hi there i am a 23 year old lil lady and i also have no sex drive in my opinion i think its the way we are supposed to be due to the music we listen to the erotic shows we see have an impact on many people but for some reaso it does nothing for a small percentage have you ever thought you were asexual? I'm attracted to people mentally not physically thanks kelly
Im 16 years old and I started having sex when I was 14.. I know its kinda young but for the people I konw it isnt bad, Ive only had sex with my boyfriend so it isnt that bad. I know people are going to say Im too young to be worrying about this but it does bother me when my best friends are going on about how great sex is and orgasms.. And then my boyfriend gets upset when he cant pleasure me. I like being with him and the lead up to sex but then any sort of sexual act on him I find tedious and I hate him fingering me it makes me feel uncomfortable and I cant cope so I end up pushing him away and oral sex I feel nothing at all. Sex just hurts a little at penetration then just feels like nothing in some positions or overwhelming in others to the point where I push him away with in a few minutes. I dunno if its because Im too young or what but it really bothers me.
I am 30 years old. I got my wonderful child when i was 27. I love my husband but since we have a child. I dont enjoy sex anymore. It gives me a feeling of frustration to myself because i want that he will enjoy his life and he needs sex. I think thats the only thing my husband think when he sees me.
I am a 40-year-old guy that just don't like to have sex. I am married to a beautiful woman who has a very high sex drive and she just wants to do it everyday, all day long. I just don't like to have sex with her, just want to take care of her and show she is someone who is beautiful as a friend. I tried to watch pornographic flicks with her and I just don't get turned on, but I masturbated on it when I see another big, heavy-set bodacious woman when I am alone in a room. I guess I am not interested in my wife cause of her family just wants to get involved in our business.
The reason why I don't enjoy sex is that the pregnancy of the women when sex is involved (women just want to trap men for child support, dealing with money), drama like STDs and HIV/AIDS. I just want to wish that I want to live in this society, just want to die and disappear. It makes me real depressed when I hear about that and I just don't want to be around anybody. You just can not trust anyone in this society. My mother, right before she died, just told me that it just life, but I just wish that sex is obsolete, non-existent.
I don't really care much for sex. I guess I'm old-fashioned but I'm not in love, and don't fall easily. Masturbation is fast, free of risks and responsibilities, and I can fantasize about anyone from anytime etc. I know I don't want kids, nor do I want a relationship or to get married just because everyone else seems to think I should. Also, after sex (with or without a partner) it all seems so stupid. All the craving is gone, my thoughts clear, and all the effort put into getting sex seems foolish and wasteful. I can tell it's a hormonal trick to cause procreation. Seriously, is your partner so perfect for you that you wouldn't need sex? How many humans came from planned pregnancies? No insult intended. While my opinion may be different, you can't deny the truth. Besides, if the relationship doesn't merit all my heart, then it's just masturbation with a partner to me.
im a dude who has this problem as well. I have sexual urges and desires, but when i hate the feeling of masterbation and sex isnt much betterl My girlfriend is very sexual so she tries to do stuff with me and i -want- it and want it to feel good but within a minute i usually have to tell her to stop because it is that uncomfortable. To make matter worse, when she worked at me for half an hour once (the feeling was pretty unbearable) i thought i wasejaculate, and instead i peed. not sure if related but i feel like it might be.
why is it that only girls seem to post about this problem? ive been looking for other men dealing with sexual dysfunction/involuntary celebicy for a while and i dont get anything
I was also 14 when I started having sex. I am now 29. And not to make you depressed-- I still never once enjoyed sex. Everyone told me I would change when I got older. Nope. I get in the mood, but the act of sex does nothing for me. Nothing! I don't know if I have learned to accept it. I don't want to accept it. I feel like I'm missing out! People told me it's all just in my head. Or you didn't meet the right man yet. Others told me try sex toys. Hell no. I just want to enjoy being with my boyfriend in a normal way and be "normal" and enjoy sex. Maybe even have an orgasm. Some people do change with time. Not me. I'm still waiting. I'm not trying to be depressing - its just my story. Medically I'm fine. I have no clue. I have no religious beliefs or sexual abuse or repressed events that ever happened in my life.
I wish everyone on here would look up "asexuality".
Unless you have a medical condition then it's different. But asexuals make up 1 percent of the population - a small but notable number. Asexuals can indeed feel attraction, intimacy, love and all that jazz, but just don't respond to sex in the mainstream way. Asexuals simply don't experience sexual attraction/desire - that is a desire for sex.
Please read a bit more about it and consider if this is you... There are many informative sites out there, even dating sites for asexuals.
There are many guys and girls who do not enjoy sex.
If it's for no medical reason, then it's very likely that you are simply asexual. Please consider researching asexuality and you will learn all there is to know about it.
Asexuals are completely capable of feel love, intimacy, enjoy cuddling, and some even may get turned out, but do not enjoy, and have no sex-desire. After reading many of the responses, - The definition fits most the responses on here...
Some consider it another orientation, while others consider it a 'non-orientation'. Depending on your point of view. But read up about it, there are so many informative sites out there, even dating sites for asexuals.
I'd say you are a grey-asexual.
It's amazing that I have people who are going through the same stuff, but how is it fixed? I too love my partner with all my heart and soul. It tears me apart to see him try so hard to please me and nothing works. I don't enjoy sex, it's not painful but there's no desire or orgasm that happens when we are having sex. I also do feel like it's something that I just have to do instead of wanting to actually do it. It's scary because i'm only 18, i'm too young to be having these kind of problems. I want to be a housewife and a mother someday but how am I able to do that if I don't enjoy the act of sex? He's very understanding, but it kills me to see him so "unsure" of himself, when it's ME who actually has the issue with NO clue how to fix it.
I don't want to lose the best thing that's happened to me, so how do you tell them that you're sexually disfunctional and actually have them understand it? I don't want him to feel like he's not good enough, when the problem isn't with him it's with me?
I'm the same. I don't have a sex drive. Actually it is a chore, and one that I detest. I have even asked my husband to leave the marriage. Nothing about sex is beautiful. I like an occasionally kiss or hug. But that is it.
i had to laugh when you said sex was like going to the gym, lol i feel the same way, im 43 and single i try to date men and enjoy that part i just know that they will want sex and then i break up with them,i dont want to be alone but i dont know what to do, i thought that maybe i just didnt have chemistry and dated young men same thing i just dont like sex at all it agrivates me.