Hi there
Sorry to hear about your problem
I was doing some gestalt therapy last year and I saw a person who had been abused have trouble in the area
im not saying it you but perhaps body dialoging might help a bit
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Sorry to hear about your problem
I was doing some gestalt therapy last year and I saw a person who had been abused have trouble in the area
im not saying it you but perhaps body dialoging might help a bit
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im exactly the same but im 16 :/ this is the second guy ive been with and the first time was quite painful.. i also dont really feel anything when we have sex except when i sit up because then it hurts ): i always thought there was somthing wrong with and it its actually really upsetting and frustrating for both of us.. is there anything we can do |:
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The tablets arrived well within the timeframe given. ..Documents are not necessary. Cheaply and quickly deliver. I am happy, so is my girlfriend.;). gd luck
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I could have written this myself. I too told my husband that I no longer enjoy sex, find it to be a huge chore, and am no longer going to put myself through the stress and anxiety of being sexual. His reaction? He is fine with it. He loves me, does not cheat on me, and takes care of his sexual needs on his own, in private.
I adore my husband for his understanding. He is 56 years old, and I am 49, so I realize our ages might have something to do with our happy, succesful, sex-free marriage. This might not works so well for younger couples.
I'm just glad to be free of the whole chore of sex. No more. What a relief!
I adore my husband for his understanding. He is 56 years old, and I am 49, so I realize our ages might have something to do with our happy, succesful, sex-free marriage. This might not works so well for younger couples.
I'm just glad to be free of the whole chore of sex. No more. What a relief!
i have this problem too ive only had sex with two guys but neither of them pleasured me and i dont understand y and people are saying foreplay is good to but idont enjoy that either and its annoying when people brag about how great there sex life is and i just cant reply :-(
I am 19 yeard old and I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He has been my only partner, but we have been having sex since about 3 months into our relationship. I am EXTREMELY comfortable with him sexually in the sense that I do not feel self-conscious when I take off my clothes because I know he finds me sexually attractive. We are very close emotionally and I have not had any out of the ordinary religous upbringing that might make me feel bad about sex. I am able to climax through CLITORAL stimulation both by oral sex and masturbation. My boyfriend is great...he is all about pleasing me and making sure I enjoy it. I do get turned on, however, my only problem is with penetration...it does ot feel good to me. No type of penetration has ever felt good to me whether it be through masturbating or through sex. It does not feel bad although it is sometimes ucomfortable when it is very deep. I have tried different positions and movements and rhythms and still not orgasm OR pleasure through penetration, ONLY through clitoral stimulation. What is wrong with me? I want to enjoy hving sex. Someone please help.
I am 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and we started having sex at the beginning of our relationship. He is great, always trying to please me. I feel very comfortable with him sexually and we are very close emotionally. I have been able to reach climaz through clitoral stimulation...both through oral sex and masturbation. The only problem is that when it comes to penetration, it is not enjoyable for me. It does not feel bad except for when he is in really deep...then it starts to feel slightly uncomfortable. I have never gotten any pleasure from any kind of penetration whenther through masturbation or sex. Thus, I don't enjoy the actual act of sex (involving penetration). Him performing oral sex on me or stimulating my clitoris is pretty much it for me. I have tried every kind of position, different movements...EVERYTHING! What is wrong with me? I want to enjoy sex and I want an orgasm! HELP
ok...so those last two were both from me...wasn't sure if the first one went through
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I wish it were that simple for me.
I'm 36, married 10 years and my husband and I have only been with each other. I do have orgasms, but they just aren't such a thrill to me since giving birth. I'm a SAHM and am tired all the time, suffer from frequent headaches the doc can't figure out, and I never want to have sex. It's like a chore to me also. I feel like it's unfair to me to have it, but unfair to him not to. And he's a pharm rep, and basically knows every doc within a 500 mile radius, so I'm hesitant to seek help. This is causing a major rift, and I'm clueless as to how to fix it.
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All of you women are crazy. your men are NOT going to stick around for this their whole lives. You need to learn to enjoy or learn to fake it but give it up. If you don't, and he doesn't stay don't say no one ever warned you.
The problem with most men is that they place way too much importance on sex. Here's a newsflash for you guys: Most women don't really like sex...especially women over 30. After the initial newness and excitement wears off, we DO fake it for awhile, but that gets really old.
So how about you guys start dealing with it, okay? Learn to satisfy your ridiculous sexual needs by masturbating, and leave us wives alone.
Lest you think I'm full of it...I'm happily married, and I do not have sex with my husband anymore. I told him the truth. It bores me, and it's a chore. I love him with every fiber of my being, and there is no other man I would ever want to be with. But I'm just dont with sex.
Well, he's still here. And he still loves me. And he does NOT cheat on me. He's a grown-up, he's realistic, and he understands, period.
I could have written this myself. I too told my husband that I no longer enjoy sex, find it to be a huge chore, and am no longer going to put myself through the stress and anxiety of being sexual. His reaction? He is fine with it. He loves me, does not cheat on me, and takes care of his sexual needs on his own, in private.
I adore my husband for his understanding. He is 56 years old, and I am 49, so I realize our ages might have something to do with our happy, succesful, sex-free marriage. This might not works so well for younger couples.
I'm just glad to be free of the whole chore of sex. No more. What a relief!
I wish it were that simple for me.
I'm 36, married 10 years and my husband and I have only been with each other. I do have orgasms, but they just aren't such a thrill to me since giving birth. I'm a SAHM and am tired all the time, suffer from frequent headaches the doc can't figure out, and I never want to have sex. It's like a chore to me also. I feel like it's unfair to me to have it, but unfair to him not to. And he's a pharm rep, and basically knows every doc within a 500 mile radius, so I'm hesitant to seek help. This is causing a major rift, and I'm clueless as to how to fix it.
If you are interested in increasing your libido there are safe nonprescription and prescription solutions (below), some of which have been proven in published studies to increase a woman’s sex drive. Just be aware that figuring out how to increase the female sex drive is complicated because the desire to make love is influenced by so many factors including physical, emotional, relationship satisfaction, and the setting you are in. Possible causes of low sex drive in women include stress or anxiety, medications (anti-depressants, birth control pills) complexity of health issues (Diabetes, MS, cancer) and fatigue.
Of course, you should talk with your doctor. But here is a list of possible steps you can take:
• Have your doctor check your thyroid function.
• Check out the side effects of any medications that you may be taking.
• Zestra (nonprescription)
Two placebo-controlled studies published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy showed that this blend of botanicals (including borage seed and evening primrose oils, Angelica root and vitamins C and E) provided a significant increase in arousal, desire, genital stimulation, ability to orgasm and pleasure. This topical oil also worked equally well on women using SSRI antidepressant medicines.
• Hormone Therapies (prescription only)
Localized estrogen therapy - Placing estrogen directly into the vagina soothes vaginal tissue, and allows the secretions necessary for comfortable sex. They are available as suppository tablets, creams, or "rings," which sit inside the vagina and give off small doses of the hormone over time.
Compounded testosterone cream - Some pharmacies that make medicine from scratch offer testosterone creams and gels, but you'll need a doctor’s prescription.
• Vitamin E (nonprescription)
When used locally in the vagina it can help rehydrate tissue and may possibly increase sensation.
Of course, you should talk with your doctor. But here is a list of possible steps you can take:
• Have your doctor check your thyroid function.
• Check out the side effects of any medications that you may be taking.
• Zestra (nonprescription)
Two placebo-controlled studies published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy showed that this blend of botanicals (including borage seed and evening primrose oils, Angelica root and vitamins C and E) provided a significant increase in arousal, desire, genital stimulation, ability to orgasm and pleasure. This topical oil also worked equally well on women using SSRI antidepressant medicines.
• Hormone Therapies (prescription only)
Localized estrogen therapy - Placing estrogen directly into the vagina soothes vaginal tissue, and allows the secretions necessary for comfortable sex. They are available as suppository tablets, creams, or "rings," which sit inside the vagina and give off small doses of the hormone over time.
Compounded testosterone cream - Some pharmacies that make medicine from scratch offer testosterone creams and gels, but you'll need a doctor’s prescription.
• Vitamin E (nonprescription)
When used locally in the vagina it can help rehydrate tissue and may possibly increase sensation.
Enough already!
I dont normally respond to forums. But this board just disturbed me so badly...
I can't believe my eyes with some of these comments that have been made. "Boring" husbands? Sexless marraiges? Hooray?" What are you dead?
My goodness. What has happened to my fellow sisters here! Have you any pride in your own sexuality at all? Any pride in the man you decided to married? It's women like this that are major contributors to why why men are afraid of seeking commitment, and cheat, and no longer believe in (or value) marriage. Your spouse in many cases is a product of you. If something is not working ... then that needs to be the focus. Not how your dried up, lazy, vagina doesn't seem to work!
Now look, it's one thing to have declining intrest, and want and have the desire to make it better. That's understandable. Because as woman with changing hormones I too know what's it like to feel less than intimate at times. But it's a TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING to speak as if "no sex marriages" are "ok" (like that's the way life should be) and that your husband should just "accept" it?
This is wrong. I mean no disrespect. But, golly I dont know who I pity more. You or the men that have to put up with you. This is criminal to your spouse and down-right cruel.
You should beg your mate not to leave you with this type of worthless thinking. Not the problem of sex dysfunction. But your attitude. No wonder you have no sexual desire. Your nothing but one big turn off!
If you truly want to just 'give-up' and 'give in' then fine. Go buy a dog. Not a man. You talk about loving your mates to "bits" No you don't. You dont know what love is. If you TRULY, TRULY, TRULY, loved him you would seek HELP and CORRECT the imbalance. instead of wasting another second of his life with you, and not with a real woman, who actually embraces being wanted.
To the 49 year old woman: your thinking is simply not normal, and certainly not, what God intended between 2 people in a strong relationship. "Sexless" marriages do not exist. It's almost a sin that your man puts up with you, and does not feel wanted by his own wife.
For the lady that said....... go masturbate? Are you kidding me? Excuse me? You talk about your mate as if he's some type worthless mut who doesn't deserve the feeling of a woman who mutually feels the same. Shame on you. How humuliating.
No real person with remotely any type of worth should ever, ever accept thier spouse thinks they are a bore, or sex with them, is some type of "chore. How can any man take a women seriously if she does not at least "try" to feel sexy, confident, and appreciates the true core of love, and closeness, and intimacy.
It's pathetic women like this..... that turn GOOD men BAD.... that give REAL females a bad name of being "frigid" and "frail" and "boring"...
Wake up golden girls! This isn't the 50's anymore. Men need to know we want it too. Were strong. We are powerful, and we deserve to explode like a cannon too. Sex is boring? Driving someone out of thier mind while thier eyes cross is boring? If that's boring ..... I'd sure like to know what you do for fun! (Oh I'm sorry. Let's pull out the quilts, sewing machines, get fat and bloated, while noone notices you, and your left to re-runs of all my children) Now THATS Boring! We blame men for being selfish. Blame. Blame. Blame. But yet we do absolutely nothing to communicate to them our needs. Thier not mind readers! Thier "trained" We need to tell them , better yet...... SHOW THEM.
Look grandma just because your pipes are clogged with cobwebs, and you refuse to get off your rocking chair and actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT (other than just torturing your loving partner)... does NOT mean the rest of us do too! And we want those men out there that desire and fantisize about us to know that!
Some of us women are actually "bored" of being "boring women" who just lays there like a bump on a log, and want to be introduced to the the amazing feeling of an orgasm too!
No marriage without sex is really strong. Period. For me sex with my husband seems like it keeps getting better after many years. I cant wait until he gets home now. We just wouldnt have the closeness we have if our sex life and new possibilities of exploration. I feel comfortable, and I feel I can release without anxiety.
Look there is no feeling like having a climax ladies. My husband is actually jeoulous of the type of orgasms I have! It's powerful, and it brings a connection, to your relationship like no other feeling on this earth! It creates such a bond, and I notice I get treated like a queen. The truth is, is no man can just give a women an orgasm. It's 50/50. The key is you have to bold enough to want it, and to imagine it, believe you deserve it, and it will happen IF YOU ALLOW IT. I had been taking this herb Damiana root Dong Quai extract with lots of simple B's and C's vites for about 2 weeks or so. I really think this helped to bring on a stronger urge. You almost cant help but to let your imagination run wild. This is the biggest key for me. The last thing you will be thinking of is the spots on the wall! So many of my own girlfriends are just toooo lazy now. But yet have the nerve to complain of tiredness and no sex drive. Sigh ...... I always hear "the kids and being tired. That's bs. Noone has time. You MAKE time.
It's how you respect eachother. In my opinion that's what real love is!
Anyhow, I used to be like this: "Oh honey, I'm tired... the kids ... work... blah... blah"[/i] This is fine on ocassion. But It will BACKFIRE if this becomes a crutch. You get out of your marriage what you put in - period.
The love of my life left me in my early twenties. He wanted to enjoy me a few times a week. Nothing major. I never made him feel special, and he put up with it for 4 years, UNTIL BOOM an affair. How could I even have the nerve to be shocked? He later admitted that it was just not the sex. It was her unique vision of what she believed a strong marriage should be.
I dont normally respond to forums. But this board just disturbed me so badly...
I can't believe my eyes with some of these comments that have been made. "Boring" husbands? Sexless marraiges? Hooray?" What are you dead?
My goodness. What has happened to my fellow sisters here! Have you any pride in your own sexuality at all? Any pride in the man you decided to married? It's women like this that are major contributors to why why men are afraid of seeking commitment, and cheat, and no longer believe in (or value) marriage. Your spouse in many cases is a product of you. If something is not working ... then that needs to be the focus. Not how your dried up, lazy, vagina doesn't seem to work!
Now look, it's one thing to have declining intrest, and want and have the desire to make it better. That's understandable. Because as woman with changing hormones I too know what's it like to feel less than intimate at times. But it's a TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING to speak as if "no sex marriages" are "ok" (like that's the way life should be) and that your husband should just "accept" it?
This is wrong. I mean no disrespect. But, golly I dont know who I pity more. You or the men that have to put up with you. This is criminal to your spouse and down-right cruel.
You should beg your mate not to leave you with this type of worthless thinking. Not the problem of sex dysfunction. But your attitude. No wonder you have no sexual desire. Your nothing but one big turn off!
If you truly want to just 'give-up' and 'give in' then fine. Go buy a dog. Not a man. You talk about loving your mates to "bits" No you don't. You dont know what love is. If you TRULY, TRULY, TRULY, loved him you would seek HELP and CORRECT the imbalance. instead of wasting another second of his life with you, and not with a real woman, who actually embraces being wanted.
To the 49 year old woman: your thinking is simply not normal, and certainly not, what God intended between 2 people in a strong relationship. "Sexless" marriages do not exist. It's almost a sin that your man puts up with you, and does not feel wanted by his own wife.
For the lady that said....... go masturbate? Are you kidding me? Excuse me? You talk about your mate as if he's some type worthless mut who doesn't deserve the feeling of a woman who mutually feels the same. Shame on you. How humuliating.
No real person with remotely any type of worth should ever, ever accept thier spouse thinks they are a bore, or sex with them, is some type of "chore. How can any man take a women seriously if she does not at least "try" to feel sexy, confident, and appreciates the true core of love, and closeness, and intimacy.
It's pathetic women like this..... that turn GOOD men BAD.... that give REAL females a bad name of being "frigid" and "frail" and "boring"...
Wake up golden girls! This isn't the 50's anymore. Men need to know we want it too. Were strong. We are powerful, and we deserve to explode like a cannon too. Sex is boring? Driving someone out of thier mind while thier eyes cross is boring? If that's boring ..... I'd sure like to know what you do for fun! (Oh I'm sorry. Let's pull out the quilts, sewing machines, get fat and bloated, while noone notices you, and your left to re-runs of all my children) Now THATS Boring! We blame men for being selfish. Blame. Blame. Blame. But yet we do absolutely nothing to communicate to them our needs. Thier not mind readers! Thier "trained" We need to tell them , better yet...... SHOW THEM.
Look grandma just because your pipes are clogged with cobwebs, and you refuse to get off your rocking chair and actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT (other than just torturing your loving partner)... does NOT mean the rest of us do too! And we want those men out there that desire and fantisize about us to know that!
Some of us women are actually "bored" of being "boring women" who just lays there like a bump on a log, and want to be introduced to the the amazing feeling of an orgasm too!
No marriage without sex is really strong. Period. For me sex with my husband seems like it keeps getting better after many years. I cant wait until he gets home now. We just wouldnt have the closeness we have if our sex life and new possibilities of exploration. I feel comfortable, and I feel I can release without anxiety.
Look there is no feeling like having a climax ladies. My husband is actually jeoulous of the type of orgasms I have! It's powerful, and it brings a connection, to your relationship like no other feeling on this earth! It creates such a bond, and I notice I get treated like a queen. The truth is, is no man can just give a women an orgasm. It's 50/50. The key is you have to bold enough to want it, and to imagine it, believe you deserve it, and it will happen IF YOU ALLOW IT. I had been taking this herb Damiana root Dong Quai extract with lots of simple B's and C's vites for about 2 weeks or so. I really think this helped to bring on a stronger urge. You almost cant help but to let your imagination run wild. This is the biggest key for me. The last thing you will be thinking of is the spots on the wall! So many of my own girlfriends are just toooo lazy now. But yet have the nerve to complain of tiredness and no sex drive. Sigh ...... I always hear "the kids and being tired. That's bs. Noone has time. You MAKE time.
It's how you respect eachother. In my opinion that's what real love is!
Anyhow, I used to be like this: "Oh honey, I'm tired... the kids ... work... blah... blah"[/i] This is fine on ocassion. But It will BACKFIRE if this becomes a crutch. You get out of your marriage what you put in - period.
The love of my life left me in my early twenties. He wanted to enjoy me a few times a week. Nothing major. I never made him feel special, and he put up with it for 4 years, UNTIL BOOM an affair. How could I even have the nerve to be shocked? He later admitted that it was just not the sex. It was her unique vision of what she believed a strong marriage should be.
This a clear cut case of low libido.Eat foods that enhance libido or go for any natural libido enhancer.
um, they don't "cut and slice" your nerves at all. that surgery has nothing to do with nerves, lol.
You have to figure out a way to have orgasms. Maybe your partner could give them to you by stimulating you with his fingers or his tongue. If that doesn’t work, maybe you have to learn to masturbate, if you don’t already know how. Once you learn how to become orgasmic, then you can teach him what you need, and your problems will be just about over. I also want to tell you that most women can’t have an orgasm from intercourse alone, so don’t expect that to happen. It might, but if it doesn’t it’s not a big deal. It might help you a lot to read up on sex, and especially on how women respond, so that you can put your own sexual activities in their proper context.
omg i dont enjoy sex either its been horrible for me as my bf is a nympho hes addicted to it and most of the time i feel to uncomfortable to do it and he always feels like i dont want him the lack of sex is ruining our relationship !! we havent been together tht long but i have never enjoyed sex tht much i just feel like ther is something wrong with me