All of you women, you beautiful women, that are being hit by men you love: it is time to leave them. Get away. Don't wait. There is NOTHING you can achieve by staying with them. NOTHING. There is EVERYTHING you can get by leaving.
You can't get peace of mind by leaving, but you can have PEACE.
You can't guarantee the safety of your children, but you can guarantee that YOU are not compromising the safety of your children.
That man that says he loves you, but hits you, is a liar. You know how a liar works. You have had to lie yourself.
What you have is Stockholm Syndrome.
Look it up on Google.
It's when a victim learns to sympathise with her abuser. It happens to both men and women.
And don't go thinking that just because you have your own crimes it makes their crimes okay. Have you ever heard the saying, "Two wrongs don't make a right"?
It's a true saying. It means, just because one person has done something wrong, and another person did another thing wrong, doesn't make the second person okay for what they did wrong.
An example of that is, if you yell at him and make him angry (first wrong), then he hits you in retaliation (second wrong) then IT IS WRONG (the wrong that isn't right).
Leave.the only difference between you and a battered wife is a piece of paper.leave him.his mum was probably beaten all the time by his dad so he thinks its okay.
My husband sometimes hits me, and drags me by the hair. It's sometimes on the face, but usually always the back, because I'm crying and cowering from him when he shouts at me. It starts as an argument, then he gets too angry and maybe I start crying and he gets worse, and hits me. I have panic attacks and start screaming. Or sometimes he drags across the floor me by my hair or arms. This evening he did this, I was trying to cook dinner and he kept badgering me to show him something on the computer and I walked out to continue dinner, and he followed, grabbing hold of my wrists and my hair and dragging me across the kitchen floor despite me screaming a him to stop. He eventually let me go in the hall and then covered my mouth telling me to shut up so the neighbours wouldn't call the police again. I was so upset, but I got up and walked off. He came in a few minutes later and started saying how it was my fault as I was not listening to him.
It doesn't happen very often, once very few months, and most of the time he is wonderful - he helps with the chores, is kind and loving and supports me in my career, but when it does happen it makes me want to leave him and wonder why I stay with him, and I am scared he will really hurt me one day. He is very strong and I couldn't stop him if he pinned me down or if he wanted to kill me.
When he does it he doesn't apologise afterwards, or if he does he just puts the blame on me saying that I was doing something to wind him up. I have sometimes hit him in anger, but I'm not that strong and it makes no impact.
wow! I thought I am the only one who has that feeling> I never thought that there are women like me that has been a punching bag of husbands but I think the difference is that I don't have a place to go to or turn on to someone because I don't have family and besides my husband won't let me see my kids if I left him. God! I am so tired of him getting mad at me every single day and sometimes I don't even know why. He doesn't even care if he hits me in front of the kids plus he doesn't have a job I am so tired of my life being like this sometimes I even think that it would be best if I die...
c if this beating continues itwill be very harmful in future..how many chance will u give ha...take a right decision nw...
My situation is exactly same except I have a kid. So many times, I thought of the separation but due to my kid only I couldn't take any hard decision. But now I think, I have to take decision for the better future of my kid.
YES WE DO HAVE THE SAME CASE
YES WE DO HAVE THE SAME CASE
Hi,
I don't know how to tell someone.But, I had same situation We are 1 nd 1/2 yrs married couple, it was love marriage he was basically very cum men. but after we moved in after marriage, I saw same so bad anger of him.he get angry any time and using some bad stuff about my family and me and if I reply back or he misheard something he start hitting e. 2 days back he hit my head to wall and I still have the pain.i always cry or said sorry after that I have no idea how to deal with it.please help me.I really love him.Not financially strong
PC
I feel for you . It might be the culture. RUN before it is too late. You can find someone else. Find AMerican. Watch out if he does not have a green card. Cause what happened to me can happen to you. Take care.
NO leave . Dont tell him in person. just save money and leave. skip town.
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you but you must get out of this unhealthy relationship because no one should ever live their life that way and he is not your prince charming and you deserve a real Prince Charming and he is out there sooooo please don't s settle for this mean guy he needs help and he needs to want to get help and you need to lead your life into happiness. I been in your shoes and after I left my ex a week a later I found my husband and now we have a beautiful daughter and I'm so happy and thankful for my family that just to even think what if..I actually stayed with my ex???? what a horrible sad life I would be living in. So please I hope you make the right decision cause you deserve it! Love, (Cat)
yea there are lot's of us i have been with my boyfriend for 8 years now it started in arguments that was pointless.in the begining it was just little things now i have had bumps on my head moved i and out and now because i put my self in a situation of being full time worker come home have my 3 year old and be upset because i wan't to be loved.the dishes are olny done in mist of arguments.it is like he is the wife and i am the husband.sitting here typeing this with my black eye hurts my soul.knowing he did this..now i have to work like this....i think why don't he love me more.why can't i move on......it get hard when there are kids in the picture .but after my boyfirend hit me in the eye my son came to me and i looked at himand he then punched my eye playing with me....
I am in this situation - we usually have a loving relationship, he works very hard for us, and also is a great father who is both fun and kind. However, whenever we argue, he very quickly gets very angry and arrogant. He threatens violence, and often it happens. Never a punch, but a hard slap or a shove. Sometimes he has pulled me by my hair. He has burst my eardrum and my fingers are sore from a shove this afternoon which meant I landed awkwardly on my hand. It means I have no voice because I am so scared of what he could do, particularly if the kids are around. It means I apologise, do my best to smooth things over, cry in private and wonder what on earth I am doing. It means am that woman who doesn't leave for the sake of her kids.