I too, feel this way, and I'm a guy! I'm not entirely sure what's wrong, The first few times I've had sex with my now fiance, it was great, but soon after I started to feel it was more of a chore, I get more out of masturbating then I do out of sex. I only recently learned that this condition is called "asexuality" you can read more about it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
It's where you dont feel like you have an orientation, you dont feel like having sex.
i also feel like this. im a 20 year old girl, and i have a really sweet boyfriend. in the beginning it was all so excited and we both played hard to get. but now. i only do it every now and then because he wants to. i almost never feel like it, its just not worth the time and effort i think. but.... i WANT to feel like it. i want to fantasize about it, and jump right on him. i want to enjoy it. only it takes soooo much time to bring me in the mood. that i feel sorry for him.
Hey Lisa, Your the latest post so I figure i'll reply to you. I have had 1 orgasm in my life from sex and it beats the hell out of me how it happened. I met my boyfriend and I thought that he was just the most amazing man and we started seeing each other. I was pretty shy at the start and so was he. About 2 weeks into it was feeling a whole lot better (I was on top) reason being it is easier to stimuate your cliitiorus which for some girls is the only thing you can feel. About 2 weeks ago, he was turned on but I wasn't so I suggested we head down to a sex store which was packed with goodies ;) I highly recommend purchasing a natural oil it's called 'on', I have never had sex like it.. My whole body relaxed, what it actually does is make your vagina sooo sensitive and you feel everything so much more intense. I would also recommend going and buying a dildo/vibrator as then you can figure out on your own what you prefer and can then test it in the bedroom. My boyfriend and I incorporate it with sex. I also think that your health and well being plays a big impact on y our sex life, I work 7 days a week mon -fri (38 hours) in an office and fri sat at a strip club (20 hours) and 10 hours on sunday at a local beachside bar. The reason I do this is because I crashed my car and lost my license in a drink driving accident and my 24k debt is all I think about. I also think about travelling around the world with my boyfriend as we plan to leave in a year for oktoberfest 2013 in Germany. Live in London for a little while. Saving for this on top of money is hard! I am only 19 so for me to have all this on my plate has got to be affecting my sex life right? What I'm sayin is, light some insence, put on some relaxing tunes, some drops of 'on' and maybe put on a little costume and forget about all your worries for the next ((however long it takes)) I hope this works for you cause it doesn't always work for me... until you find the cure! Hang in there!
I have this problem. I've been with two men and both times it was like a chore. The only time I feel anything is with nipple stimulation and him going down on me. And even then, the orgasm doesn't feel 'amazing', and I have to be in a certain frame of mind to not push him away after a few seconds. He's endlessly patient with me, but I'd be happy if we never made love again.
Im a guy who always wants to have sex ... im 21 and sex just does not feel good i dont get what all the hype is about with it feeling so amazing its overrated
I do not enjoy sex either, but even more then that people would send me pics of people making love, and i would actually get sick if i saw a woman giving a man a blow job i deleted these photos. So i just do not know, sex is nothing to me.
Hi!
I'm a boy and never have any experience yet. However, in talking about sexual intercourse, I have no interest. Even masturbation, I don't have interest too! In the part of women. I don't feel like to have sex with them. But I'm straight! lol!! Honestly, I'm avoiding sex, masturbation, etc... But I love to love women, not to sex with women.. lol! Is there any problem to me? What do you think?
People should not feel down about not wanting to have sex. It's overrated and it's mostly men that pressure the women all the time. If the women doesn't spread het legs when hubby wants to, he get's frustrated and some guys even leave. Disgusting.
There is nothing you can do about it. If it's not medical, it's just the way you are wired. No viagra, no pills.. it's only gonne make it worse. Not being able to enjoy sex without pills is not ideal you know.
Girl/dude, don't be so angry. Calm your horses. There is nothing that can be done about it. If you don't enjoy sex then it's not gonna happen miraculously you know?! What do you expect, if you are a female and go to the gyno and he just doesn't find anything interior, exterior or hormonal than what CAN you do? Any of you thought about being a-sexual? No? Well look it up. Asexuality is a SPECTRUM. Some have a high libido, other a non-existent. Others can be turned on but can't act out on it,others enjoy sex but don't need it per sé. But to force yourself to be sexual is lying to yourself.
If you wanna have sex but don't enjoy it, maybe you are a-grey. Its also a spectrum in asexuality and it means you can have sex, get aroused but you don't exectly need to act on it/enjoy it.
There is no magical cure or pill for it.
i have this, it's horrible because however irritating sex can be it must also be shitty for them as they know you're not enjoying it. i also used to enjoy sex and never had this problem with my ex but for the last year and a half i've just had to fake it because i feel more awkward saying, "you know what all this stuff i used to enjoy is just sh*t now." i can only get properly turned on when drunk or high or whatever but then it's only shortlived so i stop feeling it half way through
I'm a 27 year old guy and I don't really get much out of sex either. I used to love it when I was younger, but now, if it's not someone I truly care about or someone I have a strong lust for, the act of sex is rather boring and tedious to me. I just find myself on top, humping away, day dreaming about what I'm going to do the next day lol. I don't really get it, but there's just no pleasure or fun there for me. I can orgasm no problem, but sex just doesn't seem as fun as it used to be...more of a task if you ask me. Not sure what happened that has made me feel this way, but sometimes I just couldn't care less if I have sex with a girl or not because it's more like a trip to the gym than a night out on the town
I am a guy and ever since the first time i had sex (15) i have never once enjoyed it, out of stress my friends would even try to help me out and ask me to "do it with them" there has not been 1 time i can honestily say i enjoyed any of it... however there was 1 girl i had, i love her to death, but the only reason i ever liked it with her, was the romantic part of it.. but here's where all of my ideas are thrown off... she was the only one i could ever make it past 5 mins with, and every time i came (i dont know what else to say)... i wouldnt go soft, we would always continue until it was hurting her too much... this parts not important but i always felt bad that it was hurting her, she gets no enjoyment out of it besides emotional (like me) and she would always beat up on herself... and if i asked her if she wanted to stop... she would say "no" and litterally bruises from my pelvis would be on her.... i could never be on top though, we tried that once and she litterally almost started crying, i cried for the next 3 days.... basicly questions are 1. why dont me and her enjoy it 2. why does it hurt her so much 3. why does she bleed every time we made love?