. I find masturbation and watching pornography by myself to be a lot more pleasurable, even though my interest is short-lived. I much prefer cuddling and having fun (thankfully, so does he), but I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me for not enjoying sex. It really does suck, but it's also a relief to see that there are others like me. I just wish we could do something.
i am 16 and ive had sex with 2 guys, i feel no pleasure but not too much dicomfort except from at the beginning, my boyfriend is awear of the situation and at first we though it was because i had been sexually abused over the corse of 5 years but now im not so sure...ive read the posts here but none seem to have an actualy answer. its not a chore, i enjoy it, and i have a very high labeeto, but i dont actually feel any physical pleasure. i feel like somthings wrong with me...anyone have answers???
Im a 19 year old male and have a girlfriend right now that i absolutly love and adore. We have a great relationship and couldnt ask for more but when it comes to the bedroom its a different story. she has had sex with guys (and girls) in the past but for somereason she feels no sexual pleasure desire at all. At first i was really upset and my confidence dropped because after trying to have sex multiple times and her backing out made me feel like i wasnt good enough. Finally the first time we had sex she did it because i confronted her about it and she layed there like a dead fish and only did it with me to make me happy. Ever since then its beeen the same way every time. the mood gets perfect, she gets soooo wet, she gets really into t but as soon as my hands go near her she starts pretending to enjoy it off the bat. i feel terrible for doing anything or even trying to in the first place cuz i know she doesnt like it but i just feel like there has to be a way for her to enjoy it. i came on here looking for answers because im tired of seeing her feel miserable that she doesnt enjoy it. im wondering if vibrators toys or ky woukd even help. also at the time she is not on birthcontrol but is considering doing so in order to heighten her estrogen levels and natural sexual drive. Do you think this could possibly be affect it? any other ideas would be great thanks
Is there any answer that does not start with "I have the same problem" People, we need help, what to do? Except visiting a doctor..
Is it normal for men to have a low libido sometimes too?