hi all, first I'm a man and I am 36 years old. I know I enjoy sex so much and I like making sex many times everyday if I can :-S . I had a negative look toward my wife who feels nothing while doing sex and also she doesn't ask for sex if I do not ask for it even for more than a month or even more. at the beginning I felt like she doesn't love me anymore or I thought like she was seeing someone else ? . I tried to talk to her to understand why we are at this situation and she also doesn't like to talk in this issue too. So until now I was thinking like she does not love me anymore. But thanks to you now I can understand that this is not only my problem and also I started to understand her from your comments. Therefore I will try every other way to make her change and I will let you know the result.
Honestly I think the problem is more psychic than sensorial. Just think of it for a while. If you go out in a long holiday to an island or a romantic place, I thing all your talks will change just because you are in a place that you think it gives you the necessary warm, charm and safety feeling. All this still my opinion hoping I’m wrong.
Honestly I think the problem is more psychic than sensorial. Just think of it for a while. If you go out in a long holiday to an island or a romantic place, I thing all your talks will change just because you are in a place that you think it gives you the necessary warm, charm and safety feeling. All this still my opinion hoping I’m wrong.
Hello Everybody!
I know this is a fairly old thread but I hope there are still some people around to read this.
Firstly i'd like to say just how immensely happy I am to have found this forum! You people are describing exactly how I feel!
I'm a 19yo male, i've had sex with two different people(including oral sex) and just oral sex from a third. I feel NOTHING. I get turned on, I want to have sex but when I "put it in" its like I can barely feel it. I went for an hour and a half last night, just thrusting away and I got absolutely no where. It's incredibly frustrating. My partner kept asking if I was getting close, but I wasn't.
I want to enjoy sex but it seems impossible for me to do so. I can masturbate to an orgasm without any problem but no one else has ever been able to make me orgasm.
I've spoken to my friends about this and they seem to think that either there is something wrong with my penis, or i'm asexual. They also suggested that my sex partners could all just be very bad in bed, but I know that's not the case.
I know this is a fairly old thread but I hope there are still some people around to read this.
Firstly i'd like to say just how immensely happy I am to have found this forum! You people are describing exactly how I feel!
I'm a 19yo male, i've had sex with two different people(including oral sex) and just oral sex from a third. I feel NOTHING. I get turned on, I want to have sex but when I "put it in" its like I can barely feel it. I went for an hour and a half last night, just thrusting away and I got absolutely no where. It's incredibly frustrating. My partner kept asking if I was getting close, but I wasn't.
I want to enjoy sex but it seems impossible for me to do so. I can masturbate to an orgasm without any problem but no one else has ever been able to make me orgasm.
I've spoken to my friends about this and they seem to think that either there is something wrong with my penis, or i'm asexual. They also suggested that my sex partners could all just be very bad in bed, but I know that's not the case.
See for me it is hard. I am on the other end. My husband has this type of issue. He has no desire to make love to me. He does it just to please me but knowing that he isn't enjoying it makes it hard for me to enjoy it. For him it isn't about trying a different position or about oral or anything like that. he just doesn't get anything out of sex at all. I wish someone could tell me how to help him enjoy it half as much as I do.
After looking through these posts, I would like to point out that the biggest problem here is people believing that there is something wrong with them for not enjoying sex. It's not a problem, and as such, there is no conclusion. For people who've had surgery or abusive partners, maybe it is an issue, but plenty of people just DON'T LIKE SEX. Does everyone like cooking, or sport? It's not something unnatural that you can cure, it's just a fact about you.
I don't like it at all, I've orgasmed too, so please stop saying 'If you'd just orgasm you'd like it'. I feel nothing from it, and to me it's just really boring. I explained to my partner before I became serious with him, and lo' and behold, he doesn't enjoy it either. We enjoy being close, and cuddling, we just don't need to have sex.
And for the people on here who are the partners of those who don't like sex, maybe you could learn to accept it, rather than continuously try to find ways to 'cure' them, or make them enjoy it. For some people it's just not happening.
Basically what I'm saying is stop worrying that you aren't normal and looking for ways to fix it, because there isn't anything to fix.
I don't like it at all, I've orgasmed too, so please stop saying 'If you'd just orgasm you'd like it'. I feel nothing from it, and to me it's just really boring. I explained to my partner before I became serious with him, and lo' and behold, he doesn't enjoy it either. We enjoy being close, and cuddling, we just don't need to have sex.
And for the people on here who are the partners of those who don't like sex, maybe you could learn to accept it, rather than continuously try to find ways to 'cure' them, or make them enjoy it. For some people it's just not happening.
Basically what I'm saying is stop worrying that you aren't normal and looking for ways to fix it, because there isn't anything to fix.
That may be the case for a lot of people. But some people, like me, do WANT to have sex. I get the urge to do it and I want to do it, i just don't get anything from it when I do. It's not that i'm uninterested in the entire concept, i just don't enjoy it when it gets down to it. That's a bit different to what you're describing I think.
I'm going to lay some truth on yous people, hate if you want! For those guys that say you can't feel it when you put it in.. Yous got small penises or yer girl hads her some really big penis before you! Have them learn some kiegals exercises! For yous women out there that hate or do not enjoy sex and only been with 1 man... Your man sucks in bed; sorry you got a bad one! Let him have sex with your girlfriend for a second opinion. I found alot of posts on here very offensive because these problems most of you are having are your own damn fault! Explore yourself and find what gets you off then apply that when you are gettin busy! Once more if you don't enjoy it, give someone else a shot!
I'm also 19. I've had 3 sexual partners, two of which weren't around long so they don't count. But with my ex... It also felt like a chore, like I HAD to do it to make him happy, and even more so cause he used to get pissy if he didn't get it. But anyway, yeah, I suppose the sensation I get from when my G-Spot is touched is ok, but it's nothing special. I've never had an orgasm, or even "cum" for that matter. And also, touching my clitoris gets me nowhere either. I get really jealous of my friends cause they're always going on about it. And they're aware of how I feel, but all I get from them is "It's a mental block, maybe you've just never had someone do it the right way." That's the biggest load of bull**** I've ever heard. You'd think after 3 men I'd have found someone who does it right. I mean, they obv knew what they were doing with their exes. What on earth do I do? My doctor's a b****, so I'm not going to her... And well, in Spain, they don't really have those places you can just go for advice on this sort of thing...
I'm 26 and have been married for almost 2 yrs. I also have the problem of not being able to climax with my husband. I've had many sexual partners over the years, before my husband and its always been the same story, i just cant seem to relax!! I have only ever climaxed by myself and have tried different things to try and help the problem such as, trying to stimulate myself during intercourse, having my partner blindfold me so i don't feel so on 'display', but no matter what i try i just can't seem to get there, i've gotten close but no cigar!! The worst part of my problem is that i've been lying about it, i've been faking it and telling my husband that i have come and that i'm satisfied. But i'm not!!! I would really appreciate some advice about how to break it to him and start a fresh. I really want to start having great sex and not have to lie about it anymore. :'(
I'm 20 and I have this problem too. My fiance tries really hard to get me into it and sometimes I "orgasm" but mostly I don't. Sex normally hurts and it feels like a chore. I love making out and cuddling. But my fiance thinks that I don't love him anymore. He's getting upset because he doesn't feel wanted. I don't know what to do...Someone help!
I am 18 and never been satisfied by a man i actully get more turned on kissing although i do get turned on eaisly, sex doesent hurt but sumtimes can feel like it pushing on a preasure point near my bladder. Y cant i feel anything if anyone has a simalar problem please write bk would be nice to know im not weird lol
I have been with the same guy for 7 years, i never really got any "pleasure" from intercourse but before i started a new birth control (depo provera) i atleast got aroused and i loved getting oral stimulation, but ever since i started the depo shot, my sex drive has gone way down. its a chore these days and it takes a long time to get me aroused. i did some research and found out that one of the side effects of the depo shot is in fact low sex drive. this might be one answer for some of you ladies, if your on a birth control maybe on of the ingredients could be messing with your sex drive. i haven't talked to a doctor or anything about this, so i'm not sure if there is a way to deflect that side effect...maybe one day us girls will get a fancy pill that makes sex feel AMAZING. but until that day...we just gotta keep the men happy because you know they enjoy it sooo much. and i guess they deserve that much :-)
Nadia - That's pretty much the same as me. It just feels weird.
Ugh, I hear you guys. I'm 19 and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. we have sex maybe once every two months, He get rock hard over just about anything, but i just dont enjoy sex, its hurts, and i dont get any pleasure at all out of it, and we have tried everything. fingering me, eating me out, and i just cant seem to enjoy any of it whats wrong with me?
i have the same problem i been with my boyfriend for 10 mos now i never had sex till i met him but i cant seem to ever have a orgsam with him he gets me trun on and every thing but when he goes in me i cant seem to come and it doest feel good at all
I thought I was completely alone! My faïence and I have sex at least once a week, but it is out of pure guilt. I fear that if i wait till im "in the mood" he will get sick of waiting. We lost our virginity's to each other, he is fine, but i feel "broken". I dont have a sex drive, its painful and it feels like a chore. I have never had an orgasm, and he feels like it is his fault.